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My boyfriend had a one-night stand... what should I do?

My boyfriend of 5 years had a one night stand last night. We got into a fight and I can tell I hurt his feelings. He stormed out and I felt guilty because I knew what I said was wrong. Well today, he came storming in the apartment telling me that he had a one night stand, he was crying his eyes out. We lost our virginity to each other and have never done things with anyone else. He had sex with a girl who's been trying to be with him for a long time... that killed me. I cried like crazy and he keeps apologizing and crying all over me. He keeps telling me how much he loves me, and I'm sure he does, as I love him. But, it hurts too much.. I haven't spoken to him. What should I do?
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Thank you all for your understanding words, I've decided to leave him and focus on college in September at UCLA...
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It's hard to think about this but you need to move on. He may be sorry but it honestly sounds like he cheated just to hurt you. Seriously think about it, do you wanna worry that every time you two argue he's gonna go out and cheat on you. Even worse, every time he gets emotional hurt he feels the need to emotional gut/hurt you?

    If you take him back you are very likely in for an even more hurtful ending.He may still love you very much but in this case non of that matters. Think of the couples in love that constantly hurt each other. Good news is you're young and you'll heal from all this.

  • You gotta leave him. You're under 18, and to be totally honest this relationship wasn't meant to last anyways. But most importantly, I highly subscribe to the idea that "you teach people how to treat you", and obviously he's just not good enough for you.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Regardless of what your fight was about, no fight, whether it be over him refusing to pass the salt, or ww3 breaking out, someone who says they love you would NEVER cheat on you. Especially with a girl who he knew it would hurt you even worse if he did it with her. Dump his sorry butt, and don't take him back even if he begs on his knees. If you keep him, he'll see it as "Oh no matter what I do she won't leave me." Don't be someone's doormat. You are a human being who deserves to be treated with respect. Get rid of this cheating loser.

  • If you're strong enough to let go and move on, do it. This shows that he has the ability to cheat when you guys aren't getting along well. If you still want him, consider taking a break so you can have things figured out. Whether you want to forgive him or leave him, you need to think it through.

  • No question here! It's time to move on and get rid of him. Any guy who would have a ONS on a whim just because of a little tiff with his girlfriend will only get worse in the future. He has no morals and will cheat again and you do not need that.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Forgiveness is a key.

  • Boyfriend means practice. Do your feelings feel real? He is free to do as he pleases and you see he did that. Now if he cared about you, he would have never cheated on you but most important he would have not wanted you to know and feel bad.

    What is worst him cheating or running home to make you feel like garbage?

    He played with your heart for practice.

    You may think you have options but you don't. Turn the page.

    Good luck,

  • He f*cked another girl because you guys had a FIGHT?

    Christ, does no one understand the concept of loyalty anymore?

  • Leave him. Sorry or not he cheated. Having a fight is NO reason. And there's no guarantee he won't do it again.

  • Tell him that you just can't accept a lover who cheats. And leave him. You don't deserve someone who cheats behind your back no matter if they tell you later or not. Cheating is cheating, and it is unacceptable.

  • If you can't trust him you can't be with him.

  • I think you need to break up.

  • I think you need to leave him. Cheating is never acceptable.

  • Geez I feel your pain I've been w my boyfriend for 5 yrs. & something like this would be so devastating...

  • Dump his ass. I've kicked every(all one of them) girlfriend who's ever cheated on me to the curb so fast it made their heads spin. Being angry or hurt is not an excuse for infidelity.

  • well, you need to admit responsibility and accept that it's your fault he cheated on him. you were out of line during the fight, and he punished you according by having sex with that girl. next time choose your words more carefully, and guys won't cheat on you

    • I get what I said was out of line, but it wasn't big enough for him to have done that. That doesn't make what he did okay, and I'm the first to admit when I'm wrong, but I wasn't wrong enough for him to have cheated on me. I didn't get punished accordingly, douche.

    • And here we have, ladies and gents, a man who considers cheating an appropriate method of evening the scores after an argument. It's her fault? I'm willing to bet that if you are in a relationship, you are emotionally abusive, and date probably a total sweetheart. But, instead of truly appreciating her, you would take her love for you for granted. You sir, are a low life with no sense of integrity. Good day.

    • Preach, sister

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  • time is the cure of everything... just try to be relax...

  • Get rid of the guy

  • It's time to leave him

    focus on other things so you can keep your mind off of him

  • Get rid of him. Do you really want to be with someone that will do that to you?

    Plus, every time you two have an argument, this incident will be in the back of your mind. Cut him loose and get a better guy.

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