Why do people send nudes before meeting?

[Anonymous]

Besides the obvious reasons that the guy/girl is looking for sex or that he/she is a perv/slut, from a logical standpoint why do people send nudes to strangers before meeting or even post them on websites? It's even dumber when they have their face in them or have their name attached to the username they posted them with. I even think that sending nudes to someone in a relationship is bad because if something goes wrong and you break up, the person most likely still has the pics you send them and more likely than not they will be used against you and it can strongly damage your reputation. It can not only damage your reputation with others around you but with future employers too. Also, if you send them to the wrong person and you piss them off, they are more likely to get back at you with them. I am not exactly for revenge p*rn by any means though I hard it find to sympathize for someone who was willing to send nudes to strangers or post them on the internet. It's not like anyone forced them. If you're stupid enough to do that, you shouldn't be surprised on what may happen with them. It's like a person giving out their bank account number and information to someone they barely know or don't really trust and then complain if they steal from you.

[Stacyzee]

I love how you stand back and you are logically able to view this whole matter.

When people are living in the moment, or just having fun rarely do they ever think of the consequences.

This is one of those instances.

Also, a lot of people have this feeling invisible factor.

Feeling that those things cannot happen to them.

(People exposing their photos to everyone, or plastering it all over the internet).

But it is a very real possibility.

People must be more aware and understand that these things can happen to them.

Of course, we can't educate or enlighten everybody.

Some people learn when those things happen to them (to take better precautions in future).

[Asker]

What if they do this on a reccurring basis though?

[Asker]

I mean you're right, there are people that are living in the moment, just have fun, but from my perspective, I had a girl I met off a dating site who sent me nudes before we even met. I couldn't help but think if she does this to me that early on, who else does she do that to? Then a few days ago, I go on reddit and then in the teasemeplease me section, I happen to see one of her photos in there with her face showing. So in situations like that, I doubt it's her just living in the moment.

[Stacyzee]

She is living in the moment. It's causing her to gain excitement or get a rush. She loves feeling wanted or lusted after. Because someone does this all of the time doesn't mean that it takes away that factor.

[britannny]

Well, not everyone is concerned about what judgmental pricks like you think about their decisions. Most people understand the consequences of sending nudes. Maybe they aren't particularly bothered by the thought of other people aside from who the picture was intended for seeing them naked. I mean let's just be "logical" for a minute: If they're OK with one complete stranger seeing them naked, why not a dozen more? No one is living their life to please you.

[Asker]

I'm aware that nobody is living their life to please me. That's not even the point. Let me put it this way, how would you feel if a guy sent you pics of his privates prior to meeting you and then posted pics of it on the internet or sends them out to everyone he meets?

[britannny]

I probably would delete his number and not talk to him. Because I wouldn't be interested. But either way, it wouldn't be any of my business what he posts on the internet, or what he chooses to send to random girls.

[Asker]

See, you would be turned off by a guy sending you nudes without knowing you well just like a guy would be turned off with a girl like that. You're right about it being their business. What I'm really trying to say is there are smarter ways to go about it and once you do it and there are consequences, you must live with them. I'm saying once you post stuff like that on the internet and you have your face in there or your name attached to them, what people do with them is out of their control.

[Asker]

I'm not saying it's OK that people send others nudes to other people, do revenge p*rn, blackmail people, but it still happens. For example, I smoke weed a lot. It's my own business and everything, but I don't go on Facebook or on the web making it known that I smoke. Employers do internet and Facebook searches on potential employees and they see that if you do that stuff, it will go against you because when you work for someone, you are representing their company.

[Asker]

Or even a better example, there was a rumor that my 7th grade teacher was a p*rn star. I don't know if that's true or not, but if it is, it's her business. The thing is if it's true and that gets out, it would damage the teacher's reputation severely and cost her job. I mean what parents wants their students to be taught by someone who openly admits they did p*rn or isn't discreet about it. Bottom line is, when you do stuff like this and it gets in the wrong hands, it will be used against you.

[britannny]

Wow, that was a lot to read. What I'm saying is if they're OK with the consequences (not everyone has the same priorities, some people care a little more/less about these consequences than you do and that's perfectly ok) then it ISN'T stupid. It's only stupid if you do it without taking into account what could happen. If you think about it, decide you're OK with it (as a good portion of the people who do this usually do) then IT IS NOT DUMB.

[Asker]

Ok, this was my fault but I left out a major point. I see people do stuff like this, not just send nudes but also take pictures of them doing drugs, drinking, etc and posting them on Facebook and other sites and then complain when it gets them in trouble or keeps them from getting a job. As if it was an invasion of privacy. It's like um, no it was your choice to post it on a public site. Those are the kinda people I'm talking about lol.

[britannny]

Ok, we were weren't talking about Facebook. We were specifically talking about people who send them to other people.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Unfortunately people don't like the consequences of their actions in our society anymore.

[Asker]

The funny thing is they play victim often too when some of their actions were completely preventable.

[Asker]

Definitely not proud of this, but I have driven drunk once or twice in a short distance and I was fortunate enough not to wreck anyone or get pulled over with a DUI. That being said, if I did get caught, while it would still suck, I would not play victim or expect anyone to sympathize with me because I made the stupid decision therefore I must live with the consequences. Another thing that is completely preventable.

[Kelly34]

My penis is my best feature, the early she sees it the better chance I have.

[blueberry92]

attention

[Asker]

Well that sure is a desperate way for attention.

[Anonymous]

Because the first thing people want is sex