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Just found out that my boyfriend has a REALLY small penis. Girls, would this be a deal breaker for you?

Both of us have decided not to have sex before marriage, so I've never even felt him up before. But we were making out last night and things were getting pretty heavy. I pressed my body against his and I could feel his erection with my thigh--and it felt like it was about the size of my thumb. Maybe he wasn't fully erect, but he acted pretty turned on and after a few minutes he pushed me away and said he needed to calm down. As a virgin, I've never really put much thought into my sexual preferences, and I don't know if I'd like big penises or small ones. But if I do end up marrying him, I might be stuck with someone who can't satisfy me? I want to be 100% faithful to my husband, but what if I'm sexually frustrated? I love my boyfriend and I want to be with him though. I really don't know what to do.
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I'm not actually supposed to touch his penis... it's part of our religious beliefs. So taking it out and seeing it for myself isn't really an option. Maybe I'm mistaken about the size... regardless, I have to commit to marrying him before I can find out. :/
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Most Helpful Girls

  • First, being as your a virgin and never having seen or felt a penis. That does exactly

    make you an expert on penises or what a big or small one would feel like.

    Second, I saw that you said in a comment to of the guys answers that

    "Well I don't really know what I want, I'm just going off what seems to be important for other girls, here..." Never, base what you may or may not want off other girls! Because, most girls

    seem to care about the things that don't actually matter in the end.

    Thrid,think about this. Do you want a sweet guy like your boyfriend, who loves you,treats

    you right,respects you and who may have a small penis. Or do you want a guy who's a giant

    jackass and treats you like crap,but who as a big penis and leaves you sexual satisfied.

    What's more important to you,love or a great sex life? (which you can still have,no matter what the size).

    I personally think your making a big deal out of nothing,don't worry about it.

  • Girls, would this be a deal breaker for you?

    Yes I see no reason to bother with a small d*ck as likely he's not asexual and he'd want sex and I have no interest in having sex solely for his benefit since my orgasms are important to me and bigger d*cks reach more pleasurable areas and rebound the pleasure. As well as likely if I had a large vagina he'd consider it a deal breaker or advise me to work on fixing it ala kegels so tit for tat.

    I want to be 100% faithful to my husband, but what if I'm sexually frustrated?

    Perhaps masturbate as I find most heterosexual gals get their sexual satisfaction from masturbation not from their male partners.

  • This is one of the many reasons why I'm not on board with this whole "no sex before marriage" crap. Sex is important. Sexual compatibility is important. It's important to have this kind of stuff figured out BEFORE you legally bind yourself to this person.

    There's really no way to work out how you feel about this without having sex with him. But since you're not going to do that, you're just going to have to blindly make some sort of decision.

    • Also pretty much all penises are small when they aren't fully erect. He might not have been totally erect. The ONLY way you'll know is to see it.

    • Finally someone talking sense. Sex is a skill, skills need to be practiced. And size as long as its not a joke dick and he's got skills then it does not matter

  • Having a small penis doesn't mean he'll be terrible in bed. Sometimes a guy is so self conscious about his size that he works even harder in bed to satisfy you. And just because a guy is big doesn't mean it's great sex. Sometimes when a guy is big, it goes to his head and he automatically thinks he's awesome in bed when really he isn't.

Most Helpful Guys

  • It may have not been fully erect. I mean it is hard to wear clothes and get a giant hard on plus if you guys are "waiting" he may have been holding back.

    I have a thick penis and it is sometimes painful to take in unless I go in carefully after a lot of foreplay. There are cons to having a big penis. It is no fun if Mr. Big Penis has to finish by hand because you are crying because it hurts too much. I have been there and done that.

    A lot of sexual pleasure and satisfaction comes from how the clit is rubbed and that has nothing to do with the penis. Most girls that get caught up in the big penis fetish are never satisfied so it isn't a good way to think about sex.

    • Your sexual pleasure will have very little to do with his penis size and more to do with how hard he works to make sure you orgasm. I hope you understand that the vaginal orgasm isn't the default setting for most women, most need some kind of clittorial stimulation. You could be lucky and be the kind of girl with a g-spot that is sensitive and he just has to poke it in an inch and wiggle, but most girls enjoy being filled up. Long penises don't pop out as easy which allow for longer thrusts.

  • lemme tell you somthing us Asians have the highest population and lowest divorce rate because we got the stiffest hardest smallest cocks and our women have the shortest tightest vaginas so it IS YOU who has the naturally deeper more expansive vagina which makes you subconsciously think that small sausages won't satisfy you, trust me I know what I'm talking about. just compare a girl who wants big ones to a girl who wants small ones, compare that vaginas and the one who wants small ones will have the small vag.

    • Well I don't really know what I want, I'm just going off what seems to be important for other girls, here...

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  • That's why it's a dumb idea. I'm all for people not being comfortable sleeping around, but if you're thinking about spending the rest of your life with a person, you just need to know this stuff before it's too late.

  • I wouldn't judge. My denim slacks restrict my size a lot, especially if I'm wearing tight briefs. You and he were just making out for crying out loud, he wouldn't get fully erect from that.

  • You can't actually tell for sure the size through is pants... Like no way. He also may of had half an erection (it doesn't go straight to full size it slowly builds up to full erection)

    Why don't you just ask to see each other naked before marriage just for the sake of being compatible.

  • Haha that was funny thx for the joke. We if you want to marry him you kinda screwed then. Good luck!

  • Get it out of his pants...and see what you are dealing with. He may not have been completely hard. Give him a good handjob and see how things go.

    Besides you can and will have great sex if he knows what to do with the (his) thing. Size can help...I think...but there is so much more to sex than how big he is. If he knows how to use it as well as his fingers and tongue ...you will be a very happy person.

  • You're gonna have to see it before you really know.

    • No offense intended at all, but it sounds like your religion isn't really working for you. You're either gonna have to break some rules here or you're gonna have to roll the dice. Personally, if I were a woman, I'd go with the first option.

  • How do you know its the size of your thumb? Your not breaking your rules if you ask him to see it. It will be harmless fun to have a show and tell! Lol! Besides the smaller guys gets the breaks anyway.They have more children then us bigger guys, life has a balance, that's a true fact! Small penis = large family, large penis = small family! Know what I mean? Having a large penis isn't all what it's crack up to be, trust me. Besides from what I have read, you seem lhe type of woman who would like a above average size family!

  • You act like your are holy like the Blessed Virgin Mary and ask about how c*ck size might matter to you?

    • I want to have sex. I'm just choosing not to yet. Why should that negate my needs?

    • You have no idea of what "needs" are.

  • Offer him a hand job. It isn't as personal as a BJ and you will have a chance to feel it out. You don't even have to look at it.

  • Hmm who would of thought that testing driving the biggest decision of your life was a good idea.

  • where in the Bible does it say you can't give him a blow job?

    anyway, he sounds like a pencild*** who won't be able to satisfy you. dump him and find a well-hung real man

  • Touch it with your hand to get a better idea

    • At the update: Just touch his d***!

    • You have no idea how much I want to lol

    • If its important to you and your long term relationship with your boyfriend you should do it because it sounds like you are having doubts

  • you should just leave him right now！

  • wow

  • i think you should just read what you said and figure out what is wrong with it, you contradict yourself

  • Is interesting how a person with such high religious beliefs, which implies high morals, puts so much importance on penis size! Shouldn't a religious person be more concerned about the spiritual and romantic part of sex (ie love making)?

    Anyway, given that you're a virgin, you don't know how wide is your vagina, you could well have a very tight one, in which case a smaller d*** would be better!

    Something you and most girls should know is that a guy can really rock your world sexually speaking with whatever d*** he has, trust me size is far from important compared to skill!

  • Hide a camera in the bathroom to catch him in the shower.

    Anyway, if you actually love him, the size of his penis should make you change your mind on whether you should stay with him or not. Love is love. If you are thinking about leaving him just because of that, you are not really in love with him.

  • You have to ask yourself, do you love the man enough to not care about his penis size? Or do you care about his penis size more than you care about him? I actually applaud you for your religious beliefs, 'm a Christian myself and don't plan on showing my penis to a girl before I marry her, however, I will give her measurements so that she'll know just how big it is before hand, I don't want a girl to marry me and end up resenting me because I'm too small to satisfy her.

  • You act like you're so concerned about your religion, but yet you're concerned about his d*** size?

    That's a normal thought to have for anyone about their partner. Personally I wouldn't marry someone that I didn't have any idea of what their penis looked like, in my opinion. You could just ask to touch it or see it, nothing too crazy.

  • So you are waiting for marriage for religious reasons, but you'd dump him if his penis wasn't the correct size? Honestly if that is your attitude you aren't waiting on religious grounds. Sexual relations are way more than physical. You may love your boyfriend, but you need reassess your sexuality

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