Extremely bicurious, but I have a boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

heyy guys and girls, so I am in quite a dilemma. I have been with my man for three and a half years now and the sex is (meh ok) but I do love hom and care about him. recently I have been having these feelings of desire to do something sexually with a hot girl, like I have feelings of wanting to caress another woman and feel my hot body against her hot body and I want to grab her ass and boobs and kiss her, even go as far and rubbing her p**** and fingering her and having it done back to me. I've kept this thought secret from my boyfriend but I'm still very curious and wanna try it I don't know what to do because I have a boyfriend at the same who I still love and care about :( :( what should I do you only live oncee!

[ilovelegs]

It's not good to keep suppressing feelings like that on and on. Suppressed feelings like that aren't healthy and will eventually affect your feelings towards your boyfriend. Just tell him you've been having these thoughts and feelings about hanging out/hooking up with some girl just to see how it goes. Tell him that hot girls not only look sexy to men but also to many other girls as well. He needs to know you're going to keep having these unsatisfied feelings until you do something about it. Assure him it's nothing that will affect your feelings or change the love you have for him. Who knows, it might even improve your relationship and feelings towards your boyfriend plus he may start seeing you as a more sensual and sexual woman. Plus it may turn him on tremendously! I wouldn't suggest any three-some type of arrangement because then that puts him right in the picture, and it's your feelings and desires you're wanting to fulfill and satisfy, not his! Stop being just bi-curious and just get out there and try it. Also, just give a little thought to what you're going to tell your boyfriend and then someday when you're close together just get it out and tell him. No need to be hesitant and shy because once you start telling him your little fears will vanish into the air and you'll be so happy that you've finally told him. You'll sigh with relief! It's my guess that he'll be just fine about it and you'll wonder why you waited so long. You may be very surprised how he even supports you. Good luck!

[Asker]

thanks for the advice :) this is really reassuring! I think the thing I'm scared/nervous of most is him seeing me as a different person and not being okay with it. I want him to still trust me and love me for who I am and I can't help these feelings and curiosity and desires that I have, I'm still young I'm only 22!

[ilovelegs]

I think a lot of girls are curious at your age and younger too about that. The most important person you have to live with the rest of your life is yourself. You can't fool yourself and neither can anyone else fool themselves. It's not like you're wanting to experiment with some other guy. The very fact that you'll be talking with him should make him trust you more. Just keep it "lite" at the start to test his reaction. Then you can take it from there without the risk of saying too much.

[Asker]

thank you so much for the advice :)

[Anonymous]

ME personally, I am of the mind that if you were to ask me then it is not cheating. Maybe he too thinks that sex with you is "meh ok" and it could be used to fire up the passion. He may also think or feel or believe that it is also an invitation to have a threesome or that it is okay if he sees her/someone else for sex. Now if you see her behind my back and have sex, female or male, then it is cheating. Honesty is best. How does he feel about g/g sex? Sex that does not include him in anyway, not watching, listening or participating or hearing about it. If he is all for you "experimenting" one time to see if it is for you - why not. Then figure out from there what you want/need or will allow or ask for.

[Asker]

i completely agree, I would never cheat on him and that's why I'm being so cautious on the subject

[Opinion Owner]

So communicate with him. It was, sexually, one of the best things my wife and I did ~ we talked. I was interested in giving and getting oral and maybe anal with another guy and her receiving oral from another female not to mention the both of us sharing. IT really spiced up our sex life - she found she is more the once in a year type of girl and I well, for me it does not matter, sex is great however I get it!

[KedyKade]

You should tell him, but in a funny way first just to see how he reacts lol then talk to him more seriously after you've joked about it for a while. You should explain to him exactly what you said here and ask him what he would think if you ever brought another girl home. After hearing his opinion you would know whether he would be OK or not. My way of trying to get what I wanted (p*ssy and boobs) was by telling him I was thinking of a threesome. We have been together 5+ years. He said no :( :( :( but it's OK, because I know he'll give in at some time or the other in the near future hahaha So if you think he might not want you to try it then offer him a threesome :) Wanting a woman doesn't mean you love him any less :)

[Asker]

ah thank you! it feels good hearing about someone who was in the same boat I am in right now haha, see other people say"what guy would say no to a threesome" but some men do say no!

[KedyKade]

Yep :(:( :( I have so much pent up sexual energy :( I'm gonna get him soon *wink wink* lol

[Blondeandfree]

Bring up talking about the fantasies of both of you and you could lead the conversation into the fmf threesome fantasy and wait how he reacts. Most of guys dream about that fantasy and if you bring it up he may be turned on just by thinking about it. Then you both could decide which would be the girl to make real your fantasy.

[Asker]

some more great advice thanks :) I think the main thing that's making me nervous is that he takes it the wrong way that he can't please me (cause he does get really uptight about stuff like that) and that I'm not into him anymore and for some crazy reason a threesome doesn't appeal to him (which I know probably isn't the case but still.. )

[Blondeandfree]

As you're talking about that you could tell him that in your fantasy you and the other girl are pleasuring him together licking his d**k and while he is f*****g you he's eaten her up while she and you are French kissing each other and massaging the boobs to each other, but always the three of you together and while he's doing it doggie style to you you're eating out the girl or while he's f*****g her she's eating you out. But all together, not only you and her.

[Asker]

i see you mean getting him all hot and horny thinking about these sexy naughty things id be saying rather than just straight up asking him to have a threesome give it a little spice and put a mental image in his head:)

[jamesma87]

I would talk to your boyfriend, there's a decent chance he would be into that if he could be a part of it as well

[sovetskii13]

Tell him about this fantasy. He should be happy to hear about it. And if you want, ask him to join.

[wbencomo]

sh*t if you tell him he will probably get turned on by it

[Asker]

you think? I know everyone is telling me "threesome" but I also fantasize about experimenting just girl on girl with no man..

[JennieF]

Could you interest him a s threesome?

[Anonymous]

PLEASE. I need to know what happened!!

[Opinion Owner]

I may be in the same situation

[Anonymous]

Your answer is called "threesome", you might have heard about it before :-)

If you don't want a threesome, you might let him watch.

Personally, if my girlfriend wants to have sex with another woman, I don't have a problem with that. I'd certainly like to participate or watch, but even if now, I don't care as long as it's just sex.

[ashleyboydell92]

how did that affect your relationship? were you totally fine with it?

[Opinion Owner]

Not at all, I guess. I mean, I'm sure she feels desire for other men as I do for other women; it's just that I could never offer her what a woman could (sexually) so as long as it's just sex, I'm OK with it.

[Anonymous]

We have VERY similar situations. I am an extreme boyfriend but I have a bicycle.

[Asker]

huh?

[Opinion Owner]

On second thought yea maybe we have slightly different dilemmas.

[Asker]

dude.. not too sure what you're trying to say in all honesty lol

[Opinion Owner]

I was the answer to all your hopes and dreams but now I have this down vote and...

[Anonymous]

Offer up a threesome!

[Asker]

ive actually considered asking him that... I've also been determining if I should tell him I may be bisexual.. any tips on how I should approach that subject? seriously I'm like shaking in my boots right now!

[Opinion Owner]

Some people get scared off when someone announces out of nowhere they're bi-sexual and they view it as a threat to the relationship. I would recommend that you're curious sexually about women and that you'd like to include him in your curiosity! No guy is going to say no to a threesome. =P

[Asker]

very true.. haha. you know I've probably asked him that before when we've been drinking or something and he's said yes lol. thanks for the advice ill do just that :)

[Opinion Owner]

No problem! Have fun!