More men go after the marilyn monroes, as far as I am aware.
I tend to go for pretty thin women as a preference, though ms. monroe is certainly physically attractive to me. In my case I think the answer is pretty obvious - most of the women I grew up around had that body, so it imprinted on me as a kid that that's what 'women' look like.
I don't know what everyone else's excuse is.
I sort of know how you feel though, if you have a body that is probably pretty good but seems like its not the 'standard' that in theory everyone wants (but actually there's more range then you'd think'.
In my case, I can be skinny fat, or I can be lean, but adding muscle is ... really, really, really hard. I see guys post photos here with muscle levels I'd probably need steroids to hit and like 1/2 the girls say 'you should lift some weights'. blargh. That said I know there are a fair number of women who like slim guys. You should also remember that a ton (maybe even majority, but a large minority if not) of guys prefer a marilyn monroe build.
We can't really choose our build. We can be in good shape, or not in good shape. What our body looks like vs. someone else's when we're in shape is heavily based on genetics. But -most- people if in 'good shape for their body type' are actually someone's ideal.
Totally agree with you. My doctor told me its mostly genetics in your body shape and build. I am tall and a bit bigger boned. Do I hate it? Most times yes. I would love to be a bit shorter and have a small frame but then again a lot of my girls friends want my height and body so really it seems as if no one is ever satisfied. I say screw it and enjoy life and take care of yourself as best as you can and be confident and you shouldn't ever have any problems finding a man.
I'll throw my $0.02 on this one. There's is a HUGE difference between being "skinny" and being fit. Just the same as there is a HUGE difference between being thick and obese. You can be thick and be in amazingly good shape, I see it all the time. Guys tend to like women who take care of their bodies, not someone who throws up after eating a piece of cheese. Just as Guys also tend to like thick women over "obese" women. Now obviously there are those that do like "skinny" and those that like "obese", but from my experience it boils down to taking care of your body and being confident in your skin. In the same sense that girls want a guy who takes care of his body. A fit, clean cut and confident man is going to attract more women than a guy who sits on his a*s and pounds down beer and cheese burgers. But as DutchAtheist said, this needs to stop lol. Be confident in your skin and take care of your body, that's the key.
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no problem :)
thank you for the BA :)
Let's reverse this, why do women automatically assume that if another woman is skinny, she's "borderline anorexic"?
If I made half the comments about bigger women that they do about me, I'd probably get charged with harassment or something.
It has to stop. It has to end. Everyone was made a bit differently. Everyone likes something a bit different.
I may have the body of a runway model but that doesn't mean every guy out there thinks I'm attractive.
men don't want borderline anorexic women they wan athletically fit women
they want the woman to have some meat on her or else the sex side of the relationship would suck big time which is why they never desire borderline anorexic women - there is a difference between skinny - athletic women and anorexic women
I don't agree with that at all. Yes there are some men who just desire extremely thin women, but just as many guys like and want women with some meat on the bone.
One of my uncles is a skinny woman man and a saying he use to say cracked us up! ( I want their bones to rattle when I shake them.)
This is meant to put down thin women
Borderline anorexic? Lulz
Could be because women who think they look like Marilyn actually don't
And don't blame your weight for your lack of success with men
I see people are still downvoting you because you're being blunt... I don't see why, I'd prefer someone to tell me the truth than lie to me.
I have to agree with you. It's like okay to bash skinny women lol. I'm 5'6 120lbs and some of my bigger friends call me a skinny b?tch. It's actually pretty annoying so I'm with you on this one
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I tend to agree with StevenJohn. But as a nutritionist/herbalist, people mistake "healthy" for anorexic. Anorexic is when a person pukes up food half hour after eating it. A normal person does not no matter if they are thin or not. Anorexic girls also suffer from malnutrition to an extent. If you can see their rib cage, they are suffering from malnutrition to a degree. Most girs that are thin, you can not see their rib cages. But usually people who are "not perfect" think thin girls are anorexic, when they are not. Some people in general can eat whatever they want, and still be thin as a rail. Where as others can't. This I never did understand in my field. But we all have good qualities mixed with bad. But as StevenJohn said, we should all take care of ourselves. And cheeze bergers made from grass fed beef versus grain fed aren't all that bad for you. Grass fed does not have the same effects of grain fed. just so you know. And beer in moderation is fine, you just have to work off the carbs. But the problem with "weight" in our society today is all the man made foods. This can be a topic in its self, but to keep it short. But with all the "free this, low that" on our store shelves, but we have so many big people. Why is this. Well, this is partly what I have learned over time. But basically, it comes down to man made ingredients in foods and as a whole, man made foods in the American diet that needs to be cut out. So this in a whole is un-healthy, and this is what guys don't like. Either way, anorexic or obese.
Here's the deal with that. Do men like skinny women? Yes. Do men like women with curves? Yes. Truth be told. I been with both types of women, guess what? Every skinny woman I was with were insecure because they didn't have curves. Every girl I was with that had curves, were insecure about there weight. We always want what the other has.
As long as your not extremely skinny or extremely fat, you will always find a guy that views your body as ideal and or perfect for him.
awwwww thank you :)
Borderline anorexic?
Why, every time, when a 'thick' woman sees a woman who is thin and in shape, she must be anorexic, like women are only allowed to either be fat or have an eating disorder.
For me, personally, it has a lot to do with what kind of shape I'm in... When I wasn't as athletic-looking as I was now, I really didn't mind a decent amount of extra meat on the bone, so to speak. Although there are plenty of in-shape men who prefer a bit of weight to their women. That's just not me though.
Now that I am in shape, I tend to prefer women who are just as fit (read: fit, not skinny.) as me. Not only do I just find that look attractive, it also means they are disciplined enough to go to the gym regularly, control what they eat, and just generally take care of themselves.
DID I SAY IN SHAPE WOMEN WERE ANOREXIC? NOOOOOOOOOO
DID YOU TALK IN ALL CAPS TO GET YOUR FAILED POINT ACROSS? YESSSSSSSSSS Anyways, you linked perfectly healthy women who you claim are 'borderline anorexic.' They aren't. Get over it.
lol you are a jerk
Women do have high standards, and so do men... You can't say going for a Marilyn Monroe figure isn't high standards, she's outstandingly beautiful. Oh and I'm someone who doesn't care what size the person I like is, it's just that the argument seems to be very one sided here.
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Yep, I don't expect you to believe me... Especially with the update you're just posted.
This man isn't attracted to skinny women.
You're too influenced by the media,and weight loss has been a big industry for about 80 or 100 years with plenty of help from the media (it's their bread and butter).
Take a model out for dinner.Q:"Would you like more?".
A: "No thanks,I couldn't spew up one more single thing".
Give me a healthy woman any day,even if she carries a little extra weight.Women are meant to carry a little more than men.
LOL THANK YOU :)
Healthy doesn't mean she carries more weight, healthy is all about the BMI scale and individual fat percentages accompanied with metabolism. I know plenty of women that eat like cows and maintain a consistant 120lbs and on the opposite spectrum, I know girls that eat and diet perfectly while going to the gym 3-5x a week, are able to beat my 5 mile running speed and still sit at 140-160lbs. Also, to throw every model into a single, anorexic profile is down right stupid.
But I do agree with you about the media, they are wrong on MANY levels.
lets not talk in absolutes...obviously not every guy loves very skinny women otherwise there would be way more single women right?
as for why SOME men may like skinny women. they may like the idea of a woman small enough that they can feel more dominant. some people are under the impression that a woman will gain weight throughout life so if they date a skinnier girl then there is less chance that they will be obese
but I think the biggest culprit is media. media has always dictated what beauty is and for decades going back to the late 50s beauty was seen as a very svelte woman and the size has just gone down progessively as time moves forward... So honestly I'd blame the magazines, make-up and women's clothing ads etc.
There's been a survey disproving this view quite well documented in Winfried Menninghaus' "Das Versprechen der Schönheit" (Suhrkamp: 2007) among other "myths" and a history of beauty and styling preferences of the past centuries. They showed silhouettes of women with certain BMI values and asked men to choose the most attractive figure.
Only about 3% of the men even find this kind of "anorexic" figure attractive for ONS, and as little as 0.2% would see a woman of this shape as a potential partner for a long-term relationship inlcuding marriage and children.
Obese women on the other hand (BMI 30+) are as well only attractive to about 4% for sexual relationships and to roughly 11% for long-term relationships.
The average preferences for men lie in a BMI span from 23 to 27 (40% for ONS, 55% for long-term).
It's just a survey but the figures are interesting (no pun intended...)
This needs to stop.
Seriously.
Go to a major p*rn site, look up the "most popular videos" section and look at the women in them.
Men do not jack off to the women in Vogue!
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Okay this made me feel SO much better. 1. You weren't rude and butthurt 2. Gread credibilty
Any answer that isn't telling you what you want to hear is rude...
@pickledtofu of course ;)
Marilyn wasn't as 'voluptuous' as you are assuming.
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Why do women love big penises? Can a guy catch a break?
Not too thin. I don't want to see rib cages . I don't like obese women either.
You know Marilyn monroe was like a size 2 right? She was TIINNY, had the smallest waist and HUGE tits.
Those pictures that are going around the internet are of her when she was her hugest.
That is like saying all girls found Elvis sexy when he was fat and died on the toilet. That is frankly untrue. They liked him when he was young and fit and healthy.
I bet if Marilyn Monroe was alive today, women would call her anorexic.
Here is the truth about her size
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Can a girl catch a break? No, if you ladies pressure men to even more unattainable standards.
I like girls who range from skinny but not anorexic to just slightly chubby. However, ideal for me is petite girls who is short and about 65/35 skinny/curvy.
So in other words, ideal for me is thin, but not so thin that her ribs are showing, but with noticeable curves.
Anorexic? If a guy wants a girl that he can snap in half, he has issues. A lot of women think guys want super skinny twig women and that's not the case. As long as a woman isn't too heavy, she can still dates, marriage, whatever her heart desires.
i don't get why some girls do but some guys are also into really fat girls so who are we to judge
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