What are your view on sex before marriage

[Anonymous]

Do you think it is right to wait for marriage to have sex with Mr Right. Or is it okay to have sex before marriage. Personally I'd say wait or marriage because the meaning of it is king to be more significant. After all patience is virtues. Yes my morals and cultural views have influenced this mindset and decision I know but I will belie I'd be the type of person to hold on till marriage before having sex even if I wasn't influenced by my religion. That's not to say many people adhere to the religious views many Muslims have sex before marriage too.

[HandsomeRaj]

I'd normally answer that in two words while still respecting everyone's thoughts and feelings - OVERRATED MISUNDERSTOOD

Marriage means accepting responsibility. An institution created by society to ensure people take up their responsibilities and not just have sex, get women preg, women dump the kid, take off etc. Sex is something that is ordained by nature. Animals don't need the institution of marriage to keep them together or rear children. They follow the way nature's made and granted them.

We humans are able to think which is why we don't have seasons for mating etc and which is also why we can fulfill our pleasure and then forget the responsibility. Which is why those who were responsible created society, religion etc.

If society meant that there should be no sex before marriage then we'd never get those feelings and urges at all :)

End of the day it's about self control and realizing one's own responsibilities.

[Anonymous]

I waited till marriage and it was definitely worth it. I wasn't religious before, my conversion was just short before the marriage, but my girlfriend and me had agreed on waiting.

Once when we're 80, we still share the same experiences together and I think, this is something really valuable. Besides, we give our children the chance to grow up in a safe family, no changing partners, instead: trust and love.

We live our sex live to the fullest, use toys, extraordinary positions, play bondage, my wife loves to swallow. The only thing, we don't do, is anal sex, because she has a medical issue, but I guess, beside that, we did more or less anything you could imagine - but it's always the two of us.

[Asker]

Exactly what I'm trying to say. What religion did you choose?

[Opinion Owner]

By a dream the prophet Isaiah has called me to the service of Jesus Christ

[Asker]

He preached about Islam you know we believe in him too

[Opinion Owner]

I find the Islamic interpretation interesting yet not conviencing. E.g. it is clear from the Old Scriptures that the Messiah has to suffer and be despiced by people. I miss this part in the Quran (even though it is years since I read it and I might have forgotten).

[Asker]

He didn't suffer at all God raised his soul and body to heaven and another of his followers was martyred in his name

[LJHam]

I was not raised with any kind of religion nor was I educated about relationships or what it means to respect myself. When I was young I figured it would be best if I knew I loved the guy before I had sex, so that is what I did.

For me personally, I don't buy a pair of shoes w/o trying them on, I don't buy a car w/o test driving it, and I'm definitely not going to marry a man before having sex with him. But that is simply MY personally philosophy, I do not try to push it onto others. We each make our own decisions based on what is best for ourselves.

What is most important though is truly understanding what respecting yourself means. Which is knowing exactly what it is that you want deep down inside and holding out for it until you get it. That was a lesson that took me years to learn. When you apply this mentality then when you finally do have sex with someone, whether married or not, it will be truly special.

[LJHam]

Wow, that many down votes?! I didn't even write anything offensive.

[BrianMerritt]

But is sex THAT much of a priority for you, that it's a dealbreaker?

[Anonymous]

I'm waiting for marriage for both religious and personal reasons. Religious reasons playing a smaller part than personal reasons.

Religious being that I follow Christianity and that religion tells us it is wrong to have sex before marriage. However, it also teaches that in biblical times they did not have "weddings." My boyfriend's youth group did a study on the biblical definition of marriage and it is believed that if you remain with one person even if you don't marry them, but if you're faithful, it's okay.

Personal beliefs being that I find the concept of more than one sex partner to be revolting and the idea of a penis that has been in other vaginas being in me is equally repulsive.

As such. I am a virgin and am waiting till marriage. And I will only marry a fellow virgin.

[snowangle]

I'm waiting until marriage for religious reasons and I wouldn't change my decision. I love that I get to share myself with my future husband and no one else. I love that I don't have to worry about pregnancy or diseases. And I love that I get to build relationships on more than lust.

[Asker]

Exactly it's more meaningful and precious. Like I said my religious views shape this decision of waiting for marriage before proceeding with sex but yeah even if they didn't I believe I would be the person who wants till marriage before having sex.

[xzinax2]

it's a personal decision,i don't have anything against either option. I don't believe in marriage,but I do choose to wait for whenever I feel is a point when most would get married.

[KJT6989]

I didn't wait. I'm not gonna marry a guy if I haven't had sex with him. You don't buy a car without a test drive so I'm not marry a guy without a ride.

[05Jueey]

I'm sorry to say I agree

[KJT6989]

Why are you sorry to agree?

[BrianMerritt]

You sound like a frat boy talking like that.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I can wait for a girl, but I don't really care about waiting until marriage. I care more about waiting a long time to make sure we're right for each other. From what I've seen, waiting for marriage just encourages marriages to come too fast when neither are ready.

[Castrated Virgin]

Excellent point.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I didn't wait for that.

[BCRanger10]

I am a Catholic and I believe that sex should wait until marriage.

[Asker]

absolutely :)

[Enideqa]

I would wait till I found the right person but doesn't have to mean marriage.

[05Jueey]

I practice sex before marriage and think it's fine

[Malcom_Reynolds]

I don't believe in waiting for marriage before having sex. I have the view that if you're not ready to have sex, you're not ready to get married. As far as religious reasons, I'm not a religious person by any means so if someone was to choose their religion over me, then there's going to be problems.

All that being said, I don't think that waiting until marriage is necessarily bad, if both parties agree to it, I just don't think it should be the norm, as it isn't. If you can find your Mr. Right who agrees with you then I can be happy for you.

[Asker]

Thanks but I guess Mr Right will bathe guy I choose to marry

[front2back]

Yeah, as a Roman Catholic, we are supposed to wait until marriage to. A lot of us don't follow that rule as closely anymore. I'm not exactly waiting for marriage, just waiting until I'm sure I love the person and am okay with the responsibility of being a parent if it were to happen.

[humanbeing]

i think it's more about personal choice than religion. as you have said many Muslims have sex before marriage. like wise there are lot's of other people from other culture and religion who just don't do it before marriage because they don't feel it right for some reasons especially girls. It's entirely a personal choice. I also favour sex only after marriage but may be it wouldn't be right for me to talk against premarital sex as I m not a virgin and I m not married. and it won't be right for me to expect a virgin girl to marry which I wish I get one. ha ha

[RedThread]

I think if two people love each other they should express their love as long as they're being responsible about it. I don't see how a relationship changes before someone is married to after someone is married. I wouldn't be dedicated to someone I love more or less due to some event. What if some people never want to get married and stay dedicated to each other forever should they never have sex? I think people should be responsible regardless and decide what's right for them as individuals.

[RedThread]

Okay it's funny how you get down voted for simply stating an opinion. The question asked for opinions and I gave mine. I wasn't being insulting to those who think differently. You really can't win.

[xHoneyxBeex]

I totally agree with your answer. But some people just can't handle differing opinions, it's rather sad. +1

[Asker]

I didn't give you a down vote :s

[Libarena]

I anjoy it.

[RebeccaSJ]

I had it and enjoyed it.

[LaylaTwoHours]

Waiting for Mr. Right to marry me :)

[Asker]

inshallah it'll be soon

[LaylaTwoHours]

InshaAllah :)

[Asker]

imagine if you and your bro got married on the same day lol - that'd be such a twin thing :)

[LaylaTwoHours]

Lol. I don't think he'll ever get married.

[Asker]

why?

[LaylaTwoHours]

He's immature for his age.

[Asker]

at 23 lol i'm sure he'll find a good wife who'll bring him in line :)

[LaylaTwoHours]

Lol haven't turned 23 yet.

[Asker]

that's strange I'm sure I read somewhere that you were 23 lol

[LaylaTwoHours]

Yeah I turn 23 this year.

[Asker]

congrats :)

[JennieF]

I started at 17.

[ekolos]

believe or not I can t wait that long and I did it :) what about you?

[Asker]

I'm true to my morals and religious view maybe the fact that I've never tasted the forbidden fruit helps because I don't know what's so big about it

[ekolos]

yeah forbidden fruit is great :D we can talk about this..text me..i am Muslim too

[Asker]

And you had sex before marriage when you know it's disobeying Allah's words

[ekolos]

i know yeah I had.what about you? do you want sex before the marriage?

[Asker]

Nah I'd like to honour the morals imbibes in me by my parents and honour my future husband by staying true to him

[ekolos]

ok

[Tanith]

I find the emphasis people place on "losing" their virginity very odd. You don't actually lose anything when you have sex for the first time. It's your first attempt, same as the first time you do anything else.

[Anonymous]

Go for it just use birth control and condoms

[Asker]

Huh?

[Anonymous]

I wished I had wait for the right person. I didn't regret it though.

[Anonymous]

I don't have any religious beliefs and I am waiting for the highest form of committed relationship. I won't say my views here because it will make people uncomfortable and I'll get more downvotes.

[BrianMerritt]

You shouldn't be afraid of down votes. They don't do anything. My opinions often get torched, but I don't care.