Which is more important giving or receiving pleasure during sex?

Question

This is for both guys & girls to answerWhat is more important in determining whether a sexual experience was "good", A) how good you felt because of how skilled your partner was at pleasuring you or B) how good your partner felt because of how good you were at pleasuring them?  I know these somewhat overlap because both receiving pleasure and giving pleasure are, well, pleasurable in their own rights but what I'm wondering is do you base how good the sex was more on how good your partner made you feel physically (s/he gave you a  great orgasm for example) or more that you felt very good at pleasing your partner?I know both of these facets come into play during sex and that it is overall more complicated than this single question,  but I'm just curious which do you personally give more weight  when determining what makes a sexual encounter overall more enjoyable? Is feeling validated and skilled as a lover more important than received physical pleasure or vice versa?Thanks for taking the time to read this and hopefully answer

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Personally, I need both. If she enjoyed it but I didn't, I don't consider it good sex (this has happened to me a couple times). If I notice she isn't enjoying it (or I feel she's being theatrical and/or faking it), I stop enjoying it as well.

If I don't have both, I don't enjoy sex and can't consider it good sex.

sovetskii13 · Accepted Answer

They are equally important. Since sex between two people involve two people, both parts (giving and receiving) are important. If something is not good, it changes the whole experience. Each person can care more about one or the other, but at the end... both are equally important to have a good sexual experience.

Jbgurl20 · Accepted Answer

Giving and receiving are both important. If you receive then it's just right to give. So both are very important. It's nof just about receiving or giving. In order to have good sex you must have both.

archer86 · Answer

The simple fact that I'm getting it is enough for me.  From there, I go out of my way to give an equal or greater amount back to her.  This is what teamwork is all about :).

tom-tom-traveler · Answer

Without question, giving is better.

zdagger · Answer

B for the exact reason you gave.

yaddayaddayadda02 · Answer

Pleasing the other person. I like to put on a good performance.

abw121290 · Answer

I honestly get more pleasure knowing that I made my partner happy and there is nothing I enjoy more that knowing that she climaxed muktiple times because of me.  However, I do like the girl to have the skills necessary to maker happy.

Dandeus · Answer

I don't see them as separate.  The best way to get A is to do B.  I think if you can blow a girl's mind in the sack she's gonna do everything she can to return the favor.

TwiztedTD · Answer

To me its more important to give pleasure than receive.  Although sometimes its nice to receive.  I get a lot of satisfaction knowing a girl really enjoyed herself. So I choose B.