Who do you think its harder on to go without sex?

[Anonymous]

(Masturbating is not an option) So act as if it doesn't exist or doesbr fulfill your needs I ask this question because I am indeed a virgin, and kind of curious what everyone has to say. Also I think the members of GAG who are no longer virgins could help a lot, considering they know what its like to be a virgin and had sex at least one time before. But everyone opinion is wanted including virgins like me. What I mean is you were once a virgin/a horny teen (or until whatever time you lost it) So yes, I'm sure everyone has an opinion, but if you've already been in both predicaments I assume you could see it from both points of view. So which do you think is harder... 1. Being a virgin and maintaining self control though its nothing but guys/girls, friends, peer pressure, p*rn, your needs, etc tempting you 24/7 2. People that are no longer virgins. People that are aware of what sex feels like and needs it bad! Needles to say, I'm sure we ALL get sexually frustrated at times, but who woyld you say its hatder on?

[Stacyzee]

Number 2 is a very true option.

Indeed yes it is hard to make it through peer pressure.

But if you are a strong willed individual you will not break.

Also, it is easier to abstain from something you never had

because you do not know what you are missing.

This can be in appliance to anything.

Ex.

1) I am a woman who smokes weed on a regular basis.

I am asked to stop.

It will be that much harder to.

I now face a challenge of having to suppress my every day urges.

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2) I am a woman who have never smoked weed in my life.

Of course I will not have a problem with doing so, because I've never

had a glimpse of how "great" it may make me feel in the first place.

So I continue on that path to never smoke.

Same with sex.

It is isn't to go without if you've never had it in the first place.

Needless to say,

Both people are strong individuals.

And whether it is harder or not shouldn't be comparable.

I admire both people for standing behind their choices whether it's something they have

had prior or not.

[Stacyzee]

**Same with sex. It is easier to go without if you've never had it in the first place. (correction).

[Asker]

I agree with you, but even though we actually haven't done it there's things like p*rn, masturbating, etc that gives us a sence of what were missing out on. But, hobestly I'm not going to lie I already figured that it was harder on people that have already experienced it, but I don't like how so many people think being a virgin is so easy. If it was couldn't they last? (that's not directed towards you, you're actually one of the few who looked at it from a different perspective)

[Stacyzee]

The feeling of masturbation is totally different than the sensation of sex and physically connecting with another being in that way. Being a virgin isn't easy, and the people that think that are out of their mind. I remember being pressured and feeling like the last person on earth to lose it. In my h.s. you were looked down on if you were one.

[xHoneyxBeex]

If I had to guess, I would say it's more difficult for people who are already sexually active. That doesn't mean some virgins aren't still horny and want sex, but I think if someone has already experienced the pleasures of sex, then it can be more difficult to go without for certain periods of time.

In my experience, I didn't want sex a lot before I actually lost it. This is probably because I had no idea what it was like. In regards to still being a virgin, they may be sexually frustrated and masturbate, however, I think sex is a lot different from masturbation. Sure, orgasms are typically the outcome of both of these scenarios, but doing it yourself and having someone else get you to reach orgasm are totally different. I would choose sex over masturbation every single time if I had the choice.

So, yes, while I think that it's entirely possible for both virgins and non-virgins to be sexually frustrated, I think it's slightly more difficult for non-virgins who know exactly how sex feels and have experienced that intimacy with another person. Just my opinion:)

[Asker]

I understand... Basically we both deal with temptation, but the ones that have bitten the apple wants it more and more! Thanks for seeing both points of view =)

[xHoneyxBeex]

Exactly. And no problem! :)

[UberTroll]

I'm no longer a virgin so I've seen both sides of the fence. I think it's harder to restrain yourself from having sex if you've already had it. I think the temptation is stronger when you're a virgin because you've never experienced it and your hormones and thoughts make you crave it more and more the longer you wait. However, I think it's easier to resist that temptation because virgins tend to view sex as a HUGE deal (which is why they remain a virgin) and so they'll be more determined to put it off until they feel ready. But if you've already had sex then you tend to not think of it as a big deal, just a normal human function that's fun to participate in. Yes with the right person it's romantic and wonderful and something to be treasured, but you no longer have this idealized image of it.

[Asker]

Thanks, I can tell that you read my question, and details. And I love your answer, and to be honest I couldn't agree more =)

[UberTroll]

Lol I came here after reading your other question relating to this one so I wanted to make sure I read all the details. And thanks =)

[Anonymous]

Me and my man were virgin till our marriage, partially because of some religious reasons and partially because of family culture and traditions. We both were enjoying touching and kissing but no penetration at all. Strong sexual desire was there, but we any how manage to overcome it. After our first time, we had it again after three or four days and it was pleasant. After that I was expecting it everyday and we had done on restricted days too - during my period. It is something wonderful that virgins can not understand. Do it only with your man only and do not loose your virginity just for fun or out of curiosity.

[IHateBeingaMan]

overall in essence, I vote B, but it's sort of a combination, being a virgin has got to be harder on a guy than it does on a girl because girls can lose their virginity easier than guys can, because if a guy is a virgin, he is likely socially awkward and shy, timid, and will give off desperate vibes which will turn girls off unfortuneately, meanwhile, if a girl is like that she has a much better chance of getting sex, but overall I would say sexual frustration is worse for guys than for girls because girls can easily get sex, after all, it is commonly argued that girls are the gatekeepers to sex, since guys are usually almost all the time have to be the ones to actively pursue sex while girls have the final say, and if it was the reverse, all a girl has to do is just be blatantly upfront with a guy and say "wanna f***?" and most guys will say "Hell Yes" instantly!, but if a guy just instantly says to a girl " wanna f***"? that guy will be labeled creepy, pervert, sleazy

[Anonymous]

It is easy to go without sex if you have not done it, and you are not in such relation. Once you loose your virginity and girl is available, you can not go longer without doing it. It is really a thing that virgins can not understand. Nature has made it so strong to keep generations going on continuously - it is a natural design.

[Asker]

I agree with you somewhat, but I strongly disagree with you saying its easy to go without sex whether you are a virgin or not. Maybe at one point in time it was true, like when sex was forbidden without marriage. But now "sex" or fulfilling is everywhere. Whether its watching p*rn, masturbating, stories, etc. Sex is a big influence on all of our lives whether it's good or bad.

[iPood]

B. Virgins don't know what they're missing out on so of course it will be easier to not crave something they've never had.

[Asker]

Not necessarily we get urges as well like one of the guys that went anonymous mentioned. Yes, we haven't done it, but watching p*rn or masturbating gives us a sense of what its like and what were missing out on. We have hormones as well. We just haven't fulfilled our needs yet.

[iPood]

but it is nothing compared to experiencing the real thing. Virgins literally don't know what they're missing out on so going without will never be the same for them. They may get urges, but it's not the same as someone who's craving sex because they've had it before and been without for a long time.

[Asker]

I agree with you about its nothing compared to the real thing, but I just can't agree about we don't know what we're missing. Actually in a way you're right, we haven't experienced the real thing, but that's not a reason to say that it isnf hard on us to maintain our virginity. In a way we know somewhat of what were missing. Ww know were missing out on what many other people couldn't control themselves to wait... So it must feel pretty darn AMAZING.

[Asker]

I would just like you to take into consideration that Ira not as easy as you make it sound. But, like I said before I do think it is harder on people that has already experienced this.

[iPood]

I'm sure it's not easy being a virgin, but you asked who it's harder for to go without sex. And the answer to that is B (people who have had sex). A virgin craving sex will never be on the same level as someone who's already experienced it craving sex. It's just not the same.

[Asker]

Yes, I realize that. But, I did clearly specify that especially the people that are no longer virgins could see both points of view. Or the way I was debating with you that you would get the message that I was trying to send. But, thanks for finally saying it and sharing your opinion =)

[iPood]

I'm getting your message, but I'm standing by the fact that being a virgin you don't understand what sex feels like at all, and you don't know what you're missing out on, therefore it's not as hard for you to go without sex as it is for people who have actually had sex before.

[Asker]

I never said it was, I asked others opinions about it. I said abot 10x that I agree with you about its harder for people that has already had sex. And what I'm missing out on I disagree I may not know what it feels like but just about any sex position or act is on the internet so I do have some since that it must feel amazing because everyone is doing and no one is holding on to their virginity. Act as if they can't live without. So in some way I know exactly what I'm missing out on

[iPood]

no, you have no clue what you're missing out on. You've never had a penis in your vagina, you have literally no idea what it feels like. Seeing it on the internet is not the same as experiencing it yourself. You will find this out when you do have sex.

[Asker]

Ok... I'm pretty sure I CLEARLY clarrified that. You are completely missing the point, and frankly I'm tired of debating. I know that I don't know HOW IT FEELS, the point is like I've also said 10x, I know that sex must be something that feels amazing and you are only proving my point by each comment that you leave. Also the fact that you are no longer a virgin like many others on here, yes its possible that you may be married but I highly doubt it.

[Asker]

Even if you are regardless all of the other people are supporting me with the poll, answer, and comments because they were just to HORNY to wait, and now they are HOOKED! So for the LAST TIME... I've clarified that I haven't had sex, last time I've checked that is the meaning of being a virgin I DON'T know what SEX FEELS like. I THINK it' harder on those who AREN'T VIRGINS! Lastly, you are ONLY HELPING PROVE MY POINT by telling me what I'm missing!

[iPood]

You need to calm down. You are crazy. No, I'm not married. One doesn't have to be married to have sex. And I still stand by my answer and all my comments.

[Asker]

No, I'm not crazy. I'm irritated. I figured, and go ahead you have a right to stand by your statement. But needless to say I'm right, you only proved my point while trying to tell me that I haven't expetienced sex which I clarified already. You didn't even care enough to read the whole quesrion/statement, while you're trying to tell me something that I already stated.

[Asker]

Some people were helpful and looked at it both ways like I asked them to, and they were very helpful by stating their opinon. Everyone that thought like you originally after reading my coment either saw my point of view or changes their opinion, and had nothing to back up their statement so no longer commented. But you are the only one who wants to argue with someonethat at first agreed with you, because you are just too STUBBORN! But its OK goodbye, and Thanks for proving my point =)

[iPood]

Its an opinion question, no one is "right" or "wrong". Your opinion is different than mine, and the vast majority of people who answered the poll agree with me. : ) goodbye

[Asker]

No offense, but you're an idiot. Yes, they agreed with you, but so did I! You are on a whole different topic, and like I said before you, them, the coments, are only helping me prove you wrong. So anyway I hope you would just jusr give up, you're makings a fool out of yourself. Smh... And could you at least come up with your own stuff.

[Asker]

Oh, and one last thing yes I know its an opinion I'm the one who freaking made the poll! But, you are wrong because you did not answer what I asked you at first, you're suppose to be helpful towards mr, and for the last stinking time I AGREED WITH YOU!# At least about ny question, you are the only one creating an arguments on a whole different topic that you just simply can't win. So anyway feel free to respond but frankly you are AGITATING and I am done!

[iPood]

so agree with me, and shut up about it. I did answer your question. Who is it harder on to go without sex? And I answered B (people who have had sex). I don't know how much clearer I could have answered...

[Asker]

You can't because at one point I did, well at least one point HECK I still do! But, it isn't about the the topic that I chose anymore. Noe its about how virgins have no clue whatsoever what sex is. Which I agreed with you somewhat also, but all you do is want to debate! So fine you want to battle... I'll give you a WAR!

[iPood]

No one said virgins don't know what sex is. I'm saying that virgins don't know what sex physically FEELS like.. Sorry, but they just don't. The feeling of a penis inside is very different from anything else and if you haven't experienced it you can only imagine but you don't actually know. I'm not debating, that is just what it is

[Asker]

K... That's something I can agree to which I also said about 10x. I'm sorry for anything I have said to offend you, but you just reaf/here what you want to. I have agreed with you on several things, but all you wanted to do was throw virgins don't know what sex feels like, the full experience And though I'm sure you meant it to be like that from the begging, you just weren't sending off that message. (and I'm not lying or over exaggerating you can look through our comments from the begging

[Asker]

Beginning to the end, and that just isn't what you were saying at first almost through our whole discussion So thanks for the answer I was looking for, so thanks for listening and giving me an answer I was looking for. =) (im not being sarcastic, I'll so serious) Also sorry if I have offended you or anything else I may have done.

[iPood]

Thanks for admitting your faults and apologizing

[Asker]

It's no problem, I really mean it.

[Asker]

Umm... Aren't you going to do the sanr thing back, for the misconception of what you meant and what you said. Lol, I'm just kidding =)

[iPood]

No, I'm sure not.

[Asker]

I'm done, you are an ass! No help to me nor GAG whatsoever, and I'm going to be the bigger person, by saying goodbye and stop reading your idiotic comments. Btw I lied do you really think that was the answer I was looking for? It was another attempt to make you GO AWAY!

[iPood]

Bye! :)

[normalice]

for girls: B. For guys: A

that's just a guess, anyway..

[Asker]

Interesting guess... But how'd you come up with it. Well at least the one about girls, the guy one we might as well say is a proven fact! Lol

[normalice]

well, for girls my guess is based on 'word-of-mouth'. Virgin girls complain a 'little bit' about not getting sex, but non-virgin girls seem to really miss it when they aren't getting it. It's as if once that cat's out of the bag there's no putting it back in. Of course, this doesn't make it any easier to get them into bed, unfortunately..

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Don't know what you've got till it's gone.

[Asker]

True but all if you're tempted all you do is think about it until you get it out of your system.

[Felixm]

Definitely people that are sexually active! I went 3months without anything It was painful??

[Anonymous]

Second choice.

Studies have proven that.

[Anonymous]

Masturbation complicates the question. If you have given yourself and orgasm, then you have The Thirst to add sex to romance. Then its equally hard. If you have never masturbated/had an orgasm/view pron, its more just curiosity.

[Asker]

I agree with you 100%