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My boyfriend says he's a freak in the sheets but isn't at all. I'm the freak. What should I do?

Hey there , So my boyfriend always claimed to be a freak but hasn't shown it. Were 8 months now and sex isn't all that bad but I'm always initiating it, and always looking for a second round or even a 3rd cause he doesn't last really (if it's doggy style 10min tops... no 2nd rounds...). I orgasm most of the times but if I'm doing the work(on top, the only way he might last longer than usual) but I don't complain if I'm riding to get mine. My problem is that he doesn't do anything freaky that I like or anything freaky at all and he claims to be a freak! No hair pulling, no dirty talk, no head (I give him all the time w/out him asking) No fingering, etc... I like things spicy. 8months together and he's giving me oral sex 2x... What should I do? Ps. I've told him he isn't the freak he claims to be and he rants about how he is. But doesn't back it up lol.. Help!(:
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  • Play "you don't get yours til I get mine" game with him.

    He's probably pretty clueless when it comes to a woman's body. I once dated a guy who thought we just had a big gaping hole down there and he couldn't figure out why our insides didn't fall out - and he was a grown man.

    You might need to educate him about your body, take his hand and direct it to your clit and tell him to draw figure eights with his tongue right there as a warm up.

    If you are still wanting more after he's orgasmed and he can't get without a longer recovery period (recovery varies from guy to guy), bring out your vibrator and ask him to use that on you til you are feeling satisfied.

    • I have but it seems to me like he still doesn't get it... Foreplay is important to me but he doesn't like it I guess.. It's starting to frustrate me. So I haven't had sex with him for this reason.

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  • well if you have to initiate sex then you should already know by now you'll have to initiate his "beast mode". just start dirty talking during sex and if he is a freak he'll follow the flow. At first you might have to give him commands like "my hair" etc... but once he knows what you like and are comfortable with he should let his inner freak out. He could be bluffing or holding back because he doesn't know what you will tolerate and what you will like.

    also seriously oral only 2x? damn you got one of those... I like going down so I down on the reg except with complete strangers during one nighters

    • He is a pretty shy guy... sometimes, So I don't know why I wouldn't thinkg he wouldn't be during intimacy lol, But thanks alot! Lol yup one of those!

    • idk maybe its me but intimacy implies that you are comfortable so shyness should not exist there. its either lack of confidence or lack of knowledge about what you like.

  • He is not a freak and is not even up to the level of a normal "sex is fun" kind of guy. He can say he has a twelve inch dick, that he can go for hours, etc. Heck, he can claim he is a black (Indian, Asian, etc.) female but when the clothes come off, you know the truth. Yet he is the kind that would keep saying it.

    He is not going to give you what you want. He is not capable of it. He does not even try. You want more? You will not get it from him. Look elsewhere.

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  • Well, first of all, a lot of us need HOURS in between getting off. One bullet in the gun. But other than that, this kid needs to get his freak game up. Talk to him about it. Even better, call him out mid-f*ck. Not in a bad way, in a playfully challenging way. "Come on, pull my hair! I thought you said you were a freak?" Push his head downtown and be like, "Come on, "freak", show me what you're made of!" Just try to bring it out of him.

    • This is pretty great. I will most definitely try it! Thanks

  • Put a postage stamp on his nose, write "Return to Sender" on his forehead with a magic marker, and park him by the mail box. :) Problem solved! :)

    With that have been said, your going to have to sit him down and tell him what you want and what might happen if you don't get it. Capiche?

    • I've told him I'm gonna get a vibrator and he gets all mad... That's how I threaten him but he still doesn't do anything...

    • Tell him to pull your hair, dirty talk, give you oral etc. Just threatening him with a vibrator isn't going to work. Tell him exactly what you want. At first, during sex, you might have to tell him what to do for a while until he gets the hang of it...

  • You can either let him continue thinking he's a freak and no say anything or you can turn your freakiness up all the way and show him what a real freak is.

    Either way, you're not sounding unhappy and you're getting off, so...

  • Make it a "Game " like simon says " Fuck my ass " and simon says " Cum in my face " :)

    • Alright cool thanks

  • You should do me. I'll lick you for hours and give you multiple orgasms.

  • Gurlll s/o to you for riding that dick but you need a reaal frek, next time he orgasms, strangle him so all the circulation stops, once his face turns purple don't stop there!unfortunately there is a real risk of death involved in this scenario but it is sure to spice things up.

  • you said you mostly initiate sex and he is a pretty shy guy, I wonder how did he approach you, make the first move on you? or did you do that?

  • Welcome to the world of men. Sucks, doesn't it?

  • Perhaps you should try and spice things up by wearing sexy lingerie and teasing him with a dance. The right mood, right environment could really lead to something better. That said, why not take the initiative and ride him. Cheers.

  • Sounds like he talked a big game but couldn't deliver. You'll need to take charge.

  • Yeah, I hear you. My girlfriend was the same way. I told her I was going to pee on her, and she wasn't about it. You shouldn't be allowed to call yourself a freak if you don't take a little piss every now and then. She didn't even want me to lick her asshole. A freak my ass. Milquetoast as shit.

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