I have a mole near my vagina area, how do I tell my guy this?

[Anonymous]

It's really embarrassing and with my last boyfriend I tried my hardest to hide it because he was inexperienced.. But this was is very experienced and he'll figure out I'm hiding something. I want him to go down on me soon since we've gotten to that stage, but I'm VERY insecure about this. It's about this size link ... but its kind of between my crotch and my thigh, not on it directly. IT's just VERY embarassing and I was wondering, will he mind? If I just tell him about it can he accept it? Or should I try my hardest to stall where we are sexually and get it removed in the next few weeks?

[COMMODOREII]

Well for speaking for myself, I wouldn't care. lol I ouldnt tell him, and just be yourself. Don't let a mole control who you see, or what fun you can get out of life. Let him explore you, you may be surprised that he likes, it. Maybe he will kiss and lick it. And then again he may not be tuned into that part of your body anyway. lol If he does turn out to be a jerk about it, then at least you will know he is not the one for you. After all a good lover will love you know matter what you look like, or have on your body. :)

[canuck7]

I THINK YOU WORRYING OVER NOTHING. WHAT DO I MEAN? I THIINK MOST GUYS UPON NOTICING IT WOULD JUST THINK- HEY LOOK AT THAT MOLE...I I WAS GOING DOWN ON A WOMAN I FANCIED I CAN ASSURE YOU I WOULD NOT BE PUT OF BY ANY SORT OF MOLE YOU DESCRIBE IN THAT AREA. I THINK IF A GUY WAS PUT OFF THEN HE IS THE ONE WITH A PROBLEM!...

[Stacyzee]

No, it's not an issue.

If you make a huge deal about this...he will too

and possibly even notice it more.

You are fixated on that mole which is why it looks so horrible to you.

He will be caring about how great you feel, and how great your area looks

that he will care less about a mole that is next to it.

Don't worry about it, and be confident.

[mashura]

i have one in a similar place as well, and never had a complaint. I want it removed for personal and health reasins. I'm hoping one day I can afford it lol

[ArabianPwincess197]

What's there to tell he'll see it himself or might overlook it nothing to worry about

[5T3V3]

as a guy, it wouldn't be a problem for me.

however...

if its affecting YOU so much, then consider having it removed because YOU don't like it. have a think whether its actually affecting you, or whether you just believe/think it would affect your guy.

[madhatters4]

you're going to get it removed simply to avoid telling him? and what will you tell him while you have a bandage on your chacha while it heals?

i think you just need to tell people or let them find out for themselves. it's only a mole not a genital wart or something. honestly if a guy is taht freaked out about a mole that you are going to get removed he probably isn't worth the time

remember it's only a mole

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Say nothing. He'll not make a big deal about it, nor should you. He won't mind. If you want to get it removed, get it removed...but not for this guy.

[MrAtticusLebowski]

Dated a girl that had one in the same place. A bit smaller than my pinky nail. Seriously, I never noticed or cared. It was the last thing I was thinking about during sex. You'll be fine.

[tiredofwaiting]

I doubt he will notice or care.

[wbencomo]

dude, seriously, guys don't care. if you're letting him sleep with you, that's the last thing on his mind. the only thing he's thinking about is getting inside of you.

[Anonymous]

I understand how you feel. I have a scar from a surgery on my penis of that size, and I'm also very self conscious about it. Girls have asked me what it was and I've had to explain it them. Your boyfriend should believe you that it's only a mole and he won't make a big deal out of it.

[Anonymous]

you don't have to feel insecure or anything. it's just a mole and he won't make an issue out of it if he's not a jerk. I won't personally mind it at all

[Anonymous]

It will be a non issue.

[Anonymous]

Get over it. A mole isn't anything to be worried about. Ask Cindy Crawford.

It's all in your mind, you know.

Tell him, and if honestly can't hide how you feel about it, don't freak out if he laughs or thinks you're being silly or cute. This is just another example of women finding things to complain about in their bodies, which guys honestly could not give the tiniest f*** about.

[Asker]

No but it's honestly a big 3D mole that he'd have to see when we fool around together ... Won't he be grossed out? ;/

[Opinion Owner]

No.