How to get my boyfriend to know I'm horny without telling him.

[Anonymous]

I have stared at my ex bf's and they say you better stop or your going to get into trouble but when I stare at my boyfriend he just smiles and says what. I try to put my hand on his thigh and squeezing while kissing him on his cheek but he just moves my hand or laughs and says "what are you doing?" I try mentioning how hot it is and I can't wait to get naked but he just sits there And starts fanning me. When we get home he goes right to sleep! I tried talking to him about it but he says to just come out and say it but is it wrong I feel I like to flirt and saying it devalues it and makes me feel trampy he is the only man I have ever had sex with but he is awkward and dense when it comes to advances and I end up feeling frustrated and I sometimes get a little pissy and can't understand why when he doesn't get it. How can I convey to him I want him and get him to take action and control without verbally saying it how can I connect with him? I don't want to be drab and boring and directly say it that's a turn off kills me completely and I end up pissy when I just say it Why do I get so aggravated?

[kheserthorpe]

I call bullsh*t.

Yes, women can be too subtle. Yes, you can come right out and say it.

But you ARE being obvious enough. Saying "I want to get naked' is obvious enough. Squeezing his thigh and kissing him so that he moves it and says 'what are you doing' is obvious enough. You are initiating, he IS shooting you down.

Why do you get aggravated? You're being rejected.

Why? Because he has a low sex drive.

If you were married, and more likely male, I'd tell you to initiate directly till you actually get a 'no'. Hell, maybe even if unmarried. Some women like to say 'what are you doing what are you doing you're so naughty' and play the innocent naive girl. If that works for both parties, fine.

In your case? Just dump his ass. Unless you like being dominant and he's submissive not low sex drive. But if that were the case, you wouldn't be asking this question.

As you said, most of your ex boyfriend would go off the look alone.

An average, though -clueless- guy might not know from the look, but hell, would be turning into your kiss and trying to move his d*** closer to your hand when it was on his thigh.

You don't need to live like this.

[theblondeguy]

well it sounds like you boyfriend either doesn't get it or doesn't want to put in the effort to flirt back either way I personally think you should literally just go up to him wen you guys have time alone and explain exactly what you explained here ...then you might have to explain to him tht wen you do certain things tht means you want sex so thts how hell know I mean idu why he won't do tht with you its usually awesome to flirt about sex with gfs like EVERY guy I know does tht sh*t alllll the time

and if he says tht you should just ask him be like it turns me off and ruins the mood...and if he doesn't at least try after tht I don't know what you should do then... :/

[Asker]

That's what I was thinking like everyone flirts its so much fun and I can't explain it it makes you feel aroused but I'm his first girlfriend and he says "I'm socially awkward" or "flirting is out of character for me" Then I wonder if something is wrong with me because we go so long not flirting I feel like a horn bag and get cranky at him because he doesn't reciprocate the only way we have sex is if he just makes out and then gets on top that's it. I feel 60 and I'm only 21

[theblondeguy]

well thts why he's sh*tty at it because your his first...hes had no practice AT ALL you should sit him down t your house or whatever and explain the above then tell him tht you and him are gonna practice lol he's just a bit scared and doesn't want to seem stupid you basically putting him on the spot and no one likes tht...practice with him first...then eventually if he says yes to the practice and gets comfortable with flirting ul be able to drop the hints you explained and hell pick um up...

[Asker]

(: okay thank you so much I didn't realize I was putting him on the spot ! I feel so bad now I will talk to him I thought mayb we just weren't compatible or didn't have any chemistry and I wld have to just say it from now on but I never thought I cld practice with him great idea ! I hope he agrees to it Mayb he will tell me some hints too

[theblondeguy]

well you're very welcome and best of luck to both of you :D

[theblondeguy]

thank you very much =D

[Stacyzee]

You are sending all of the right messages, but he declines because he isn't used to a girl doing this. He doesn't know how to handle it.

I agree, If you aren't getting the reaction out of him that you want you need to take charge.

Keep flirting with him.

Rub on him and then unzip his pants and start giving him oral.

Get on top of him if you have to.

I know being in charge isn't you but sometimes you have to take on this role especially when your partner isn't giving any feedback.

Not all guys are aggressive and great at carrying things out.

[A_20Chick]

:) I sit next to my husband and kiss his ear and start touching his leg and I get closer and closer to his D***

[douride2]

Most guys don't take subtle hints you have to come right out & tell them what you want.

[sammysamson84]

get used to guy-subtility ... the subtility of a baseball bat ...

if he does not get a subtile hint, it can either be that he really does not understand, or that he does not want ...

i suggest making a game out of that: whenever he does not get a hint, start over by leaving the room, reentering the room and saying/doing the exact same thing for a second time ...

if he doesn't get it this time, go for guy-subtility ... knock him out and drag him to the bed ...

ok, seriously: let him know that he lacks subtility ... it may seem a bit wrong but if he does not get the hint by himself, throw all subtility overboard and say something like "you ... me ... that bed over there ... do you need a written invitation?"

if he does not want, he'll probably tell you ... otherwise you will need to do this once or twice, until he learns what a hint is ...

[Tractorbeam]

Maybe he's just been drinking too much flouridated water,and it's killed his sex drive.Maybe he needs vitamin suppliments and more exercise.Is he on any sort of medication?Some medications can lower sex-drive.

At his age,he should have almost endless sex-drive and a healthy interest in it.I'm sure he knows what you're hinting at.It won't get better as he gets older and less fit.

This is not doing you any good,physically or emotionally.If he can't get into condition and have a healthy sex-drive,you'd be better off to find someone else.

[blackkid4]

"I have stared at my ex bf's and they say you better stop or your going to get into trouble but when I stare at my boyfriend he just smiles and says what."

Priceless.

Just figure out his trigger and then manipulate it.

[femininalphamale]

other than being honest with him dress up in short tight clothes and put makeup wear sprayon and act extra nice and extra feminine and he should initiate sex more.