How long is "right" to wait to lose my virginity?

[Anonymous]

I'm 16 (im 17 this month) I met this guy who is 17 at a friend's 18th birthday party 5 weeks ago. We aren't a couple but we might as well be because of the way we act around each other, we text every day and we've seen each other every week since & kissed etc. We both genuinely like each other & get on soo well. He never pressures me into anything he always asks if its ok to do something or if I'm ok or if I want to stop. At this stage all we have done is he has fingered me a good few times and last nite I gave him head. I'm a virgin (he isn't) but I could see myself loosing it to him, I feel really comfortable with him and I do want to have sex but how long is it right to wait? I definitely wouldn't have sex with him unless we were a couple but we want to take the relationship thing slow and not rush things. i understand everyone has different opinions about this and what is the "right" amount of time to wait. I want my first time to be memorable & I don't want to regret it. thank youu x

[smartsexycool21]

Hmm coming from experience. I am saying you need to wait. You have only known this guy for 5 WEEKS, that's only about a month. You don't really know this guy enough to give him your virginity and just because yall text each other and he seems nice doesn't mean he actually is. If he knows your a virgin he may be playing games to convince you that he is a nice guy so he can sleep with you. Some guys take pride in being the first to have sex with a particular girl. It is like an ego boost. They will play the role to convince you to give it up to them. YOU ARE MOVING WAY TO FAST. Maybe I am the only one seeing this.

Maybe I am old school, (22) but I can't even believe your thinking of giving him your virginity after 5 weeks.

This is something your going to remember for the rest of your life, and if its not right it will be something that you regret for the rest of your life. I understand how you feel cause I was in the same situation as you. I was 18 years old when I lost mine, and I thought the guy was the right one , only knew him for a few months. He turned out to be just playing games and had 2 other girls on the side. He just pretended to be a nice guy so he could be my first and have an ego boost. I cried for weeks after that, and inside I want to die.

I don't know this guy, but you need to continue to get to know him and see how things go. I am just a little afraid for you. You said you were giving him head. He might think that he is already making progress in convincing you have sex with him. LIKE I SAID YOUR MOVING TO FAST.

yall really need to chill out with all this physical stuff and get to know each other on a mental level. Sometimes the physical can cloud your mind. If you can cut out the " head giving" and physical stuff and just relate to each other mentally and spend time with each other you will soonlearn what type of guy he is. I kind feel like the reason you want to have sex is because this is your first time meeting a "nice " guy and your curious about sharing this experience with him. Calm your hormones, you have plently of time in life to have sex. Like I said you need to wait DONT DO ANYTHING YOU WILL REGRET

[Sexxy-lady69]

Well sweety of what you have said it sounds like this boy is a go0od guy because he cares of what you feel and he wants you to feel comfortable with him and stuff but if you think that you are ready to lose ur virginity with this guy and you know that when you lose it with him he won't leave you then yes you can. You see I lost mine when I was 15 with my boyfriend that I have now. Now we are 3 years together and stuff and I met him in a family party when I was 13 and stuff but yea that advice that I give you is that if you trust him that he won't leave you and be there for you when he take ur virginity then yes you can lose it you old enough to lose it

[the-82]

Thats good or whatever that you guys like each other like that, but just because you guys text each other everyday and such that don't mean you've found the right guy to give it up to the onlything it means is that you guys enjoy eachothers company. How long have you guys known each other

Hint hint: can people mainly the girls stop asking if they should lose it to this or that guy don't rush into anything you will know when the time is right and will also know when you have found the right person.

[Dragonblade]

You have a precious gift that you can give only ONE time, so it's important to give it to the right guy. This guy sounds decent enough and shows a lot of respect for you, which is VERY important.

When is entirely up to YOU. No one can tell you when that is. When the time IS right, you will know. Just make SURE he wears a condom.

[johnsmith2116]

Well, everyone has different standards of right. There really is no right amount of time. Things can work out well, and things can go wrong too, and it usually has nothing to do with how long you wait.

As long as the amount of time is right for you, then it is right.