How can I get over these big slutty mistakes I made?

[Anonymous]

I was at a party a couple years ago and I almost gave a blow job to a guy in the bathroom. (I was very drunk) when his thing was out and I was about to do it someone from the party walked in. but anyways I never did..i changed my mind, I told the guy I don't want to anymore and he got really mad and said you wouldve done it if that guy didn't walk in! and he stormed out.. however, that guy that walked in and saw what he saw told everyone. also, aside from all of this...i was sleeping with another guy. one night, I did it with my roommate in the room and when we were done she took a picture of us (we were covered thank god) and showed people. rumors started going around about meand no one talked to me anymore. I Haven't even been out in years out of embarassment..in these past 2 years I have also completely changed. I never had sex since then which is over 2 years (and by the way that guy took my virginity, I had sex 5 times with him, he's the only one) anyways I need help, what do you think of all this? how do I get over it and these regrets? GUYS: could you ever love me after knowing this past?

[Anonymous]

Sure. I don't begrudge someone for having that kind of a past. Good or bad, they were your choices, and really, they were in the past. I've had my moments too. Believe me. In time I've found a reputation built around me, but people generally give far less of a shit. But seriously, all you did was have some sex, and blow the odd guy. It was a wild party. Alright. No big deal.

As for your friends. If they seriously stopped being friends with you because of something stupid like that, then your so-called "friends" suck. They suck hard. They scarcely can be called "friends". I sure wouldn't call them such. I think you need new friends. Better friends. Better lovers too. Because if someone can really be so judgmental over something you did in the past, and more, over two years ago, they're not worth it. You're better off without them.

Good or bad, those were your choices. Choices that are very much in the past. I can love somebody like you. I already have loved a girl like you. It may not have worked out, but it's not because of that. Don't beat yourself up about it. Don't let anyone else put you down for it. Just say "it happened. I did it. It's in the past. It's not me anymore. It never will be again." and anyone giving you hell for it, just tear them a new one for being such a snob.

You're alright.

[Opinion Owner]

If people confront you about it, just own up to it, and ask them how it's any of their business, or how that has anything to do with right here and now. If they try to give you hell for it, give them a strongly worded speech about how that was years ago, you're not the same person, and "How fukcing dare you" try to rub the past in my face. Maybe ask if they can say they never made mistakes, or if they can say they're the same person they were a few years ago, but don't give them time to respond.

[Opinion Owner]

Just call them out for being judgmental snobs, tell them to get off their high horse, and storm off.

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

Its years ago, ancient history as far as I'm concerned. You shouldn't have let such a small immature thing affect you so much.

I personally would have no issue with you if I knew your past. Everyone is young at some point and if they don't do that sort of thing then they sure as hell wanted to.

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

For the blowjob just say it was taken out of context and warped by word of mouth. As for the photo just say we all do stupid things when we were young and we had even stupider friends. Of course you could just laugh off both of them and say 'good times' sarcastically if theyre mentioned. Ps: I doubt they will come up, its a minor event from the past.

[Anonymous]

That was YEARS AGO! You're not the only girl in the world who has done slutty sh*t! When I get old, I'm gonna write an anonymous book (all names will be changed) about the slutty sh*t I've done. I'm a grown woman and nobody is gonna make me feel ashamed for the things I've done - and I mean NOBODY! Nobody has the right to make you feel bad either. Stand up for yourself and hold your head high. You don't have to justify your past to anyone. You did what you did and that's that. Don't let these people ruin your life. There are girls sluttier than you that still go out and dare someone to check them on the sh*t they did. And don't look at them as mistakes, look at them as experiences. You learned from it. You can't let people make you feel small because everyoen has skeletons in their closet, half those people pointing fingers at you probably did some sh*t they wouldn't want people to know.

[Olya363]

omg I would so read that book! :D

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Let's team up and write one together. "Cheap thrills: Bedroom confessions of a skank and a man-slut"

[Opinion Owner]

! LOL OK, here goes! I made out with a guy I knew for less than 4 hours and grinded on his d*** and let him feel all over me...in front of 3 other people! Who knows what I'll do this wknd Your turn

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

F***ed my (then) girlfriend in front of my friend, and her friend. Then later her friend joined in. This same girlfriend I've put on a show for people in a neighbouring apartment across an alley. She also blew me in front of another of my friends.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

(I'm starting off small potatoes)

[COCOCHANEL]

i have a plan to write a book too !

[COCOCHANEL]

those people who spread rumours about you are mean. I can't believe that your roommate took a picture and showed others. sue her for slander.

[Asker]

i was mad about it and was going to confront her, but I figured I shouldn't because that would make me look even worse..and also because it was my own fault for having sex with her in the room in the first place

[Peter0]

Let's see. You're willing to give blowjobs, haven't done anything stupid involving sex in a few years, and you're careful about it now. Yeah, I'd say you don't have to worry about guys being put off by your past.

Some might... but those are probably not guys you want in your life anyway.

[kheserthorpe]

I wouldn't be bothered about those incidents. I'd be more worried about how you are different now.

[bDizzie]

Stop caring so much about what people think of you

[hannibal214]

you sound like you need to get laid...chillax

[jmurk]

Don't worry so much.

[Anonymous]

Ignore all that.

I could date a girl like that. I also don't get why those people and you pay attention to this slutty things, I mean its not like women are supposed to be sexless saints. that's stupid. women get horny too, they just don't have the testosterone levels, but even among women some women like sex more than others, so some women are meant to be sluts.

[Anonymous]

Meh. Don't sweat it. Your history is that you've only had sex with one guy, you've hooked up with a couple of others and with a girl. No biggie.