Have you ever had a threesome with your boyfriend/girlfriend?

[emilymarie44]

lately my boyfriend and I have been talking about it. well I mean we always joke about it but lately the conversation has turned a little more serious. we've been together for 3 years and I absolutely love and trust him, its all just a fantasy that he wants to live out. he wants to watch me hook up with a girl which I would love to do for him, just not sure how to go about hooking up with a girl lol. like do I randomly make it happen, do I ask someone specifically? its a bit awkward but once the ball gets rolling I feel like it would be so hot. and of course he would love to engage in an actual threesome but I'm wondering how that would go on my end, if I would be okay with another girl touching him and vice versa. I think as long as I was more involved and he didn't actually have sex with her and only had sex with me, I think I would be okay with it. like I said we have been talking about it for months and I'm really curious to just do it already! being comfortable with someone else touching my boyfriend and vice versa is a little tough, he said he wouldn't like it if it were the other way around and I was touching another guy. any stories, experiences, tips or advice from people who have been in this situation? thanks :)

[Anonymous]

talked it over reluctantly with a past boyfriend once, typically its always ffm threesomes on his mind and mmf ones were met with outrage, disgust and guilt trips accusing me of wanting to cheat on him because I'm not fully satisfied by him (hypocrisy to the fullest)

ive never wanted a threesome personally, it proves he's not satisfied by only you, he desires someone else in addition and is so willing to get it he will risk upsetting you by mentioning it as an option. its just going to fester in your mind if you do it, what if he enjoyed watchign her more? whyd he touch her more than me? whys he not interested in just me? I'm not good enough? he might want more threesomes down the line, what if he dumps me for her or starts cheating with her on the side?

can of worms - opened - all over the floor - relationship now unstable and about to crash

its a THREESOME he WANTS to have sex with her as well otherwise it would just be a twosome between you and the girl and voyerism on his end then regular sex with you after. how are you going to feel if he has sex with her and you have to watch and join in? you're going to get so jealous and hurt

[eurochick]

I have done FFM, FMM and FFMM with my boyfriend. The main thing to remember here is that the experience is a group experience and your partner is not cheating. To minimise any jealousy, we make sure we always get a less experienced person/ couple to join us, so we can be the experienced ones teaching the other person/s.

[Anonymous]

As long has you both remain open-minded and there are rules.

I don't see the problem with this.

There will be many people that disagree because this is a very "taboo" subject.

I have done this with my current, and It worked out fine.

It was all planned and discussed before hand.

[emilymarie44]

do you mind telling me what happened/how it went? what were your rules? do you mind telling me all the details actually lol, I don't know anyone who has done this and I'm just curious how it would go in real life, not p*rnos!

[Opinion Owner]

Sure. How it happened. We picked the other guy up from his home and took him to ours. We sat there drank and talked. I asked them to get more comfortable. The other guy told me I should as well. I stood up and stripped down to my lingerie, and said "I'm ready.". After the guys freshened up they met me in the bedroom. The laid side by side with a space in between them (where I went). I started giving my boyfriend oral...then started giving to the other guy. He enjoyed it, then got up and

[Opinion Owner]

went behind me and started banging me from behind. I moaned (and it turned my boyfriend on to see this, especially my sex face). He did this for a while, then laid back down I gave him oral once again. My boyfriend went behind me and stated banging me also. (We wanted to achieve dp but that didn't happen). The 3sum was longer than I am stating but we pretty much went with the flow. The only rules was...A) (Of course), we only get together when we are all together. B) The only person allowed to

[Opinion Owner]

cum in me is my boyfriend. C) Give them equal treatment (unintentionally, we might get so wrapped up and give the other male attention more than the other). I made sure I split it even.

[emilymarie44]

my situation will be with another girl though, not another guy. two girls one guy

[Opinion Owner]

I left out that when I stood up in my lingerie. Both of their mouths dropped and I modeled it for them (which quickly lead to arousal).

[Opinion Owner]

You can go about it the same way (a little different). Start by both undressing and kissing the girl. Caressing eachothers bodies. Your boyfriend will be all worked up and turned on by this. Have him laid down...sit on his face (still allowing him room to breathe), while the other girl gives him oral.

[Opinion Owner]

Have her get on top first (if you are comfortable), if not, you both switch places and get on top of him. Start to ride him

[Jonny_]

I've personally never done it, as you said I'd not be happy with someone else touching my partner and honestly it doesn't do anything for me it's just not a turn on and that goes for a guy or girl being the other person. Obviously if I HAD to have a threesome I'd prefer it to be with two girls, but that's if I absolutely had to. I personally have no interest in it, I don't think I'd do it for a partner either. What I'd say is, just do what you're happy to do... I'd not do something I'd feel odd about because I'd most likely regret it.

[emilymarie44]

i think he knows I'm a little uncomfortable with the threesome idea so I think we might just stick to me hooking up with a girl, but I'm not sure how to go about it haha!

[Jonny_]

I'd say the hardest part is finding a girl whose comfortable with doing it, especially for a couple...

[Ovrsees]

You both seem to have good discussions ... Set your boundaries (does and donts). If you trust each other you can live out this fantasy with no issues ... Communication before during and after ??

[emilymarie44]

yes I think boundaries are good, he doesn't care to hook up with the other girl, he mainly just wants to watch :) but I wouldn't be opposed to him getting involved... as long as there is no kissing or sex between him and the other girl!

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I don't think you're ready for a threesome.

You have these rules that can (and often times do) get easily broken in the heat of passion.

[TylerDurden9087]

Agreed. Very good point

[Malita55]

My boyfriend and i have talked about it too but its more of a fantasy rather than something we will actually do. Maybe far in the future. Sadly, im far too jealous to actually follow through with it. I know id end up getting mad or crying.

[newPython]

Go to a swingers club.

[TylerDurden9087]

HORRIBLE IDEA! Take it from me, DO NOT have a threesome with somebody you are in a serious relationship with. Someone will get jealous, someone will get hurt. If you're already having second thoughts then trust me just don't do it. It was my gf's idea at the time and she was the one who ended up getting all messed up from it. To many feelings involved. Don't do it.

[emilymarie44]

we have boundaries though, like he can not have sex with the other girl or kiss her, it would mostly be me and the girl hooking up and him watching for the most part, hardly involved at all and if he is involved it will be only with me

[TylerDurden9087]

If you think you can handle your boyfriend enjoying another girl then go for it.

[JennieF]

Yeah.

[Guido]

If your relationship is solid and you dont get jelouscthen it can be great. Did it with my wife and other women. Wife got extremely wet and excited watching me have sex and then she got her turn too. Most excited she has ever been. Had to make sure I gave equal time to both women. Discuss and set boundaries first.