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I caught my boyfriend letting his friends spy on us during sex.

My boyfriend and I had a pool party at our house we were all drinking having a good time and swimming in our pool. My boyfriend is really into trying to show my boobs off to his friends, he is always grabbing and squeezing them right in front of everyone even when I'm in my bikini. I am pretty sure I am his first girlfriend that has large boobs and he seems to be addicted to them He was a bit drunk and I did not want to ruin the mood so I just politely asked him to stop doing that and he did stop. I had a bit too much to drink that night so I went into my room and lay down on my bed about an hour later my boyfriend came into the room got on top of me and started kissing me. I asked him where everybody was and he said everyone had already left. We started making out on top of the covers he took my bikini off and started giving me oral sex, I then went down on him for about five minutes and then climbed on top of him. The lights in our room were on and I noticed that our blinds on the window were open. I did not really think much of it because our Windows face the backyard and the backyard is fenced in so our neighbors cannot see, I was also under the impression that everyone had already left the house. All you could see looking out the window was our reflection because our lights were on. I was riding my boyfriend facing the window for about 15 minutes I was really getting into it because it felt really good. That is my boyfriend's favorite position because he just lays back and watches my boobs bounce up and down. After about 15 minutes of riding him he got on top of me for just a minute and then we got into the doggy style position. We were in this position for a while when I happened to look at the window and I saw a flame from a lighter outside the window then you could see the amber on the end of the cigarette. I quickly jumped up turn the lights off and saw four of my boyfriend's friends looking in the window. They ran around the side of the house and left in their trucks. I was so mad I asked my boyfriend why they were there and he said they dared him to do it. I was so mad I cursed my boyfriend out and left the house and went and stayed with my friend. I have not called my boyfriend yet you try to call me several times but I have not answered. I do love him and I don't want to break up but I can't have someone that treats me like this. What am I supposed to do in this situation I've never been faced with something like this?
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Now I see why he was asking me to be loud for him. When we first started he whispered in my ear for me to be loud for him. So mainly when I was on top of him I was moaning really loud and talking very dirty to him squeezing my boobs together for him. Now I realize it was all just a show for his friends to hear me moaning and watch me play with my boobs. I feel so hurt and violated
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Most Helpful Guys

  • 1. He was lying about 'friends daring him' - it's something he likes doing from the way you say he plays with your boobs when they are around

    2. He may be into the guy/boy thing where he likes showing off his woman which in turn turns him on

    3. He may be cuckold

    4. He may be fantasizing a gang bang on you with his friends

    Everything else is OK as long as he had let you into it and told you that this is what he wants. Since he hasn't told you any such thing but made you an object of show off to his friends, he's probably just fulfilling his ego in some contorted manner (common among teens and younger guys) which clearly indicates disrespect not only towards you and womanhood on the whole but also absolute disregard for another human being.

    After all this I am unsure what do you love him for (I don't mean to be intrusive)

  • i think your boyfriend is a douche bag and doesn't deserve you. here's my number... No but seriously it sounds like he's trying impress his friends with you and make himself more popular with his friends. if your boobs are as big as you say then yeah his friends are drooling over them and he likes all the attention he's getting because of you and your boobs.

Most Helpful Girls

  • This is horrible.

    He broke the trust you and him have together.

    If this were me I wouldn't talk to him for a good while and wouldn't put out either.

    He needs to gather everyone together and make a public apology.

    Even that couldn't make up for it,

    It was a real jerk move.

    Distance yourself so he can reflect on his behavior, this will make

    him feel more guilty

    I am sure he will never do this again seeing your reaction.

  • I think you really need to dump him. That's extremely disrespectful. How can you be with someone who doesn't care about your feelings? How can you be with someone who betrayed your trust so many times?

    You may love him but it's obvious that he doesn't.

    You need to be strong and break-up with him.

  • even if you were both drunk off your asses (which it sounds like you werent that drunk) he treated you like crap! I know its tough but I think you should break up. he clearly doesn't respect you enough and now you can never trust him again.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Sorry I didn't read the whole thing but this guy is a real jerk please break up with him!

  • He is a liar...dump him

    • Are you kidding? These are the type of women always choose.

  • It sounds like you are dating a manchild! I'd dump his ass. Unless you're into being watched by a group of his friends.

  • Think it's time to break up.

  • I can't believe you're still asking and trying to consider staying with this scum! Id be furious nobody watched without recording a bit w their phone

  • Your boyfriend is a douche

  • There's also a good chance it got recorded, so you should really take that into consideration as a major violation if you think about getting back together with him.

  • very immature of him

  • I think he's a jerk... that sums up my answer.

  • this look like troll, I would never do this to my girlfriend, has no logic

  • chill out. it's not that big a deal. it's not like the watched him give you a facial or something

    • Wow thanks for your sincere help

    • np

  • Leave the guy

  • Easy! Break up with him, why would you want a guy like that in your life!

  • Wow, that was a major douche move on his part. I'd never do that to a girl. And it doesn't just seem like just a one time thing, you said that he tries to grab your boobs in front of his friends. I'd dump him if I were you. You deserve better than that.

  • i think that's a giveaway sign that it's time to break things off. It sounds like you're just a piece of ass to him.

  • He has no respect for you and does not love you. You should leave him and find somebody that does want to fall in love with you! A person that is willing to show his girls body parts to his friends does not think likely of your brains!

  • Break up! a man who can be that easily influenced by his friends and can easily betray your trust and respect is not one you want around! He sounds immature, and disrespectful! If my boyfriend did that I don't think I could trust him again! it makes you wonder what else he's done in the past without you knowing!

  • i know it hurts, but you don't want someone that treats you like that. you deserve better.

  • If you have any tough brothers/cousins/uncles now is the time to have them jump him. This man has no respect for you and does not deserve a relationship with you. If you ever have sex with him again you are a fool because he showed you what he was about the moment he did that. Not trying to make you feel worse, but you better hope nobody was videotaping that.

  • Sounds like your a temporary piece.

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