In women, what is the difference between an orgasm, climaxing and cumming?

[KedyKade]

Is an orgasm the point where you climax? If a woman doesn't cum, does that mean she did not climax. I have researched this a lot and I have come to the conclusion that men come when they have an orgasm, but only few women come when they climax. Am I wrong, I never really understood... My boyfriend and I have mind blowing sex he drives me crazy, I don't think any drug could make me feel so high, tears stream from my eyes, the bed is soaked with our sweat; we are dripping, my legs are trembling. So the sex is awesome, yet I never came. And I read somewhere that some women can't. Is it because we have sex too often (for the past few years at least once everyday or every other day)? So help me out here guys and gals. I'm confused about this.

[kheserthorpe]

Generally women use 'cumming' to mean orgasming, and if they mean a female ejaculation would say so, often calling it 'squirting'.

For men, orgasm and ejaculation are separate things that usually happen together. But not always. Its possible to learn to separate them more. Generally the goal would be to do this because its ejaculation that causes a loss of erection, NOT orgasm, so if the man learns to orgasm without ejaculation, he can have multiple orgasms before finally ejaculating. On the other hand its possible to have ejaculation with virtually no orgasm. Which sucks.

[KedyKade]

Oooo. Thanks alot, very enlightening :)

[KedyKade]

Is it normal for a woman to be able to squirt? Does that happen to most women, some women or few women?

[kheserthorpe]

Well I don't know what you mean by 'some' vs. 'few'. I don't think the majority of women -have- ever squirted. It is an open debate whether all women are capable of it or not. Some women have done it but don't especially enjoy it, believe it or not.

[KedyKade]

I meant it like small, medium and large amounts, but you answered what I wanted to know anyway... Why don't you enjoy it if I might ask

[kheserthorpe]

I didn't say -I- didn't enjoy it. I meant I've spoken to women who've done it a few times and don't seem to really care if they do again.

[KedyKade]

lol sorry! misread you completely there hahaha :P OK so the hype is not so much for squirting... so I can stop obsessing now lol Thanks a lot

[kheserthorpe]

Some people love it, some are indifferent. I don't see any reason why a woman wouldn't try to fully learn her body, including g spot, a spot, etc. etc.

[madhatters4]

it's all the same in regards to a woman. for mean c*mming means ejaculation which is distinctly different from climax or an orgasm although they usually all happen about simultaneously.

your issue of not orgasming is probably not due to having sex so often. some women just don't or have a difficult time reaching an orgasm

[KedyKade]

lol thisis so complicated... there are times during sex especially after we've been at it for a while, when I get so high and the feeling is unlike anything else... is that an orgasm then?

[madhatters4]

i think you would probably know an orgasm when you felt it but yeah that feeling of being high is part of it. muscle contraction in your pelvic and vaginal area, and a basic climax. have you ever masturbated? if not try doing that, stimulate yourself to the point of orgasm so you know what it's like.

[KedyKade]

Well hat must be it then yayyyyy! Glad to know for sure now that I have been climaxing all this time. The other thing; I tried it and it doesn't work for me, I get no pleasure from masturbation, when he does it I go crazy though, but I think it might be because my fingers are too small lol and I refuse to use a dildo, unless sometime in the future I have sex with a girl maybe I'll use it but anywho that self stimulation does not work for me. But thanks a million :)

[madhatters4]

i'm not sure how easy it is for a woman or anyone to masturbate to orgasm vaginally but it is really easy to orgasm masturbating the clitoris

[KedyKade]

Well I really don't like him just rubbing my clit... As a matter of fact, that makes me kind of annoyed lol but his fingerf*cking me sends me to the moon I wish he would never stop! He occasionally rubs my clit too but I usually stop him (in a sexy way of course) so as I said he doesn't do that much. I guess I'm just different like that, but don't get me wrong I love being different :P

[madhatters4]

everyone's different. my girlfriend only responds to fingering her clit, nothing when fingering inside. however when she has sex she does orgasm that way... everyone's different

[KedyKade]

Yep :) Thanks so much for all your help :)

[iPood]

I've always been under the impression that all those words mean the same thing? Climax *is* cumming and cumming *is* having an orgasm so they're all different ways to say the same thing.

Some women can't come from sex. I read once that the closer the clit is to the vaginal opening, the more likely it is that she will be able to orgasm. The amount you have sex won't decrease your chances of orgasm, actually I'd think it would be opposite.

[KedyKade]

thanks :)

[katiesmuff]

Pretty much means all the same just different ways of describing it.

[KedyKade]

^_^ Thank you :)

[Boris9397]

It's all the same.

[KedyKade]

ok :) thanks

[FriendlyGiant1]

Sounds to me like you are using the word "cum" to refer to the act of female ejaculation...If so, I would say that all men ejaculate when they cum...but only a small percentage of women actually ejaculate when they cum. Thus, women can achieve orgasm with no involuntary liquid secretion, men cannot...Does this help?

[KedyKade]

yes... THANKS!

[FriendlyGiant1]

yw ;-)

[tiredofwaiting]

It is the same thing but it is different wording.

[Anonymous]

As far as I know an orgasm and a climax are the same, cumming can refer to a plain orgasm, or it can refer to female ejaculation.

[KedyKade]

Thank you :)