Why would my boyfriend masturbate while I'm in the room next to him and he knows I can hear him?

[Anonymous]

I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 and a half years now. I love him very much and trust him completely. I know that he would never cheat. I just don't understand why he feels the need to lie to me about looking at porn. He always deletes his history online after he is done. We both get up in the morning around the same time. I put the moves on him and start kissing him all over. He says he is sleepy so I stop and go make some breakfast. When I am in the kitchen, he goes to the office and starts looking at porn and jerking off. I can hear it. I have walked in before and tried to convince him I was available by being naked and offering to help. and then he just got embarrassed and stopped. He then went to the shower and ignored the fact all morning. He does this a few days a week. I always tell him that I'm horny too. I try to mix it up in bed and ask him what he likes. We have sex once or twice a week and I am not at all satisfied. When we first started dating, we were rabbits. Now, we moved in together a few months back and he isn't that interested. He says he still finds me attractive. I know that I could get any guy I wanted but I want him. I'm not f'ugly. I haven't gotten fat. I don't know why he would rather jerk off all the time when I offer him great sex when ever he wants it.

[fabglam100]

You should put your foot down! if you are not satisfied the you should maybe take a break! When you miss someone and then finally meet up again you will feel the sparks but if you still don't feel anything then sweetie the relationship is over! But about the porn thing you have to talk to him and if he still does it then YOU GUYS SHOULD BREAK UP! I know its hard but its the truth!

XOXO the love doctor

[shelbyy32]

i think he is secretly gay!

my cousin was dating this guy named joe for 4 years!

he was very strange to me and I could always tell something was up!

my cousin always told me about what went on between them like they would have sex

and he would be into it but then he pulled some stuff like that and like 2 weeks after they

broke up she found out he had a secret gay life!

[gravygirl]

Sex is a bit of work for a guy. Do you only offer intercourse? I don't know for sure, but I'm guessing if you offered him head he'd be more receptive. That's more passive for him and more similar to jerking off.

[Jackal21]

The only real difference between the two is that sex is better and funner, but jerking off is quick. He could just want to deal with a quicky. Otherwise he may have fetishes that he's embarrassed about. Have you tried watching porn whilst having sex? It could also be that he just wants a variety of women to orgasm too.

[l-hedoniste]

Make this deal: if he gives you more sex, you'll overlook the porn. Everyone's a winner.

[Asker]

Sure I guess that is one way of going about it. But I don't think that deals with the real problem. I don't think it is the looking at the porn that is the problem. I think it is that he would rather masturbate then be with a real live woman.

[l-hedoniste]

Maybe he enjoys masturbating. Maybe (PROBABLY) it doesn't matter. What matters is meeting each other halfway, and getting along.

[Jackal21]

You know, it could be that he's not getting off enough or sex doesn't feel as good to him than masturbation.