How far is too far with my boyfriend and his roommate?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together about two years now and the arousing sex life started wearing off, we started trying different things to spice it up a bit I started doing things like masturbating in front of him while he watch and got himself off. That was working for a little while and then I agreed to let my boyfriend record me masturbating and then that led to him recording us having sex together. This went on for several weeks and my boyfriend got the idea to let his roommate hold the camera and record us having sex, I considered it for a few days before I agreed to it. I was quite nervous at first my boyfriends are the only ones I have let see me naked before so it was kind of strange having his roommate see me naked but after about the third time of him filming us I was getting used to it and it actually started turning me on quite a bit. I would say we have done this about once or twice a week for the last two months now, still kind of different but I am much more comfortable with it now I feel like all his roommate records is" of my boobs bouncing around and I think he is really intrigued by them because he has grabbed them a few times when he was recording and my boyfriend does not seem to mind. We last did this on Wednesday night, his roommate was recording us my boyfriend had me laid down on the bed with my head hanging off the bed while he was having sex with me, his roommate walk around where my face was an pretty much put his crotch right in my face while he was recording me and he started grabbing my boobs. It was kind of awkward especially with my boyfriend watching, after about a minute I pushed his hands off my boobs. My boyfriend said to his roommate ''put it in her mouth'' I thought he was joking I kind of laughed and then his roommate actually pulled his penis out of his shorts and put it on my lips before I even realized what was happening, I quickly moved my head and told them I was not going to do that, his roommate laughed and said he was just joking but I don't think he was and I don't think my boyfriend was either. I have been Thinking about that all day today and I guess I am not opposed to doing it it just really caught me offguard yesterday and I was not expecting that. Is this something I should talk to my boyfriend about privately before I decide to do this or should I just let it happen naturally? Is this taking our ''spicing up our sex life'' too far ? Not going to lie I was pretty aroused when his roommate did that but I said no Wednesday night because I did not even have time to think about it he just stuck it right on my mouth and I was kind of in shock. Thing is my boyfriend did not seem to mind at all in fact he has not even brought the situation up after it happened. I do not want to have sexual intercourse with his roommate but I am considering just oral sex if my boyfriend is okay with that.

[calicas2007]

I had a similar situation several years ago before I married my husband. We had been good friends and dating for a few years and even though we had only been with each other sexually we had discussed bucket list things, one of the things was threesomes, he preferred one with another girl, I was willing to do that as well as have another guy join if the situation was right.
Pretty much totally out of the blue one of my husbands friends from school and a past roommate of his stayed with us as he prepared to travel to Hawaii, he currently lived in a very rural area and stayed with us so he could visit friends and family before catching his flight. It was during the winter and it was cold and snow on the ground, he had just purchased a video camera and was reading up on it as well as taping things outside to learn the features and make quality videos on his upcoming trip. He and I had gotten along well, I liked him and thought he was kinda cute, but never even had given thought to anything sexual with him, I normally had times I was barely dressed at best sometimes around our apartment, but during his visit I made it a point to be dressed. During that week we had all socialized and eat dinners together, even drinks and hearing the guys talk about their fun memories, one night the friend recorded us all talking, the next day he was joking around like he was Walter Cronkite, he interviewed us and over a few hours it was fun, he taped my husband and I dance and after awhile my husband started kissing me and told his friend to tape it, we had a couple of drinks before and it seemed fun, as time went on my husband started suggesting I do a striptease or something on tape, it sorta seemed fun, I had never done anything like that before but at the moment seemed fun, I did take my sweater off, and as I danced they both seemed to like it, I took my pants off and danced in my panties and bra, and I felt relaxed and in the mood to take more off. After my bra came off I stopped, drank water, my husband was playing around and got a squirt gun with cold water and started shooting water at me and having his friend tape it, my nipples got hard when water hit them so my husband made that the target and told his friend to try to tape them grow, it was fun, I was giggling and all was fun. After that my husband suggested I lose my panties. To be continued...

[calicas2007]

I really didn't notice the word/character limit when I started writing about my experience, I wrote more since it was something I had not done before and was trying to explain details. Anyway as our time taping went it got sexual with my husband and I, then after replaying the tape. Then to my surprise my husband asked the guy to get naked and be taped, kinda as a guarantee the tape would never get out or be shared, and then he kinda dared and suggested we do things sexually, it turned me on and we did, my husband loved it and still talks about it. I sure never planned it but at the time it was fun. In a funny way I guess it strengthened our relationship, we got married about a year later, and have been happy since. At least in our case it went well, but everyone should do what they are comfortable doing.

[debi2622]

My boyfriend would never allow another man to see me naked, let alone touch me in another way sexually. Your boyfriend allowed another into your sex life. Now he is allowing liberties with you to his roommate. You know this is going to keep going further and further until you are having sex with his roommate and he is fliming you two. Or better yet, MFM, and a 4th person invited in to film. And who knows where your escapades will end up online. But after all this, chances are slim your sex life will ever go back to normal. You need to figure out where your line is, and communicate it to your boyfriend. Sad that after 2 years, you are at this point.

[debi2622]

And you know your boyfriend and his roommate are discussing this without you right? And deciding what they can do to you, and what you will accept.

[jessicashell]

Yeah, if it turned you on, try it once and see. The roommate could be weird because it might be hard to go back from that, but, I mean, you've already passed that point, right?

2 guys is a fantasy of mine for sure, if you're Boyfriend is OK with it. I say do it.

[AverageJoe4U]

I second her answer

[AverageJoe4U]

Well from my own exp, he has most liekly already talked to his roommate and is good with it, if your OK with just oral make sure that you say so to your boyfriend so both know your bounderies.

My wife loves to see other ladies going down on me, so its probably a huge turn on to your boyfriend to see his friend getting some tho you may also want to make sure his roommate knows its only the mouth and while he's with your boyfirend or it may turn into him wanting it and more when your alone with him

communicate your boundries ... or heart break might follow

[bDizzie]

Your boyfriend has no respect for you

[kangaru]

+1

[Gogators2011]

Try this because seems like she is slowly working you into a 3some. Ask him instead of surprising you or catching you off guard ask how far he is going to take this then set your limits. Have this understood before next time so there no odd situations

[aMuse]

It would have probably just have been easier to link us to the site he is selling the tapes to then type all of that out.

[kangaru]

LOL!

[MyNameIsJonas]

IF your OK with it.

Talk with your boyfriend first. Ask how he feels about it first then tell him how you feel about it. You should also outline that it will not effect your relationship together and that its just fun for the both of you. He will respect that. Communication is important.

I've had a few threesomes.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Sounds like the boyfriend and roommate are both fine with it. They're just working on you.

[Asker]

i Am okay with doing it I'm just wondering if I should talk to my boyfriend about it first or just let it happen

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I think it would be a good idea to discuss with both if them what you are willing to do.

[eddzeeman]

Where is the respect? might as well be a p*rnstar doing a 3 some. What's your stage name?

[kangaru]

Agreed

[kangaru]

I would break off with a guy who suggested the above, he has no respect for you and I doubt he love you. Which man would allow her girlfriend to be filmed and touched by another man?

[JohnG4]

Ethical nonmonogamy is a thing, so if you want to, that’s fine. However, consent is also a thing, so both your boyfriend and his roomie are both dicks.

[Caliguy88]

It depends on you. I’ve never gone that far but i did have an ex that gave me the ok to let her roommate see me naked and the roommate liked seeing and being seen. We saw each other totally naked, showering…. I loved it and me ex didn’t care so that worked for us. The roommate eventually asked my ex to swing and my ex said no, so clearly it was just a visual thing that we all kinda enjoyed. And I’m glad she said no. I would not have been ok seeing my ex with another guy.

[Anonymous]

Your boyfriend has no respect for you. You are an object to be used at his disposal, not an actual human being. What a sick sick life you have with those two men. I pity you.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like p*rn to me.