My boyfriend tells me that he's horny but refuses to masturbate?

[Anonymous]

Ok, so my boyfriend and I haven't been able to see each other for almost two months now and I won't be able to until the end of this month. So of course, that means that we haven't been able to have sex. He always tells me when he's horny but when I suggest that he should masturbate, he says that he doesn't want to because he only wants me to pleasure him. I don't understand it honestly. It's going to be damn near three months without sex and he refuses to masturbate. Is this a normal thing with guys? When you're with a girl you love very much you only want her to bring you pleasure to the point where you deny yourself from pleasure altogether? What is his reasoning behind this?

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's building it up so that when he sees you, he'll ravage you lol. But some guys might find masturbation to be less fulfilling or that they just can't come from it. According to one guy I dated, he said he can't relax enough to make himself come when he masturbates. I can neither validate or deny that statement.

[Kitastrox]

It's normal for myself since my boyfriend does/says the same thing.

"Why masturbate when you have a beautiful girlfriend to help you out?"

Sounds weird but I appreciate it.

Besides, every person is different in their opinion or view on masturbation. Nothing can be considered normal anyways.

[Bethany94]

My boyfriend masturbated three times the other day because we haven't seen each other in two months and he was really horny. He masturbates like every day. We both can't wait to be with each other, but we're not denying ourselves anything. I don't understand what your boyfriend is doing.

[Pseudofailure]

Doesn't really seem normal to me, but whatever floats his boat. If there was any specific reasoning behind this—this is just speculation, I have no reason beyond my own guess to believe this is true—then I'd put my money on this being some kind of ploy to guilt you sexting him or something.

[clashcity22]

It's not normal. He's trying to give you a reason to get to together to have sex is all. Sounds like a jerk to me, but that's not my place.

[scnbabe89]

Maybe he wants to have phone sex with you or you guys can do stuff on web cam.

[skinandbones]

lmao this screams CHALLENGE to me.

[gingerme1]

Better than a guy that masturbates before a sex session...that kills!

[Anonymous]

Couldn't you talk him into cyber-sex of some form? It's a form of simultaneous masturbation, and anyway involves the two of you.

[Anonymous]

Normal? No. It's harmless though. His reasoning is his own and we can't guess. Possible reasoning would be shame or repulsion at the notion or it's incorporated media.