Sort of sexting with a married male friend? (I am married too)

[Anonymous]

Ok I know this has turned into some sort of mess for me but I have been texting my married male mutual friend of ours more lately and the last convo turned sexual and we tried to sext but I think both of us were too chicken I think becaus it didn't get very far and he said he loves dirty texts but he is afraid we will get into too much trouble and that if I wanted I could send him dirty texts but he can't send any back( afraid to get caught I guess ) and I said no it takes two to play so we left it at that. Like if your afraid to get caught why tell me I can still send them ?' Anyways I know I will get flack for this question and I know we made a mess but I am totally confused as to how this came about and why he was all into it at first then wasn't but still wanted me to send some. Like sheesh

[teasegirl]

Because he is prob bored of his life. He got some excitement from the texts, you did too. But I don't know is like playing with fire. Someone eventually will get hurt like your spouses or even yourselves. Maybe try dirty texting with your husband ? Maybe you need to be reminded that you can turn on men in general. Everyone likes to feel desired and you prob don't feel that way with your husband. Just try to spice it up with your man. And try innocent flirting with strangers as an ego booster.

This is my opinion though, since I'm not married. But my analysis is that. Good luck xD

[Asker]

Ya it is probably an ego boost for both of us. We have both been married for 10 years now and a little excitement is nice once in awhile. We have known each other a few years now but gotten closet over the last year. I became attracted to him around that time and I assume he is to me too but maybe not if he doesn't want to sext. And I know he has gotten into trouble before(he has told me) and I also know that their sex life is almost non existent. I feel bad for him

[teasegirl]

I'd say that you have to evaluate your relationship with your husband. In the end the other guy is not really your problem. If he has a sucky marriage is his problem.

[Jonny_]

It's because he still wants pictures, but he doesn't want to get blamed... So if he was caught by your husband he would say 'Oh well I said that I didn't want to, because I didn't want to come between two people and she sent me pictures, I didn't send her anything, blah blah blah her fault'.

[Asker]

I am not sending any pics. And I told him I won't play unless he does its not one sided. He is game for it he just doesn't wanna get caught is his issue

[Jonny_]

Exactly... I'd leave it if he wasn't 100% committed to the idea.

[Asker]

If he wanted pics we knows how to ask. Doesn't mean he is getting any though. Lol

[MyNameIsJonas]

Your married too?

[Asker]

Yes

[MyNameIsJonas]

Sort of cheating then. To answer you question: Maybe he dosen't want to risk his marriage.

[Asker]

That and the fact we have to see each other at least once a week at church and we all get together sometimes so maybe it would be too awkward. Maybe he is not attracted to me like I thought he was? I was up for some fun but he didn't want it to go too far

[MyNameIsJonas]

See if your husband would be OK with swinging

[Asker]

Hahahaha. Us church couples don't do that. Although I would be open to it.

[MyNameIsJonas]

Well... I don't understand why you wouldn't be able to at least suggest it to your husband. Was he your first or something?

[Asker]

Lol. I have mentioned it to him before. He wasn't against it but he said that its not what we were designed to do and it's a sin so therefore we can't do it. And no we weren't virgins when we met. Far from it. I think I miss playtime and all that thrill and so does this guy friend so we wanted to try the sexting out but didn't get very far. I wonder how much sexual tension there will be when I see him next it's going to suck

[Anonymous]

coz he doesn't want to get you pregnant.

[teasegirl]

Text pregnancy is a problem in America for sure

[Asker]

Lol. Can't get me pregnant. He is fixed.

[Opinion Owner]

what do you mean by fixed? that his balls are taken out? means he can get hard but he cannot produce semen? that even if he has semen, it cannot reproduce?

[Asker]

Means he can't have kids.

[Opinion Owner]

some women can't have kids. it's very easy for them. no condoms.by the way do you fart?