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If you were a VIRGIN and your boyfriend/girlfriend WASN'T which of these situations could you get past?

Let's say you're a virgin. You're going to have your first time. and your boyfriend/girlfriend that you are IN LOVE with just revealed to you that (s)he isn't a vrign. (and yes pretend to be really bothered by this) Option A: After seeing the discomfort in your eyes (s)he tries to ease the tention by telling you it was only with one person and (s)he loved him/her. Option B: After seeing your discomfort (s)he tells I never had feelings for any of the guys/girls that I slept with before you. It was only sex I never LOVED them like I LOVE you! After hearing this from your love (whichever one story you liked best) you forgave them, and can accept the fact that you aren't giving yourself to antoher virgin. So... Which of these choices would make you feel more comfrotable, more understanding? ANd which just made it 10x worse?!?!? Also Why?
Them being IN LOVE withe their former sexual partner
Vote A
Them not having feelings for ANY of their former sexual PARTNERS
Vote B
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ther is not an option... I really want to see which of these two would you pick. So no easy way out like neither.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Either way that could happen without sex I don't see what being a virgin has to do with any of it. People have pasts. My boyfriend has loved other people before (or at least one other person I can think of) and so have I. The important thing is to be secure enough in your relationship and with yourself to be able to accept that whether the other person had sex with them or not.

    I've had sex with a total of 5 people and have been in love with 2 (the first person I had sex with and the one I'm with now). I loved him to death at the time that I lost my virginity to him he was my everything at one point but would I ever leave the guy I'm with now for my first? NO! He's in the past and it was great at the time, but we broke up for a reason and I'm with him now for a reason. If I wanted to be with my ex that's where I'd be.

    I actually went through this with my first. He had done it with 7 girls when we first got together. He told me pretty early on (which is a hell of a lot of people to have had sex with when you're only 16!) so I had to make the decision to stay with him or leave. I decided to stay but if he pushed sex or showed that he valued it more than he valued me I'd leave. He waited TWO YEARS for me to agree to have sex with him no complaints he never pushed me to do it or anything like that and he respected my decision to wait. I think that's what's most important when it comes down to it that you and the other person really love and value each other enough to work things out especially your past.

    • I really like your answer, and it could and has applied to people before. And even though I am a virgin and could care less who I lose it to as long as I love them... The point,was you were suppose to act as if you are a virgin that had their mind set on losing it to another virgin. But you love them so you accept the fact that they aren't. Which situation would be easier for you tp accept them not being a virgin.

    • A person that has had sex multiple times, but has never had feelings,for anyone else besides you. Or a person that isn't a virgin but tries to make you feel better by telling you they did it because they were in love with him/her.

    • Oh, and I'm sorry I didn't get a chance to read your full answer, and it turns out yoy did leave it. I choose yours as BA, because one I love your answer. Two because you have actually experienced this.

  • Option A, I guess. But I still would break up with them. I WOULD be really bothered by that. Borderline furious. And devastated. But I would break up with him because it is very important that my significant other be a virgin like I am.

    A would make me feel better, but not enough to overlook their action. I will never be able to accept the fact that I am giving myself to a nonvirgin. I simply will not do it.

  • I'd much prefer it if he was in love with the person he gave his virginity to. It shows he values sex as more than a physical act, and he only does it with people who really mean something to him. I prefer that over him just giving sex to whoever will take it.

Most Helpful Guys

  • i am a male virgin. it would not bother me if the woman I was dating had sex with other men. but what would bother me is how many? if she had said in the last year or so it was with more than 20 men, then id have to rethink our relationship. if it was with 8 or less then it would not bother me but in the back of my mind I would think is she just using me for sex. when I have my first time I want it to be special,and I want a long term relationship leading to marriage. I don't have time to play "date of the week" to find the right woman

    • That was EXACTLY my point. When I said had sex with multiple people it could be any amount. Which makes you question does she really love me? Is it just sex? Is she emotionally unattached? Does she have an STD? And so forth and so on... But I really love your answer =)

  • This is a toughey, Option A I would always worry about them still having feelings for the person they loved and thinking about that person during love making. Option B I would would worry about them being experienced and me still being a virgin, and not having any experience to satisfy her.

    But in the end I would haft to go with option B since they loved me, being a virgin wouldn't matter to much, cause if they loved me, they would be patient and willing to teach me every thing I need to know to pleasure them.

    • Thanks for MHGO (Most Helpful Guy Opinion)

    • Omg seven!

    • I know, you must really like my opinions :P.

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  • I chose A. I never did understand the reasoning that it was just sex, it didn't mean anything, I don't love them. To me that's admitting you have no self control and sex is not speacial to you, so what's the point of being together if you just give yourself to whoever with no real meaning or expectations. In other words, your selfish and only care about yourself.

  • I guess if I were to only choose between A or B, I would go with A. B would be worse, because of the fact that it mentions she would have slept with more than one person and that it was more about having sex.

    Neither of these are options to me. I would not be with the girl if she's not a virgin. By the way, I am a virgin.

    • Cool so am I xD

  • Option B would work best for me. If it were Option A I would think they might go back with the previous person since they had feelings.

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