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I am a virgin and my male doctor is forcing a pap smear?

I am a virgin. I am giving a male doctor a try for the first time. I have had white, black, and Indian women doctors in the past. My male doctor currently is forcing and reiterating that I should get I pap smear. Yes, I know the recommendations for pap smears. My women doctors were aware of my virginity and I know I did not want a pap smear. None of the women doctors reiterated or tried to force me to get one. They let me make my own decision and left the issue of a pap smear alone. The reason why I included the women doctors’ races because I just thought it was important to describe them because they all come from different backgrounds and cultures. I just feel like this male doctor is over stepping his boundaries. I pap smear is supposed to detect cervical cancer which none one in my family has and I read other reasons why a person may have cervical cancer and I do not fit in any category. I know it may be a very small chance of any cancer because of the symptoms. I just feel like this male doctor is not respecting me and I want to go back to woman doctor. Please give me any advice and be sensitive because this a serious question. Thanks
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  • from what I know pap tests aren't recommended for women who are not sexually active. The PAP Test is used to detect cervical cancer and specifically HPV which, if you're not sexually active, wouldn't be an issue

    per the US Preventive Health Task Force: "There is little or no benefit to screening women who have not had sexual contact"

    so my thinking is that the doctor may

    a...not believe you are a virgin

    b...be concerned due to participation in oral sex or other sexual activity

    c...perhaps believes you have had sexual contact with a woman (if so they do recommend the PAP test)

    d...OR simply wants to be able to bill your insurance for the service

    I would ask him why he thinks it's necessary since all research says there is no reason for the test for women who are not sexually active. however, understand that sexually activity refers to oral sex, skin to skin dry humping, or sexual activity with a woman and NOT only sexual intercourse

  • Either he is stupit or he thinks that you might be one of those rare cases of patient zero HPV girls who get it without having sex don't ask me how I don't know if it is even probable

    • i thought that too "are cases of patient zero HPV girls"

    • no patient zero is if I'm not mistaken virgin status with a human partner LOL Anyway You almost certainly could not have HPV because you are a virgin anything is possible but talk About over caution.

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  • I think nobody can tell if he's overdoing it/ being a pervert or purely practicing like any regular doctor would. I think you're being overly sensitive because you're a virgin (not implying that your arguments are invalid, it IS true it might not be absolutely critical to get this test at this very moment). If you feel uncomfortable and you firmly believe this doctor is stepping over your personal boundaries, fine, you can search for another doctor. Maybe you'll feel more at ease with another one, who knows.

    Either way, please don't make up your mind about all male doctors being perverts, just because things aren't working so great with this one. I, too, don't feel very much at ease with male gynecologists, but I've since figured out that my health comes first and that there are lots of uncomfortable things a woman will face in her life. Sometimes, there's just no other way around it.

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    These are things you should consider and to talk to your Dr. about I also want you to think about this. Cancer doesn't care if your a virgin or not, it does not care about your family history it does not care how healthy you think you are. As long as you have a cervix then you will always be at risk no matter how small of a risk that is. Early detection is the best chance of. surviving.

  • I don't see what the huge issue is with you and a pap smear. Why would you not want to take every precaution to keep your body totally healthy.

    In the end it is your decision and he cannot force you to get the test

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  • If you do not feel comfortable with your doctor you can always change to another one.

  • it is in your best interest to have one done, but ultimately it is your decision,x

  • You're supposed get annual pap smears once you've had sex or once you've turned 18. How is he over stepping his boundaries? He is telling you what's recommended for everyone.

  • 1. Tell him no. He cannot force you to do anything.

    2. If he doesn't listen or tries to press the issue, get a new doctor

    3. Women in their 20's with no family history of cervical cancer should NOT be getting pap smears. They do more harm than good. Turn them down until you're in your 30's, whether you're sexually active or not.

    • What harm do they cause? (Honest question)

    • I shouldn't say "harmful" more highly unnecessary. Pap smears can cost upwards of 1000$ which adds unnecessary healthcare costs for one thing. Pap smears in younger women can actually show false positives which would scare the crap out of anybody. Also, they've been doing pap smears on women who've had hysterectomies. Those women have 0 use for a pap smear. Just basically a lot of wasted time and money. Most doctors require a pap smear to get bc, when the two have nothing to do with each other

  • Given the rising rate of cancers of many types, most women get pap smears. Why take the risk of dying over such a small thing?

    The doctor is just doing his job, following recommendations by medical professionals. Your women doctors were being oh so sensitive, yes, but they were letting you take silly risks, imao.

  • It's your decision if you will get one or not but it is recommended. Cancer can still develop even if it's not common in your family. Have a female doctor perform the pap smear. Better safe than sorry.

  • What country are you in? Some countries have rules regarding how easily you can change your Doctor.

    • usa

    • In America you can change your Doctor no problem.

  • You own your body, and can rightly refuse any treatment at any time. Don't feel bad about switching doctors if you're not comfortable with the level of advice / counsel you're getting from this one.

    With that said, there is a well documented reason for doing pap smears, and if you detect cancer early it can save your life. Keep that in mind as you consider the following:

    How exactly, is a woman's virginity affected by having a pap smear? It would appear that still not having been penetrated by a man's penis, her virginity would remain intact.

    Have you had a pelvic exam before? Did the doctor use a speculum? If so, there's really not much difference between inserting a speculum and dabbing a cotton swab on what it reveals to collect a sample.

  • If you are a virgin you will be one after the pap smear.

    • Yep, this.

    • i think the point of mentioning virginity is that pap tests are recommended for women who are sexually active to detect HPV. If you are not sexually active then it is very VERY unlikely that you'd have any form of cervical cancer.

    • Funny but not true.

  • You should just tell him, it's your body, so you'll do whatever you want with it or call him a professional pervert. :)

    • or write a letter of complaint to the clinic, he works for.

  • You can't lose your virginity by a pap smear. It's your doctor's job to advise what's best for you, a pap smear is good medical protocol at your age thus this male doctor is NOT over stepping his boundaries.

    • Cervical cancer can have other origins than sexual contact.

  • He can't force you to do anything. If he makes you uncomfortable, get a new doctor or go back to one of your previous doctors.

  • If you're a virgin with no family history of Cervical Cancer then you should not be worried about needing a pap smear until you become sexually active. I'm 20, also a virgin and I haven't had a pap smear yet either because my gyno said with no sexual activity or history of cancer you don't need to get one. I think that your doctor is being a little pushy, though he is only taking your health into concern. I would say switch doctors and wait on the pap smear. good luck!

  • Why did you stop going to the other doctor(s)?

  • There are lots of opinions on - it's your body, you can do what you like. Which I completely agree with.

    But instead I have a question, which I think may find the underlying issue here - why don't you want a smear?

  • i was a virgin until 30, and haven't had a pap until I was sexually active.

  • When I was a virgin my doctor, who is a woman, told me there's no need for one now, but when you turn 21 and if you're still a virgin we would need to do one, I don't remember why it's 21, but that's what I was told

  • If a doctor forces you to do anything find a new doctor. You always have the choice to say if you want to or don't want to do something

  • You can change your Doctor.

    Just don't sue him for malpractice if it turns out you did have cancer.

    • I do not have any signs. I am healthy so far. Thank GOD! All my blood work is good!

    • If those were diagnostic tools, no one would need a pap smear. Cop on.

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