Guys, what do you think of inexperienced girls?

[NileBerk]

I'm a 20 year old girl and I'm sexually inexperienced. I mean I've been kissed and felt up but nothing else. I don't know how to pleasure the guy I'm with, I don't know how to make him feel good. I was dating an older guy and few weeks ago I told him that I was a virgin. The next day he left me and it's not the first time it happened. Do you think that me being inexperienced is the reason why they keep leaving me? What do you think of inexperienced girls ?

[ChallengerBanks]

A lot of guys get off on that. Most guys would rather a girl with no sexual experience than a girl with loads of experience with many different guys.

Some guys like the whole "destruction of innocence" thing. Not really good to fulfil some dude's fantasy then let him throw you away after.

Guys in general like to feel like they are the only one or who has been with a particular woman though.

If older guys keep leaving you, it's likely that they are using you to fulfil a fantasy then going to a girl who they can have more mature conversations and activities with.

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[daniiel112]

The main reason I think is that they want the relationship to eventually reach sex and they don't want to hit the point where they have to wait for you to be ready to have sex your first time. Some guys don't want to have to teach and some guys get off on teaching. I think the main thing you have to ask yourself is are you ready to have sex and if so then tell the next guy you date that you may be a virgin but you're ready to not be. Otherwise if you are not ready to have sex you'll probably keep losing guys that are looking for sex in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

I've had that happen. First, don't make a big deal about of being a virgin. Know your reasons and stick with them. If he doesn't ask, don't tell. When you get to that point, tell him. Only guys who don't have the patience and don't intend to stick around would run if you tell them you're inexperienced. Some of them will be concerned and not too happy but if you don't make it a big deal, they get over it. Just take it slow. And don't worry about it, I was 21 before I lost my virginity and that guy was my boyfriend, so not all guys run.

[katiesmuff]

Guys don't mind and most of what you haven't experienced yet will come almost naturally when it does happen and also if you happen to be with a really good guy at the time he will take it slow and easy showing you the way.

Men who act like the one you have described are only with you hoping for the sex and when you let them know you were a virgin they were no longer interested which actually was good for you.

[eurynmous]

There is nothing wrong with being with inexperienced girls. There is a learning curve with anyone that you are intimate with and are constantly learning about their body, likes, and dislikes. An inexperienced girl might make that process longer but there is nothing wrong with that.

As for a possible reason for leaving you, as a guy, we are lead to believe taking a girls virginity is a big deal. When we are younger, it doesn't mean nearly as much because we see it as the norm or that we are experimenting. As we get older, that all changes. Suddenly a woman's virginity is precious, sacred, and special. Any woman who is still a virgin is saving herself for "the one" and that put's a lot of pressure on a guy if he sees it that way.

I'm not saying that's right or true with every guy but that could explain some of your issues with guys and their inability to not commit to a long-term relationship.

[ryanontario]

it wouldn't make any difference to me if girl hadn't much experience , but if she was good looking I might wonder why or question if she really was that inexperienced but either way its not something I focus much time worrying about

[kheserthorpe]

Guys who are serious tend to like it when a girl is inexperienced, assuming they are compatible in terms of sex drive.

Guys are worried if a girl is inexperienced and doesn't seem like she's eager.

Guys who are not serious tend not to believe inexperienced girls will keep it casual.

Guys who are not serious but actually care about women may think you should save it for someone who is more serious.

[Tractorbeam]

There's nothing really wrong with being a virgin.There's a simple cure for it.After that,it all comes naturally.

[bruvleigh]

pleasuring the guy is hardly the hard part... oh wait IT IS

yeh any up down motion including his dick will tend to work. mouth, hands, vagina.

guys arnt hard to pleasure if we are honest. rub his dick for long enough and he will cum.

[superguy1]

Well, lots of reasons he would leave like , You may fall in love with the first guy to nail you , It maybe to much work to get to home base , You could be giving of " Scared " energy making him uncomfortable , nervous about moving forward to sex.

[Cromartie]

I hate them and wish to burn them at the stake. 20 without sex? It's a witch!

[mandyk]

There you go freak her out even more. smooth

[Cromartie]

Oh please. We all know I don't know how to burn steaks. I grill them to perfection. <3

[mandyk]

Lol wow

[Cromartie]

T_T Okay, fine, let me try again: "Don't worry, men won't grill you, they won't even mind since about 20% are in the same boat! Well, 34% depending on your region!"

[NileBerk]

you're kinda weird

[Cromartie]

Well, probably. It's good for us though, you benefit because I'm chock full of information and random outlooks that may or may not differ from the general populace. I benefit because your normalcy teaches me how to integrate into your society and therefore become "The Man".

[purplelavender]

Is the guy above you, you? lol

[Cromartie]

What? No. I'm me. He's clearly not me. >_>

[Dionysos]

With the way you look, you're gonna make some lucky dude really happy. A good guy will be turned on by your innocence and the idea of getting to introduce you to all the things your body can do. Watch out for active virgin hunters though, be they religious purity types or dudes that get off on spoiling the unspoiled.

Sounds like the guys that have run, might have run from the stereotype of the super clingy recently deflowered girl. As long as you don't do clingy, that shouldn'thappen.

Best bet is to not mention it until he's about to enter you. That keeps it from being a big huge thing in his mind, cause there's no time to over think it.

[arashmenalagha]

So how old was this guy? I have to hear it so I can know how to answer?

[NileBerk]

He's 28

[arashmenalagha]

I mean it's not a big deal that you're a virgin. That's actually a nice thing. But, I don't think he wanted to break in you. Because he wanted you to find someone you really wanted to fall in love with. and I'm serious. A lot of people will tell you that guys don't have the patience to wait around for this kind of stuff. But that is only true sometimes. Maybe they don't want to hurt you in that way or take away your innocence without really absolutely loving you first. Also,

[arashmenalagha]

Also, because he is 28 he may have thought about this. and he might've known that you're really sweet. I know if this were me I wouldn't subject a 20ish year old girl to this. Unless she knew she was absolutely ready because there is no turning back this kind of damage. Virgins are like brand new cars, you feel bad for being too hard on it.

[tank83]

Your with the wrong men. Find a man who appreciates you for who you are. That way he won't give a damn whether you are a virgin or not. And there are men out there who love virgin girls because your jewels have not been tampered with. Virgin girls are usually a lot easier to satisfy in the sac.

[Menelin]

Good on you for having high standards, girl.

I don't want any girl to be my second choice for sex. When I choose a girl, I won't accept being her second choice for sex either.

The man you do choose will be on top of the world because he knows he's not one of many.

[bh6676r942]

Well I wouldn't mind because in also inexperienced

[jswag]

Majority of guys wouldn't care, in my opinon. As long as a girl is willing to learn and have fun sexually, I can't see a guy minding that much.

[Dandeus]

As long as you're eager to learn, most guys don't care if you're experienced. It's being both a virgin and a prude that will make a lot of guys scamper.

[VIPME97]

Take time to learn your own sexuality. It's more important for you to enjoy it than him

[Koyomi]

I really would like to date an inexperienced girl, in fact, I would prefer to have an inexperienced girlfriend.
I wouldn't reject an experienced girl if I liked them though

[NickoN]

nothing to stress about, you learn as you go along. Main thing is to enjoy

[Anonymous]

I'm not that douche Cromartie. I will gladly show your the ropes and appreciate women who have chosen to not be highschool sluts. I really am not Cromartie. Really.