Why is it considered pathetic for a guy to go to a escort or prostitute or to masturbate?

[Anonymous]

A guy who goes to a prostitute or escort are considered lame , desperate and pathetic why? Guys have to pay for sex anyway, even if they're married (because women love money more than guys). Paying for drinks, dinner, movies aren't cheap and then you're still not guaranteed sex like you would if you just paid for a escort or prostitute . Here are some of the reasons why people say its bad. 1. The escort/prostitute doesn't want you. Who cares? A guy is simply paying for a service That's better than paying for dates that's not guaranteed to lead to sex and a relationship. I had a friend who spent years of taking women out on really expensive dates ( $100 dollars ) and getting burned . His date hit him with this line like "You're a good guy but I'm not ready for a relationship." Really? She could've said that 5 dates ago. So he would be out $500 dollars and wasted time. He decided no more and just started to go to escorts. His female co worker friends who he would get dating advice from shunned him for it of course. 2. Prostitutes and escorts have disease unlike a girlfriend or wife. Wrong. I've never heard of that happening to a guy. But I know a friend of mine whose wife brought him home chlamydia. A another guy in the city where I live who's in prison for murdering his girlfriend because she gave AIDS to him . 3. Guys who masturbate are losers . Every guy isn't going to be able to get a girl no matter what they do. I remember this co worker was telling me how pathetic this other co worker was for jacking off, I asked her why she didn't offer him sex or found him a girlfriend then? Its okay for a woman to have a vibrator and masturbate but if a guy does it, he's a pathetic loser blah blah. So what are you guys thoughts on this?

[GDBonline]

I think it's a bit less black and white then you put it. Let me try and explain myself:

- Women aren't only in it for the money. If a guy has money, it's a plus but it's not everything. When women look at a potential partner they look at how suitable he is to have a family with. More money means more capable provide for the family, therefore more attractive. There are of course golddiggers but they are not looking for a guy to have a relationship with, other then a financial/materialisting relationship in stead of an emotional and intimate relationship.

1. An escort, like any other person, at a certain point choose this job for a reason. I am confident she enjoys her job just like many others enjoy their job as a salesperson, handyman, accountant whatever. She'll have good days and bad days but in general I would say she's happy with her job, otherwise she'd find an other job right? So therefore I would say it's safe to say that the escort does want to be with you.

2. Most likely, the escort will know exactly how to use a condom and be far more conscious about sexual health and hygiene then most other "non working girls". Your chances of catching anything are greater with a normal girl who has sex with a few guys a year but doesn't use protection, then an escort who sees hundreds of clients a year but always uses protection.

3. Come on. Every guy masturbates. Every girl masturbates. Those who say they don't lie.

[Grotty]

Women go for money above all else but looks help however if a man is ugly and broke he will remain a virgin for live!

[butterflyred]

ive been to sex capital city. and I've seen married men who takes these prostitutes whenever they want. just for sex and yes they pay for it. its not bcoz they can't have a good looking girl, but the way I see it. your not gonna eat steak all the time but you want to taste something else. even if you pay for it. money is not the issue for them but sex.

also some lads take prostitutes in their hotels for one night, bcoz they don't want to tie in a relationship, they pay bcoz they knew these girls jobs and they don't used their heart. no string attach but only sex.. but some other good story, even this prostitutes has an happy ending with these lads. put them in a home and live happily.

[DonCachondo]

What city would that be?

[whattothink]

You don't "pay" for sex in a relationship, and if you are it's not a relationship. As for masturbation 98% of people do regularly (I do 3 times a day because I am single) and I am not a loser. Lastly men who go to prostitutes are losers. Desperate scary losers.

[Asker]

And how is that? You must think that every guy is guaranteed a girlfriend. Nothing is guaranteed no matter how hard you try or do to appeal to others etc.

[Tigerblood99]

whattothink... What? There are many reasons why a guy would visit an escort besides been desperate like if a man does not have a legitimate job involving going from one place to the other or someone can be disabled from an accident, how they going to get a women if their in a wheel chair? Even quite a few famous stars do it that are living the dream right now... you calling them losers? Every person has their own reasons, you have no right to judge anyone who visit escorts. You need to think a bit more clearer before you start spouting loser... have a good day :)

[YourName123]

yeah, getting a hooker is no big deal and nothing to be ashamed of. uptight americans

[thariq87]

From what i read here, most people thought that guys are pathetic and desperate and etc.. well let me tell you.. i have been single for the past 4 years, last time i has sex was with my ex (4 years ago) and i have been trying very hard to get a girlfriend or EVEN JUST A FRIEND.. but human being human (in general), they look on the outside and they dont even want to know the inside of the person.. and after 4 years of being single and dont even have any friends, to tell you the truth, i am quite depressed and i think by getting an escort, maybe i will feel a bit better again.. i have been strungling for the past 3-4 months because i am not sure if i should get an escort or not and being here, reading all these comments doesn't help! And instead of making me feel better, it just makes it worse! It is so bad that i feel like paying an escort but not for sex, but for just someone to talk to.. so please people.. dont just judge and saying it is pathetic and etc.. because sometime, you have no idea why they are really doing it..

[Theguyoverthere]

1. Good sex comes with good chemistry. Chances are the prostitute is gonna fake and a lot of fakers sound pathetically exaggerated and annoying to the point where the guy will wanna scream "Shut the hell up already." A penis can get off in so many ways so why pay for something you can do yourself? People who want prostitutes are filling a void in their lives. Sex is not just about getting off because your point about masturbating would be contradicted.

2. Prostitutes and escorts can have diseases and honestly, a lot of prostitutes are hooked on drugs too. Plus undercover cops are out there. The more partners a person has the higher the chances of them having an STD.

3. No guys who masturbate are not losers. They're human. I don't know what kinda workplace you're in but most workplaces I know don't go snooping around checking to see who jerks off or not.

[Asker]

I didn't check who jerks off. A female co worker said it be I'm sure you just skimmed through the question because if you read the whole thing, you would've known that before you opened your trap.

[MrOracle]

Look, dude, if you want to go bang a pro, GO DO IT and quit whining about it. Get a cheap flight to Vegas, rent a car or taxi and go to Pahrump where the big legal brothels are, and have fun. You don't need anyone's permission or approval, and you don't need to tell anyone you went if you don't want to.

Or, learn to be the kind of guy who can get laid for free.

One way or the other, you aren't doing anything for your cause by complaining.

[Asker]

Another fool who didn't read the article . I didn't say I myself paid for hookers I was speaking in general not from my own experience You and the guy over here are some straight up idiots.

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

People can be bigots and hypocrites.

[kheserthorpe]

The first anon woman answered. Doesn't mean it's reasonable but that's your answer.

[deeznutzbby]

Because men ARE pathetic. Point blank.

[irykiryk]

Just go on to Craigslist, or some other dating site.

[CaptainLegal]

I don't consider it pathetic, I mean once in a while it's no big deal. I like it because I can try new things, things that normal girl wouldn't try. Also if I see a hot prostitute I just give her some money and just have sex, no flirts and stuff like that. But it's not healthy if you do it often, I mean you've gotta socialize with women flirt go out, have sensual sex etc.

[Shooter-McGavin]

I guess I'm about to be a reeeal loser in a little bit. xvideos baby boom bap! :D

[moviedude714]

I don't see a problem with it

[Anonymous]

Your main problem is that you reduce the human female to no more than a collection of body parts to be exploited sexually. Sex is the focal point of a romantic relationship but it shouldn't be the initial goal. The goal should be at first to decide whether or not you actually like this person. Sex is a possible reality but when that's the only thing in mind, then you're exploiting that poor girl and you aren't treating her with the dignity she was made for. If you're spending 500$ over a handful of dates, you're not thinking clearly. Some of the best dates are simple and cost next to nothing. Skip the movies. Seriously. Go get icecream and take a walk in the park. Go to a skating rink together. Stop being cliche with the expensive dinner movie date routines.

[Asker]

So you're supposed to some dating guru or something? I guess you lucked out and found a woman who didn't care about going on a cheap date. And you're the second guy who just skimmed through the article I was talking about a FRIEND who spent $500 on dates not me.

[Opinion Owner]

Most women don't care about expensive dates. Early on you want to keep it cheap anyways, after all, you're just getting to know each other.

[Anonymous]

Because its the truth?

[Anonymous]

Are you serious? The prostitute gets a lot of flack too. That being said, I don't care if anyone wants to engage in prostitution. So go ahead.

[Asker]

Agreed. People want to talk down on guy who choose to get a hooker or escort and it's mainly the girls who weren't going to consider the guy anyway or guys who weren't going to wingman for them anyway so why would they care how he got some? at least he didn't go out and rape a woman.

[Anonymous]

Gogodancer?

[Anonymous]

Men that are good at sex never pay for it. It is pathetic to go to a prostitute.

[Asker]

So you've never been on a date?

[Opinion Owner]

I have, no one is forcing you against your will to pay, it's just he gentlemanly thing to do.

[Asker]

Exactly. So why would it be pathetic for a guy to go to a prostitute? Men pay for sex in one way or another. Escorts and prostitution is more straight up guaranteed. Spending money on dinner, drinks and being a gentleman doesn't guarantee nothing. Doesn't even better your chances.

[wpmason]

I think you've got your rose-colored glasses on. Successful men with plenty of disposable income (politicians, celebs, athletes, businessmen, etc.) are generally very supportive of the working girls of the world. Not only do they pay, they pay $$$ huge amounts.

[Opinion Owner]

So oppressing a woman for sex is the next viable option? Do you even know how women get into that? Or how awful sex trafficking is. People aren't commodities to be bought and sold, period. Guys that treat women like objects or feel entitled to women's bodies are bound to be alone. Unless they oppress a woman in one way or another, mail order brides, prostitutes, slaves. You wanna be one of those guys?

[G_GTom]

gentlemanly, haha, women lost this with all the equality they wanted. See women want equality when it benefits them.

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[Opinion Owner]

So your answer G_G Tom is prostitution is a result of equality because prostitution has existed long before equality and is the oldest oppression of women.

[kheserthorpe]

To your original point - I don't think how good guys are in bed has a big impact. How good they are at getting women into bed? Yeah. Generally, wages of prostitutes have fallen dramatically over the last century do to dropping demand. More guys can get laid without them. 100 years ago, 1/4 to 1/3 of u.s. males lost their virginity to a prostitute.

[Opinion Owner]

Now most women have sex with a guy when the guy simply compliments her, it's not hard. I think sluts are probably the ones responsible for putting escorts out of business. Which makes it even MORE pathetic to have to hire a prostitute consider how easy most women are today.

[Tommy-Gunz]

Wrong. Women don't have a magic he is amazing at sex sense that kicks in as soon as they see a man. If slutshaming is bad then your just as horrible for saying this guy is pathetic for going to a prostitute.

[LordZero]

I feel pathetic for going to prostitutes. But is it really true that it's easy to get laid without money? How easy is it? When I grew up, I was always told to ashamed of my sexuality. I was never allowed to show my desire for girls. So, for me, it was never easy to get girls. I only had sex with prostitutes 2 months ago and that will be the only time I'll ever get to have sex again because I'm broke and girls don't like me for reasons I can't comprehend.

[Anonymous]

I mean I personally see no correlation between one and 2, then 3. I masturbate, I am in a relationship and get laid whenever I want yet still have the urge and drive to masturbate. Though, I would never ever engage in sex which would require me to pay for it.

[Asker]

So you never bought a woman dinner? never bought a woman a drink? never bought anything for a girl on Valentines day or that every once in a while gift?

[Opinion Owner]

That in no way equates to paying for sex. Have I bought a woman dinner, bought her a drink, and bought her things on Valentine's day without the expectation of sex? Yes. Sorry bro. Paying for sex is paying for sex. Don't know why ya gotta twist this all around.

[Asker]

Of course you wouldn't have the expectation , especially if you didn't buy her nothing on Valentines day.

[Opinion Owner]

Dude. Taking a girl out on a date to dinner on Valentines Day while picking up the tab and a gift, then having sex after - DOES NOT equate to prostitution or an escort service. Hunting online for a companion who requires you to do do this prior to having sex, is.

[Asker]

You're still paying for it. If she wanted sex as bad as you, you wouldn't have to woo her with gifts she'll just want you . I've had a couple of girls that I never bought a drink for, a gift or anything and still had sex with them on the regular why? because they simply enjoyed it .

[Opinion Owner]

Shut up bro. Stop trying to justify your needs to pay for sex.

[Asker]

Go drink some antifreeze trick.