Why does my boyfriend want people to see us having sex?

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half now I am 25 he is 26 and he is obsessed with me showing my body off. He is fascinated with large boobs and he is always trying to get me to show mine off by wearing deep cleavage shirts with push-up bras and skimpy bikinis. His job requires him to travel a lot and I have the opportunity to go with him most of the time. We stay in a lot of hotel rooms and he loves to have sex with the curtains open and the lights on, that's not so bad if you're in a top floor but a lot of times we stay on the bottom floor or even in a motel. I kind of just go with the flow and let him do what he wants to but I know there has been several times where people have seen us having sex together and I think it really turns him on. A lot of the time we have sex I am on top of him because he loves to sit back and watch my boobs bounce when I ride him and I can orgasm pretty fast that way but he's always wanting me to face the window. Recently we were staying on the third floor of a hotel and another hotel was right next to ours we were having sex and I could see a guy in the other hotel watching us out of the window when I was on top of my boyfriend. I told my boyfriend there was a guy watching us and he turned us where I was facing the window so the other guy could watch me ride him. This is just one of several times I have seen someone watching us I have even seen girls watch us before  why do you think he enjoys this so much? I understand he may want me to show my cleavage off when we are out but I would think he would want to keep sex a private thing between the two of us. I'm not really too shy about someone watching us it doesn't really turn me on or off I just do it to please my boyfriend. Is this some kind of exhibitionist thing he is into?

RideMyNorthFace · Accepted Answer

Have you heard of the term "Trophy Wife"? Well it sounds to me like your his "Trophy Sex Goddess" to me. He's constantly wanting to show you off, in every way. Honestly, there is nothing wrong with people watching from other buildings since you don't mind either way, but he's intentionally showing you off non stop and it seems rather selfish to me and that he's not respecting you totally. I like that fact that your doing it to please him, but what is he doing to please you in return? Since this doesn't seem like a scene in BDSM sex act then I'm curious about how consensual this is? It doesn't seem like this is what you really want on a regular basis so you should have a talk with him about it and let him know how you feel. This is a fetish but it may lead to him wanting more extreme acts in the future if you don't get a handle on what is acceptable and how often etc now. Just talk to him about it and how it makes you feel and what you want etc. I'm sure you two can work something out. :)

HandsomeRaj · Accepted Answer

He probably gets a sexual thrill and kick out of you guys being watched or you being watched by others.

The whole idea of showing you off turns him on more.

This is either his fetish and will stay that way or just the beginning of his idea of an mmf or orgy or swinging. Unlikely he will want a mff. The latter is IF he wants to indulge in it. It may well be that he is happy showing you off to others which is more likely from what you describe.

This is neither abnormal nor a disorder. Just matters if both of you like it together or not :)

If you do things just to please him then when things go forward and in advanced stages you may not be able to keep up with what he requires and wants.

MissConfused93 · Accepted Answer

Yeah it's a fetish. Most guys are the opposite. No cleavage, no other guys oogling you. I agree with the anon I would feel like a sex you or piece of meat I'm your situation but if you're cool with it then go ahead.

katiesmuff · Accepted Answer

It's a harmless fetish!  Those watching have no idea who you are or would never recognize you anywhere else.

deWho · Answer

you are at the prime of your relationship...so if you think see is a private thing... you best be learning to love it...

He sounds like a guy that thrives off of this new excitement. I would say the second he gets bored of you... the more he will be out on the prowl or maybe concoct something even crazier. never ending. The most important thing is...you need to know he respects you deeply and that you are not a piece of meat. one way to test it...at a hotel when he is all excited. around people watching...close the curtains to say "just you and me tonight "... if he is bothered by this... you may have your indicators. voyeurism is about only being turned on by danger or risky. Be careful

Jason888 · Answer

Like me, he is an exhibitionist who wants other people to see him having sex. It can be quite a thrill. He also wants to show you off.

AdamThomas · Answer

He has an exhibitionist/voyeur fetish.

cutekid · Answer

Maybe he should sign up for a p*rn industry rather than trying hard to publicize what is meant to be private between couples...

Dsprthusband · Answer

He is an exhibitionist. He likes people to watch him having sex. As long as you are okay with that, there is no harm unless you are in a very public place. I was a a resort once that allowed girls to be topless on the beach but not in the resort. There was a young couple who came in to the pool area where all the little kids were, and the boy clearly pressured his girlfriend to take off her top. She was clearly not comfortable with it but she had an amazing body and he wanted every one to know that she belonged to him. When the lifeguard went over and told her she had to cover up, she was mortified. It needs to be something you both like. Don’t let him put you in situations in which you are not comfortable.

soe11 · Answer

Already answered many many good answers. So you have to decide.

Rick912 · Answer

A lot of men are very visual. This can also mean that they are exhibitionist as well. There is an element of excitement that comes from watching people sex and being watched while you have sex. Just enjoy the experience.

DaleThe1 · Answer

I’d say it really turns him on... You have a great body & him wanting others to see it is something you will hopefully enjoy more as time goes on. A woman I have dated on & off for years ram into me while we were both out of town & I said let’s get a motel together... We did & ended up having sex & during sex she had to go pee & I got up & opened the curtains a little (on ground level) she came back & I said I wanted the curtains open a little. She said ok! So as we started having sex again I noticed her look over at window several times. So I said they are not open enough & got up & opened them as wide as they could be open. A bright parking lot light lit up our room. It seemed to turn her on so we had intercourse for a while & I stopped & told her to turn sideways in the bed & spread her legs where her pussy was in full view of passers by. I started fingering her & she started moaning & got supper wet. Then she said why does it tingle & feel so much better with her turned & with her pussy facing the window... I told her that she likes the thought of others seeing her inviting wet pussy & very large tits... I’ve always been one for things like that & really get turned on by it just like your boyfriend. I’m surprised he hasn’t asked you to were really tight short that make you have a cameltoe for others to see. I’ve always bought tight shorts & skimpy bikinis for the girl I mentioned here. I even removed the liners in the bikinis so her pussy lips would be visible for others to see. It took her a while to get comfortable with wearing bikinis like that. You would be surprised how much that would turn your man on & make him never want another girl... Hope you & your boyfriend have plenty more hot adventures...