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Boyfriend likes to look at my bum?!

I'm trying not to be vulgar but he like will spread my ass cheeks apart and look at my ass hole and I can tell it turns him on. Is this normal? Like when were not having sex and I get him to give me back massages. Whether I'm naked or have underwear on he always manages to do it. And if I don't get mad at him he will try to put his penis there or massage it too. & even if I DO tell him to quit hell just stare at my ass and find ways to spread apart my cheeks hahaha. It doesn't really bother me - it's juts so weird! Guys does this seem normal to you?! Girls what do you think?!
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It's definitely a fetish then. Now that I think about it he always wants to 69 or eat me out when I'm laying on my stomach instead of back and like clearly in that position his face is basically in my crack ha ha and he always insists on fingering me and just staring at what he's doing down there. Oh well ha ha thanks for clarifying!
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Most Helpful Girls

  • A friend once told me that you can divide guys in 2 groups: ass men and tit men. And yours is clearly an ass man. I always thought it was funny that the longer you stay with a guy, the more he shows his fetishes. Nothing wrong with it though.

    Personal note: I once got in bed with a guy after our first date (I know, not too classy) and when he was doing me doggystyle, he put his thumb in my ass. So if a guy you kind of just met does that stuff on a first date, it's a lot weirder than when your BOYFRIEND does it.

    • Oh I know that would freak me out so much if I just met him! I agree completely about how funny it is that they wait a long time before revealing fetishes. I think we'd been dating a year or at least 8 months and he made sure we were extremely serious before revealing anything haha

    • For some yes. But I have eaten ass on a first date -- and the girl loved it. So it takes all kinds. Just know -- a LOT of thumbs are going up a LOT of girls butt holes out there. You did not say you asked him to take it out. How was it? Did it help you orgasm -- honestly?

    • Honestly it was unbelievably hot. But I didn't want to see him again since he doesn't even mind asking me first...

  • Yeh my husband is the same. He loves anal sex and licking and fingering my ass. But I do the same to him, we even tried a strapon a few times, that was fun. Sum guys just love anal play.

  • i think that you should just let him if it doesn't bother you

    • If you'd read my replies to people you'd know that I already so just not daily like he'd want hahah

    • Well, what is wrong with daily? Get used to it. LOT of women spend a lot of time with ass spread. Have him learn to eat your vajayjay while you are on all fours. Nose in butt, tongue on clit. You both are happy. NOTHING wrong with him with face in ass. Just relax more. At this point some of it feels good?

Most Helpful Guys

  • Sounds like you just have a kinky ass boyfriend with a**hole-staring fetish lol

    I mean it's different I guess, but I'm sure they're plenty of guys with crazier fetishes than him

    • I'd rather it be this than ,say, a foot fetish to be honest!

    • Yeah I don't care how well you keep up with your feet, my mouth will not touch them.

    • Agreed!

  • Gotta say, it makes me hot reacing about it and thinking about it.

    Wif will play with mine but doesn't want me anywhere near hers.Sigh. Ah, well, you can't have everythiong.

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  • Maybe he's just an ass man.

  • not "normal" to me but that's what makes fetishes festishes.

  • He probably wants to put his weiner in your butt. Just sayin'.

    :D

    • Well I alrwady know that because we have anal occasionally like 4x a year but staring at it? Isn't that weird? Like can you actually get turned on my a butt hole?!

    • No matter what it is on a woman, there are men that find it erotic as anything. Not kidding here. ANYbANYbody part. If yoy have a cute butthole, the butt men of the world want to look at it. If he likes it a lot, see if he'll go down on it. That's supposed to feel incredible if you're into that kind of thing.

    • Yeah yeah he's done it before. Can't get past the gross factor enough to enjoy it though.

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  • Ain't nothing wrong with the chocolate starfish

    • haha, haven't heard that one yet :)

  • I could get turned on by a butthole if it was attached to the right girl. And the surrounding butt was cute as well.

    But just a random winker? Nah.

  • wtf...

    • Right?!

  • OMG LOL really? ahahah how awkward...

    • Yes. But with the right guy -- would you at least let him try it? Lot girls think they won't be into it. Then all of a sudden you realize: "his face is basically in my crack... kind of a LOT!"

  • Sounds like he is working his way up to anal. Is this something you'd be interested in?

    • We do anal. Just not often. I'm not a huge fan, but will let him sometimes

  • Its normal cause I have the same fetish

  • Its sound very hot, there is nothing wrong to do things with ass, by doing this he is getting orgasm so what wrong?

    yes it is very normal, and enjoy with him, you will get good enjoyment with him, if you will think positively for him

  • Your a**hole is beautiful. Accept that...

    • Nothing is beautiful about ass holes but ok

    • You say that because you're a woman. You're wrong though...

    • Many would disagree. Have you ever seen your asshole? It is easy to put a mirror on a chair after a shower, and see what all the fuss is about. Many girls and women envision a snarling monster. Teeth, fire for breath -- a dark cave of hate. What they actually see is a cute pink, red, lavender tan or brown hole which can be a slit, a star, a circle, etc. In other words, it is as unique as a snowflake or fingerprint. You might be surprised at what you see. Hair can and should be removed if that is an issue. I say laser is the best way to go. Spend some time grooming your butthole, and you get even more pleasure. All I can say is, this is a normal state of affairs in any case -- get used to it: "his face is basically in my crack."

  • Yeah, it definitely sounds like your guy has an ass fetish.

  • lol that's weird

  • Probably a fetish

    • Yes. But with the right guy, would you let him give it a shot?

  • That sounds so hot

    • Have you spread your cheeks --- and showed your ass hole to a guy? Let him look as long as he wants?

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