My boyfriend is afraid to take my virginity?

[Anonymous]

I told my boyfriend I'm ready to take the next step in our relationship, and he said he was too, except that he's scared/afraid of the act itself. he's not a virgin, and has had plenty of girlfriends in the past. he said "it's a big step, and I'm glad we're taking this slow" I respect his decision to wait, but part of me feels a little hurt, and like he doesn't want to get a home run, when he's pretty much gotten to every base, except all of it at once. he tells me he loves me, and how pretty and attractive and sexy I am, so it all makes me extremely confused. what could be the reasons he's not ready to do this with me? please help, thank you.

[utopianromance]

It sounds like he's a nice guy and your the most special woman in the world to him, don't read into it and ask him "well when will the right time be?"

Maybe he wants to see how you would react?

Do you think he is long term material, would you even consider engaging him to marry?

Maybe he thinks he isn't the right guy for you, since you've waited so long he doesn't want to ruin it for you and thinks there is better guy out their for you who will actually commit himself to you.

[Asker]

well the thing is, there is an 8 year age gap between us. however we both are adults so it's not anything that would be illegal if something did happen. he's told me many times he wants to, and we've been close, but haven't. he is the long term type, however I am young so I cannot see myself marrying him anytime soon.

[Anonymous]

I say just ask him... guys know that is painful and some just don't want to hurt their girlfriends. Besides, there is always that thing of he just not being ready. Just talk to him. If you are ready to have sex, you are ready to talk about this.

[blossomk]

I'm having the same issue too. He is nervous about taking my virginity but he's also a virgin so it's making him even more worried.

[Opinion Owner]

Guys need time to get ready too girls!

[katiesmuff]

Seems a bit odd for me to believe that a guy who has been sexually active would make a big deal out of popping your cherry without some other underlining circumstances.