Would you date a person who is on medication (anti depressants)?

[Anonymous]

Say you meet a girl and she is very attractive and fun to be around and you like her a lot. She seems totally normal, she studies, has a jo, friends and a good relationship with her family. After a couple of months of getting to know one another, she tells you she is taking antidepressants. What would you think of her? Would you start treating her differently? Would you break up with her? I am kind of like the girl I described on top. I have been diagnosed with minor OCD, but it was very annoying, so my therapist told me I could get medication to get better. I do not want to be obsessed al my life, I want to get better, be happy and my obsessions were getting in the way of that. At first I was afraid of medication, but now, after many months of taking it, I feel a lot better, my obsessions are quite gone and I just feel better overall. I am actually supposed to stop taking the medication in a couple of weeks. My personality has not changed, I can do everything I used to do, I can work out, go out and everything. Also, I heard they could affect your sex drive and make you anorgasmic, but it wasn´t the case with me, I´m very much horny still If I told this to a guy, would he be freaked out? How can I tell him?

[Sovereign1979]

To be honest, I would accept you more so with that ailment. Honestly, in not all cases it isn't an "ailment". Its just how you are and that can be a good thing in most cases. As a business owner, I would love to hire someone like that, as long as the work is fun, that type will get a lot done.

Honestly, these meds will not "fix a person". You have to stay dependent on them for life in order for them to stay working. If you come off, that could be a major mood swing as your body is immune to taking them. I have seen a lot of people "go off the deep end" after being on these pills for a while. Plus, the toxicity in ALL pharmaceutical drugs is not worth most of them. And that toxicity sits in you liver and becomes fatty after long term use.

Honestly, the natural or holistic forms of medicine for this and other "mental" diseases like ADD & ADHD like I have are a ton better than the pharmaceuticals.

Since I have seen a ton of people "go off the deep end" by being on lots of kinds of pharmaceuticals, I broke up with one girl years ago for being on them and "changing", and the taker never thinks they have changed, its always the people around them that notice if they knew them before hand. I would tend to stay away from people that take drugs. Its the legal ones that have all the side effects and can kill you. Just listen to a drug commercial, why would I want to take a drug to cure one thing if it is going to cause 10 other things to go wrong.

These drugs never "fix" the problem intended, they just put a band-aid on them and cause others while the problem still exists.

[Anonymous]

I dated a girl for years who *wasn't* on anything for OCD. I wish she had been. I dated another girl who I helped get on antidepressants. Worked a lot better after that. So, yeah. I would - you sound pretty good.

If you've been with a guy for a bit, and he can see you're not crazy? He's not going to worry too much. If he does freak out, give him a chance to cool down, send him a link to wikipedia, tell him, "hey, you're being a jerk," and wait. If he's worth anything, he'll calm down & apologize.

Don't forget therapy helps!

[Robbey]

I would date someone who took anti-depressants. There is no reason to be ashamed of taking medication for an illness.

If it's someone you trust and you feel it's something about you that you would want to share with him, then I would suggest being straightforward about it.

I don't know if it effects a girl's sex drive but depending on the medication, it will often have sexual side-effects for guys. I had a boyfriend who took either Prozac or the one that starts with the letter Z (I forget the name). He could get and maintain an erection just fine, but it took him forever to come. Naturally, this embarrassed him and gave me some insecurities (and a sore jaw and neck!) but it wasn't something that couldn't be worked-out (the relationship ended for other reasons). There are also anti-depressants that don't have sexual side-effects.

My point is that anti-depressants aren't something that should stop you from pursuing love and romance.

[Anonymous]

I don't see how that would be a problem. Specially if you're going to therapy I'm assuming you would stop the medication eventually.

One of my best friends is bipolar and takes medication and I f***ing love her! She is one of the best people I know. Sometimes she has her moments but it's understandable. Other time is pure bratness lol and when it's just her being a brat a good talk brings her back to her norm.

She is 20 years old and I met her when she was 15. She's taken medication ever since I've known her. She got married less than a year ago. I don't see how some pills would make someone be more or less wanted or loved.

[Bethany94]

I totally would. (Well, a guy, because I'm straight). I'd be more worried if they needed the meds and weren't taking them.

[Jonny_]

Doesn't bother me, although I don't really see why some people feel the need to confess everything. I mean it's personal information, you don't have to divulge everything to a partner. In a way it's great you do want to share it and have that kind of comfort. I had depression and I mentioned it when I had it because it was an issue and I did still go through bad phases. Since then I don't really feel the need. I'd not break up with a girl on anti-depressants, I've dated girls with depression before, it did involve a lot more drama and at times it was completely stressing I'd always be so worried that they were OK and so on. That again is one of the reasons I didn't tell anyone, I didn't want them worrying, especially since they can't really do anything about it. As for affecting your sex drive, it depends what you're on... guys are often affected by prozac.

[madhatters4]

i would and have dated a person on anti-depressants

[madhatters4]

if he is a good guy and genuinely interested in you he should be fine with you telling him. he may have questions or even be slightly taken aback but anti-depressants are pretty prevalent so I doubt most people would be too shocked

[summiter]

No Brainer... of course I would date her...everyone has issues whatever they are called. It is the person inside that counts!

[DodgersGM]

Of course I would. The social stigma surrounding mental illness is pretty shocking, and frankly I thought we would have come further in this area by now.

[Dandeus]

It wouldn't be an instant deal breaker, but it'd put me on guard. Some people manage it better than others. I've been involved with a girl who didn't manage it well and it was not pleasant.

[TylerDurden9087]

I would be freaked out only because I've dealt with girls in your situation before and it was a total disaster. I don't think it's a deal breaker but I personally would be extremely cautious.

[Cottoncandydreams]

Yes, I would.

[Anonymous]

What or Why should it matter? I mean, think about it - a majority of the world is on a pill for this, that and/or the other thing. I am on them to help fight PTSD, does that make me non datable?

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