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FWB as a virgin a bad idea?

I'm 20 and a virgin. I haven't done anything with a guy, not even kissing. I started talking to this guy, he's 26 and way more experienced than I am and he asked if I want to be his fwb. He's not pressuring me into having sex with him, but just fooling around and oral at most if I am comfortable. But I don't know if it is a good idea even just to do that? I'm not confident that I will be able to stay unattached. I mean I want to get physical with a guy, but I also do want a relationship. Is this just a really bad idea?
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  • It is really easy for anyone, man or woman, to get attached to a FWB. So even though you may not, he may get attached. I tried FWB with a virgin and she got attached. However, some girls really don't get attached at all. So it can go either way. There are plenty of guys who are much more clingy than girls could ever be.

    If you think you won't get attached, go for it. I do see you having some doubts though so no real answer can be made here. "Losing it to someone special" to me doesn't really work because look at how many people actually only have one relationship in their lives. Plenty of girls lose their virginity to a jerk and justify it because the word "relationship" is thrown in there. To me it is no different. Sex is sex. If the guy looks good and you think the sex would be good go for it.

  • Terrible idea, very terrible. You want your first time to mean something, to be with someone you love who really loves you. Someone who'll be intimate and loving and understanding. Not someone looking just to get their rocks off. Don't cheapen it, I say.

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  • loosing your virginity to a guy you like without being in a relationship isn't a bad idea it self. also the idea of having him as a FWB is OK, but only as long as you don`t want a relationship with that guy. if you want a relationship or think you would get attached and want a relationship after having sex a couple of times, don`t do it if he doesn't feel the same way.

    it sounds to me as if you`d like to have a boyfriend, not just a f***buddy, so i`d say there are plenty of other hot guys out there who`d love to have a chance to ask you out!

  • Ehh, keep in mind I'm not an overly emotional person but...

    I lost my v-card with a FWB. If I could go back in time I wouldn't have done it. Because now that I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend, I think it would have been more special to have saved it for him...the comfort of being in a relationship and only being with someone you love is definitely worth the wait.

    I won't live life regretting it but it's not the best way to lose it imo. And it's a bad idea since you also want a relationship.

  • I really don't know about "special" like a lot of girls here have talked about... More like, some one who you would trust? FWB is a hard thing in the way that you will keep on meeting, you will keep on having sex, you will keep on interacting with each other. In that regards, having a "one-nighter" would have a better guarantee that you won't become emotionally attached (not a 100% certainty). But you should really think about it yourself. Do the benefits out weight the negatives?

  • Bad idea. Just wait till you find a guy that you can have a relationship with and have sex with. I not saying he'll be better then your FWB. but you have a better chance of him reciprocating the feelings you'll catch when you get attached rather then your FWB.

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  • I really recommend you read my article before making a decision:

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  • its a good idea if your looking to get some experience , some virgins can't find a relationship or don't want one but really want to get some sexual experience so if looking for that it might be a good idea.

    but if your looking for something serious or a real relationship it might be best to wait to have sex till your actually dating a guy you like and want to get sexual with . and that guy will appreciate the fact you waited to have sex with him

  • if you want a relationship then friends with benefits is a VERY BAD idea! don't rush things, give your virginity to the right guy (bf or husband). great things come to those who wait and those who rush and run trip over badly :)

  • I say go for it. If he is a friend and you use safe sex precautions (obviously) what is there to loose? You will find that you love it! If it does not work out in the long run at least you had some fun along the way.

  • This is a terrible idea since he is going to be expecting way more from you and at a fast pace and if you agree and get all shy it kind of defeats the very idea of having an fwbs.

  • FWB is a bad idea.. why don't you wait until you find someone special? this isn't worth it from my point of view...

  • Don't do it. Lose it to someone special

  • girl just don't give up you're virginity to any guy you know . let it be to some special .someone worthy and not to just some lame f*** buddy .I feel like it's better if you wait till you find yourself a relationship and give up you're virginity to someone you love .

  • Yes it's a bad idea. Save yourself for someone you luv. If that relationship doesn't work out then I would have less objection to having a FWB relationship down the road.

  • I would advise against it

  • Bad idea.

  • Sex is something that when done for the first time, should be done with someone you are in love with! The first time for some is scary and a bit painful! I suggest not doing it, it can be a bad idea! You've waited this long give it some time! giving your virginity away to just anyone can be one of the worst decisions of your life, and you can never take it back!

  • I did this and I regret it

  • Yes, its a bad idea. If a guy offers you only FWB, walk away. So not worth it. Save it for some guy that actually wants to be your boyfriend. It's hard to not get attached. If you want a relationship, that's what you should wait for.

  • They wonder why guys lose complete respect for girls

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