Boyfriend doesn't care about pleasuring me?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend is really pissing me off, haven't really dated for that long though. he doesn't even try to eat me out anymore before we have sex. he'll just try to stick it in without any foreplay and when my vagina is dry as f***. when I tell him he needs to eat me out, he does it for less than 5 min and then tries to stick it in again. I feel like when he eats me out, it's just a chore for him, which turns me off. and sex hurts like a motherf***er, and then he complains that when he's in me that my vagina is dry, HMMM I wonder why? and he only likes eating out p**** when girls don't ask for it, but when I don't ask for it, he doesn't do it anyway, wtf. for me, when I masturbate, it takes at least 20 min for me to orgasm. I feel like he doesn't even care about making me feel good which really makes me upset because I suck his d*** whenever he wants, and I swallow his jizz. when I told him he needs to do more foreplay, eat me out longer, he said "if you're not going to orgasm in 5 min what makes you think you're going to orgasm in more than that?" and then he said I need to learn to orgasm from sex when he knows I only get off from clitoral stimulation. also he said he's had sex with 30 girls, and they've all orgasmed from sex which I don't think is true? is he trying to manipulate me? he even admitted he's a bastard in bed and that when he's horny he just wants to skip straight to sex so I don't think he's going to change. should I dump him? what would you guys do?

[udolipixie]

Bf doesn't care about pleasuring me?

Seems like a typical guy to me in my opinion if you want him it's suited to involve a vibrator.

is he trying to manipulate me?

Possibly though he could just think your orgasm is your responsibility meaning you do all the work for it which isn't uncommon I find in guys.

should I dump him?

Probably suited to if you want a boyfriend that cares about pleasuring you though in my opinion that's a miniscule minority of guys and then comes in just because the guy cares doesn't mean he will pleasure you as I find guys tend to be more talk than action such as how oh so many guys talk about eating p*ssy yet studies show guys in every age range tend to get more oral pleasure than they give. Though this was about my country, America, so this may not be applicable for you.

what would you guys do?

Egh I wouldn't have even gotten in this scenario as I think guys are basically useless for sexual pleasure however I would have dumped him from the first time he complained.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he doesn't eat you out anymore because you smell down there or he has stuck his penis in you so many times that he doesn't want to taste his penis scent that's in you. My boyfriend just sticks it right away in me too without foreplay. Sometimes he'll do foreplay, but I just want him to stick it in right away because I just want to get to the sex part.

It takes you 20 min to orgasm? It takes me about a minute.

I don't like sucking his d*** either unless it leads to sex and sometimes I don't swallow. I just go to the bathroom and spit it out.

You can orgasm from sex. I know I have.

[pickledxtofu]

Honestly, I know guys on here claim to be p**** eating champs and spend an hour on foreplay, but I'd gather that a LARGE portion of men are like this. Foreplay to men is a chore/hassle, I think.

I'd say break up with him. He already made his admission and you seem rather fed up with it. And with your next partner, make it KNOWN that you will not tolerate negligence. That doesn't mean be a bitch to the next guy, but when you're about to go at it, make sure he fingers you, eats you out etc. Slow him down. And over time it should become a habit or he should take a hint.

[jmurk]

I love licking p***y . All I ask is for you to spread your lips for me and I'll do the rest. Some women can't take it though lol. You seem like an awesome girlfriend. Its a shame that you suck him off and swallow but he won't return the favor. I refuse to have a partner that doesn't do oral.

[Michaelmwm19]

I would dump him, he obviously doesn't care about you and stays with you for one things... one thing he can't even do right!

[britgirl7]

dump him!

[bluexqueen]

Break up he's only in it for his pleasure.

[jdfarmer]

not to sound funny but yes you need to get out of the relationship. you not being satisfied is your intuition telling you to get out of the relationship. listen to your intuition instinct.

[GreatnessPersonified]

Here's an idea: Stop f***ing him.

He's not pleasuring you, you don't pleasure him. Done and done.

[beachgirl1995]

break up with him he is a major dick head!

[Anonymous]

Obviously you need to break up with him

[Anonymous]

Well, you're clearly not happy. So you need to break up.

[Anonymous]

What if you explain why it is important to eat you out? I'm a virgin but I feel like eating a Gil out would be awesome. I think you need to help him understand your pleasure matters too.

[Anonymous]

oh my god that's my boyfriend exactly

he's just lazy, I stopped giving him bj's and he would just get pissed at me, but one night he got so pissed and I started crying and then we really sat down and talked about it and now he gives me some foreplay before and eats me out.

The thing is he still sometimes acts like eating my p**** is a chore, or at least I feel like that, and it still pisses me off...

ugh what to do with guys.