I need some tips on being on top

[Anonymous]

I lost my virginity this year in may. I've always wanted to try being on top but I have a long torso and short legs, from my hip bones to the floor it's 3ft. I tried straddling him to give him a back massage but since my legs are so short it just hurts and is uncomfortable. I tried being on top once for sex but couldn't move much because with having my legs being stretched out to straddle him it's not easy to move about. I'm wondering what are some tips that would help. I've only tried it once an I'm not even really sure what to do so any tips on any part of it would be helpful.

[MrOracle]

"Girl on top" is actually a number of different positions, all of which use different muscles and give different sensations. Traditional "cowgirl" is him laying flat and you sitting straight up, 90 degrees from him. But you can also be on top with your body forward, so you're in a more doggy-style position on top of him, kind of like Missionary if you rolled over. You can also have him on a chair or on the couch, so his head is up, and you're leaning forward at a 45 degree angle, which will usually put your boobs in his face. Or, you can be in Cowgirl and lean back (try holding hands, to have him help hold you up). You can experiment with rolling your hips instead of bouncing, or having him thrust from underneath you.

Oh, and you can't forget reverse cowgirl, which again can be done with you sitting straight up, leaning forward, or leaning back.

All of these variations allow you to do different things with your legs.

Most girls doing cowgirl variations have to switch position variations a lot, because after a minute or two, most girls' legs are tired. P*rn stars typically do a LOT of leg exercises at the gym to be able to go in these positions for longer, as that's usually their biggest physical challenge. Most girls aren't going to be able to do one cowgirl variation for nearly as long, so they switch up a lot. That's normal and totally fine.

The bottom line is: do whatever works for you. Every couple is different, and they have to find the positions and techniques that work best for them. Don't be afraid to ask your guy for help, or to grab his hands and put them where you want them, or hold on to them, or whatever. Guys like it when girls take a bit of initiative and make their desires known.

[lericah]

For the massage just nestle between his legs. For sex on top maybe try to do more 69 or similar styles where you would be straddling his head or laying on him

[Anonymous]

If cowgirl position doesn't feel right for you then don't force it. You obviously want a little bit more variety in your sex life which is great and your guy will appreciate the fact that you care so much :) There are sites out there that can give you a lot of inspiration link If you find it uncomfortable being on top I'm sure you'll be able to find something on here that will be great for you :)

[katiesmuff]

Maybe if you start easy and keep working at it your muscles will adapt and make it more comfortable just as any stretching exercise works. Give it a try and good luck.

[Asker]

I'm very flexible, did dance ad cheer leading for 12 years it's just like I don't know what to do once I'm on top. My legs don't allow an up and down movement so what else can you do.

[katiesmuff]

You could try once you set yourself down on his penis just sliding back and forth and around for stimulation or this next one gets tiring very quickly but squatting with feet flat on bed or floor sliding up and down on his shaft. If it is not fun forget the position and go for the ones that work for the both of you.

[Anonymous]

Try missionary position or doggy style.