I had a threesome with my best friend and his boyfriend. Now what?

[Anonymous]

my best friend and I have fooled around before. I'm single and a pretty sexual person, so I offered up the idea of having a threesome w/her boyfriend and herself. she was very much into the idea, it happened. it was great, but he wasn't allowed to touch me, which I didn't care. later on in the morning, when he was driving me to my car, he said he had a great time and that "we should do it again." I laughed and said yeah, we'll see here's the thing. I also hooked up with his best friend several years ago. now every time I'm around my friend's boyfriend, I feel like he's looking through my clothes. creepy. is it just me or have I just reduced myself to a sexual object in his eyes now? i asked my friend what she thought about the whole thing, and she said I'm hardly a "slutty" person and it was fun, etc etc no big deal and I was just freaking out. I'm actually into his best friend so I'm worried this might jeopardize my chances with his buddy.

[eurochick]

I have had a number of 3 somes. I think they are difficult if they occur with people who you are good friends with. I think once you have sex with somebody, then you always wonder if they are up for it again even if you are not interested. But if it is fun and everybody is feeling good about it, then why not try it again?

[laceyz565]

Ya you are a slut. A slut is someone who is easy to get with and that's you! Some men are sluts too that's why there called man whores but trying to say your not a whore is like a nun trying to say she's not a virgin

[Asker]

...the problem with your statement is that there is nothing wrong with men and women who are very sexually active. we live in a society where people are shamed for having desires and acting on them. so saying "whore" and slut" are ways of shaming people for doing what they want. it's their way of saying sex is wrong and dirty and anyone who acts on that is a filthy person. you of course are entitled to your opinion, if you think that having sex with whoever I want whenever I want is wrong.

[Asker]

but I of course, am damn proud of it. I love every second of what I do.

[Asker]

link

[Asker]

check out the below link and the whole concept of "slut shaming" as a google search. Once you read up on the info, and if you have decent critical thinking skills, you'll realize how much women and men have been influenced by our media into controlling other women's behavior. once you're aware of it though, it's very empowering to break the mold Think critically and think for yourself. Women face discrimination everyday. We need to stand up for each other, not put each other down. :)

[laceyz565]

I didn't say there was anything wrong with having sexual desires. And I didn't say you were a slut for having sexual desires. What I called you a slut for is having sex with all kinds of different people. And I didn't say necessarily that I have a problem with it I just said you were a slut I didn't say stop being a slut I just called you a slut. So I was just saying what you were I wasn't trying to control your behavior. You said you weren't a slut I was just bringing you a reality check

[laceyz565]

. I read your link and I think that girls do get attacked more then guys. Guys have sex with whoever and they hardley get called names for it.. But to be fair I think if a guy has sex with a lot of people its gross too but not as gross as when women do and probley because of society. And sex can be dirty. You can get stds and things like that. Religious people also don't shame because of society they do it because their beliefs. Do what you want but I recommend safe sex at least

[jlb03]

You probably blew any chance of being "Girlfriend" material, because best friends tell each other things. Especially the holy grail for men, a 2 girl threesome. I think you could however swing an FWB with his best friend, I'm sure he would be game for that.

[yourgirl]

^^What he said

[MrAtticusLebowski]

yep, jlb03 got it. end of discussion here. All he'll be thinking about is how he can get you in a threesome as well. Look nothing wrong with being sexual like this, just try not involving close friends.

[Asker]

thnx guys. that's exactly what I thought :/ it's too bad.

[1inmillion]

Damn where was all the slutty girls when I spent 7 years of my life at colleges?!

[Asker]

i'm a slut because I have the same sexual desires as men but I have the ability to act on them? I guess some of us are still living in that time period, huh? ;)

[1inmillion]

Calm down. You are just another angry princess girl that has a bad attitude and thinks she is perfect.

[Asker]

nah, the world "slut" is incredibly derogatory and sexist. that's all

[1inmillion]

That's your opinion. I said slutty girls, I didn't call anyone a "slut". Calm down princess.

[Asker]

exactly what I'm saying. regardless of whether you're calling me a slut or not (which I think you were initially referring to my behavior as slutty, but you're retracting that statement indirectly, which is ok) saying "slutty" girls is what I'm referring to. it's a derogatory term towards females. its a put down against females who are open about their sexuality. also, if you google the word, part of the definition is that it is a derogatory term. that's not opinion, that's fact, my friend.

[1inmillion]

You are really stretching my words into your opinion. If you read it, I am asking where the slutty girls were when I was in college. Basically I would have enjoyed more MFF threesomes so I am saying it as a wish for myself. Again calm yourself.

[Asker]

...and all I'm saying is the word "slutty" in slutty girls is an offensive term...you're (unintentionally) referring to that kind of behavior as slutty. You're saying you wish there were more slutty girls in college to have MFF threesomes with. Which is saying that the girls who engage in those behaviors are slutty, because there was a lack of them in your college days. perhaps you're using the term extremely loosely, without intending to offend. but it is quite offensive.

[1inmillion]

You asked the question, not me. You aren't perfect and neither am I. If you are trying to outwit me, keep trying but it's not ever going to work.

[Asker]

LOL, alright

[dolfan13]

Now what? do it again.

[Asker]

lol thanks