Wanting to have a 3some with my wife. Have you ever done it?

[skinnyblack28]

now first off I know the risks that can come with having a 3some. it affecting my relationship std's etc etc and thought about it very hard and would be very careful so I don't want anyone in this trying to make a point about any of that. ive never had a 3some and have never had any interest in my life ever to have one since I've met my wife... maybe because I feel so comfortable with her and trust her. ive been wanting to have a mmf 3some with her for a long time. ive never pushed the issue or brought it up casually now and then. she's said at this point in her life she wasn't ready for it I respected it but she knows and said it wasn't weird or anything (btw I'm totally straight) now one night while I was away for work we decided to sext. we role play sexted and I texted to her about me and another man having sex with her and exactly in great detail what we would do with her. she seemed to enjoy it.. she did get off and texted dirty back about it and thought it was hot. i Haven't brought it up since then hoping I plated a seed kinda thing and hope it develops into her wanting to do it eventually without me pushing at all. she did occasionally like anal sex or with fingers while I go down on her. since then I've found every time I go down in her she really enjoys my fingers in both her holes. the other day she told me she wanted me to give her anal sex while I have a toy in her vag. but when I went to do it she got nervous and just wanted to have normal sex. if we have a mmf 3some I really want to dp her its my ultimate fantasy and I never though she'd ask for it. even tho we didn't end up doing it she had to have thought about it and its the first time she's ever expressed that interest. sometimes during sex I also talk dirty to her about having 2 men and she goes along with it and seems to like it but I don't do it too much so she doesn't feel pressured. also when we do decide to it would be with a stranger but one that has respect for us and is there to help us and we would have clear rules set in place before hand etc etc so do you this is something that she's maybe thinking about more now and is slowly turning into something? have you ever done it or thought about doing this with your loved one and how did it go?

[Anonymous]

Okay. As someone who's been through this, let me point out a couple of things.

A LOT of women are turned on by thought of being with two guys at once. However, more often than not, in these fantasies, her pleasure is the focus of the men. They're attentive lovers with one goal in mind, pleasing her.

It's damn hard to find a second guy who has that goal in mind. Most guys you'll find just want to f*ck and get their rocks off, no matter what they tell you.

MMF works BEST when what the WOMAN wants is to be sexually dominated and used by two men. This works best because it's the easiest situation to give. But again, it has to be what SHE wants otherwise it's going to be a disaster.

If you're like most guys who want an MMF, you want it because you enjoy pleasing your woman, and you think that the experience would be incredible for her. I wanted this, and I got my then-girlfriend to agree to it. We had three failed attempts, and third partner never lived up to expectation. Either he wouldn't follow direction, came too quickly, or... look. Reality just never works the way it does in your fantasies. Some things are better just left in that realm.

But if you're okay with seeing her be sexually dominated by another man AND she wants to be, then you might have an easier time of it. Like I said, it'll be a lot easier to find a guy who just wants to get his d*** wet then it will be to find one who meets your criteria.

[MyNameIsJonas]

Well as for her comfort level only you can really find that out for sure. From what your saying she seems like she'd be into it. I'd get a toy or something for her so she can test it out and also watch some p*rn in that capacity together if your not already.

I've had both kinds of threesomes (MFM and MFF) All were with girls I was casually dating/hooking up with. Nothing to serious although if I was comfortable with a girlfriend I wouldn't mind. Best to find people that you can trust and are cool with.

[maisylee]

me and my boyfriend recently had a 3some with a much older male it was very nice but you have to all three go into knowing its just for sexual reason and no lasting type thing but if done right it is very much fun

[summiter]

Do you really want to have another man bone your wife? You and your wife might feel guilty afterward.

[sexhelp101]

I've had basically the same experience you're describing. I just decided to leave it alone because the risk wasn't worth the reward. I think you're obviously aware of the risks, but you're attraction to that taboo act is clouding your ability to keep it in perspective. I don't think your wife wants to risk the relationship.

[cutekid]

Man and wife = couple..

It shouldn't exceed that

[JennieF]

Yeah.

[theotherman]

I've done it with my wife (and her ex) and it's amazing sex for her, it's the height of sexuality for her. But there's two things to consider:

1) How is your love life going to be after that. After that level of stimulation it required a lot of imagination on her part in order for her to be satisfied. The aftermath sex isn't as good as pre-mfm sex.

2) This one is a little more selfish - the images don't go away. At the time I was cool and focusing mainly on my wife, but it's hard not to notice the woman you love and another man having sex. It conjures of fears and insecurities, and I wound up comparing us and my wife's reactions of when he was inside her vs when I was inside her. It became toxic quickly.

[skinnyblack28]

ru still together?

[theotherman]

Yep, madly in love :)

[softouchestony]

Lovely if done with right person

[Anonymous]

My wife and I have been enjoying MMF threesomes with a couple of guy friends for several years. It takes a lot of good communication between you and your wife, and your wife and the second guy.