Are you likely to be more freaky when you have casual sex or in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Like you have a friends with benefits are you open to try a lot of kinky, freaky, dirty, etc stuff and loose totally control, because it doesn't matter that much, what he or she is thinking afterward or can you only loose control when you have a sexual relation based on trust? Currently I am just having casual sex and totally into kinky/rough sex. So when he spanks me or whatever I am not concerned if it affects our relation in real life. We have fun for that moment, we hang out afterward but when I leave I don't have to deal with the thouht if he might have been freaked out, by certain things I asked him to do. Did it ever happen to you, that you asked your partner to do something in bed and he or she freaked out and it affected your sexual relation afterward in a negative way?

[Stacyzee]

In a relationship.

During casual sex I usually think I am not the only one and am a bit more paranoid about catching an std.

I won't let the guy perform oral on me.

I will only give him oral if he is wearing a condom, same goes for sex.

I do explore with him but usually there is a limit to my exploration during casual sex.

[cun7n1nja]

A little bit of both, I guess. In a relationship, I open up more and feel more free to express myself sexually. When it's casual, I'm still pretty open because I don't care as much what the person thinks of me outside of the bedroom, lol. I like MikeK's answer.

[katiesmuff]

I can't see where there would be a tremendous difference if you are a freaky type person as I am. I'd try different stuff with a first time f*ck as easily as I would with a person I've been f*cking for a long period of time.

[Anonymous]

Good question. I would say more likely to dive in there with a relationship but more likely to travel the hershey highway with a casual encounter. And all this depends on whom I am with at the time and how freaky she is. I am most certainly a freak in bed.

[rabbit3891]

Either way. I'm a freak, and for something to be serious it has to be casual first, and I will casually let them know I'm a freak. lol

[Asker]

does this work? Going from casual to serious?

[rabbit3891]

Obviously. Who gets into a serious relationship when they first meet someone?

[Asker]

oh I understood it in a different way...

[MissConfused93]

Relationship for sure.

[blackkid4]

Probably with someone I'm consistent with. Also there was no long-standing negativity; it was awkward, but I'm amazing, so that just faded to dark.

[MikeK]

Good question...

Hard to say - Maybe both...

For casual sex, you can let your sexual appetite run amok because you don't have to worry about keeping the girl you're with...

On the other hand, if you're going to be in a long term relationship, you'll be doing yourself a real disservice if your partner doesn't know what turns you on ;)

[Asker]

totally agree with you...

[MikeK]

The purpose of a long-term relationship is NOT to freak the person out... ;)

[Asker]

yes but consider you may have a very sweet caring girlfriend and ask her if you can try some freaky stuff and she is just not with it...totally dilemma

[MikeK]

Oh absolutely... and while I wouldn't impose my twisted fetishes upon her, she'd at least have to accept me getting a vicarious thrill in other ways (I.E. p*rn)

[COCOCHANEL]

i don't have casual sex so it only happens in a relationship.

[tiredofwaiting]

Nope only whilst I am in a committed relationship.

[Anonymous]

Casual sex. Nothing is at stake.

[Anonymous]

Probably long term relationship

[Anonymous]

Relationship, because I know them more.

[Anonymous]

relationship, I know that person loves me so I can let my full freak out and they won't think any less of me.