I was molested when I was a child by another child. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

When I was 5 years old I was molested by an older child. That encounter caused me to catch meningitis to to be put in the hospital. 2 years later this same kid and I were put into the same primary school. I was terrorized for 4 years by him... When I would see him I'd get silent and lower my head because I knew what was coming. His snickering, pulling my hair and always the whisper of "I remember". I remember in first grade I couldn't sleep or sit alone with the guilt of knowing what happened. Sometimes, I appeared to cry for no reason at all. Finally, that year... I confessed to my mom. "I had sex with Lucas" I cried to her, confused and scared out of my mind. She's now sitting up in her questioning me. Asking whether or not his "peepee" had been put into my body. She never asked about at we did beyond that. She didn't know that he made give hin oral. She didn't know how he touched me and stripped me of my clothes. My mother never question how the daycare provider could let this happen, but I remember. Ms.Pat was her nam and she had a grandson that she loved. She would leave us down stairs behind baby gates, while she was up stairs. I had forgotten all of this until lately. I've been having nightmares and I'm scared to sleep. 18.5 years old... I'm still not over this. I can't talk to anyone. My boyfriend wonders what's wrong with me, but I can't tell him. I'm just scared and embarrassed that this went on for years and still traumatizes me. What should I do? Ironically, my stepmother is a lawyer for this kind of thing. I don't know if I should tell her.

[MissConfused93]

Tell your boyfriend. Trust me. He needs to know, so he's prepared when you two are intimate and you might get a flashback or something so he can be prepared and be more sensitive and gentle towards your feelings.

Get a therapist.

& personally I would get the lawyer involved. Sue someone. No, it won't solve anything but you might as well get some money out of this traumatic experience.

I too was molested as a kid and therapy and telling my boyfriend helped tremendously. You have no reason to be embarrassed

[yaddayaddayadda02]

You can talk to people. Being scared, embarrassed and hiding the truth has not done you any bit of good.

There's nothing legal you can do at this point. Even if there was, since he was a child as well, there's no jail time he'd get.

However, you can get therapy to fix your issues and work through them.

Good luck.

[InquisitiveMale]

I'd say the same thing. You're not fixing anything while your backs turned to the issue. What happened was horrible but it happened; don't try and pretend like it didn't.

[madhatters4]

you should really talk to a therapist. ask to talk to one. you need to be able to process all this with a professional who can give you advice on how to manage your feelings, overcome the grief and how you can talk to loved ones about it.

I really really suggest doing this... sorry to hear about your ordeal

[Cromartie]

Basic therapy will do. The rest actually solves itself.

[Dandeus]

Your stepmother should be able to set you up with a therapist or counselor that can help you deal with it properly. You need to address it fully, because ignoring it will only make things worse. You should NOT feel guilty for what was done to you and you should not feel embarrassed or ashamed for not being over it. You were a scared kid. That's not something you can expect a person to just forget about and ignore.

[Anonymous]

A lawyer may not be the best therapy and the statute of limitations have run out. When I was 4 I was molested by our housekeepers daughter who was 7 at the time. It probably affected me in some ways. I suggest seeking a sex therapist. That way you could get some understanding on how it affects you. Best of luck to you