How to get your boyfriend to touch you when making out?

[Anonymous]

Okay, so the title might sound confusing. But whenever I make out with my boyfriend, he'll wrap his arms around my waist or put a hand on my hip, but he'll never do more than that. I'm not talking about stripping off my clothes here lol, but I tend to have wandering hands and I feel slightly awkward when he doesn't. Guys, are there some of you out there who do this as well? Or girls, do you have this problem? How can I get him to actually touch me (like run his fingers through my hair, up my back, etc)?

[MrOracle]

Like the other guys said, just take his hand and put it where you want it to go, and move it like you want him to move it. Maybe he's clueless, and maybe he's afraid you'll be mad if he "crosses a line" or "is too aggressive", so you need to let him know it's okay and that you want it.

Also, when he does something you like, make sure to give him some kind of feedback. That could mean a big smile, a comforted sigh, a moan or whimper, or whatever, but somehow, you need to let him know when he's doing "good". Most guys will catch on quickly, and will want to get that reaction from you again, so they'll do what worked to get it last time.

Positive reinforcement works!

[sammysamson84]

i totally agree with the others here: he's probably insecure about if he may cross that line ...

he needs some sort of feedback. taking his hand, placing it where you want it, will probably do that ...

getting closer to him, leaning on him will probably work ... intensify physical contact when he touches you

make things a bit more obvious ... smile more ... if he does something you like/want him to do more often, direct feedback is the right way ... even when you feel like you are giving him the right signs, try to overdo it, just a bit...

[tammymac]

Women think that guys should know exactly what they want, but men are no more mind readers then we are. Help the guy out tell him you would like it if he touched you. Or if you are not that fwd tell him you love the feel of it when he strokes your thigh, breast, back...ect he will get the picture.

[3gmoney3]

Honestly, just take his hand and put it where you want it to go. He's probably worried about doing the wrong thing and making you mad.

[snowboarder720]

that's a bit bizarre. Usually I can't help but scratch her back or rub circles on her shoulder blades, etc.

well, this sounds like something that you should just... Bring up to him. I'd say you should taunt him, tell him "Are you afraid to rub my back when we kiss or what? :)". This is a simple problem, so here's a simple solution. It's okay to tell guys these things...

[Anonymous]

Grab his hand and put it where you want it. Guys aren't mind readers, and most of them have been brainwashed into believing that testing the waters is tantamount to rape so you can't expect him to push the boundaries if you don't let him know it's OK.