Guys: When you are in a relationship with someone for a while do you stop trying to last as long in bed?

[Anonymous]

So me and my boyfriend just hit 7 months. When we first got together he was amazing in bed the best I ever had just freaking mindblowing. Now he's still good, but I've noticed that he's stopped trying to last for me. He used to go for 30 minutes to an hour for only one round (taking breaks to kiss me all over inbetween) with a condom on and for 15-30 minutes without one. Now, he's been lasting like 15 minutes with a condom on and maybe 7 minutes without. He still gets me off, but before he used to really enjoy making me have multiple orgasms (He once made me come 17 times in one round it was unbelievable) but now he usually lets me orgasm once and calls it a day. Round 2 usually lasts for about 15-20 minutes w/out a condom but it still seems like he isn't trying as hard. Especially when I'm on top. It's like everything I do that gets me close to finishing gets him close too and we usually end up orgasming together which is really nice (and freaking amazing I might add. I mean what other couple comes at the same time almost every time they have sex?), but I do miss my multiples. Is this normal with guys? Do you usually try your hardest to get a girl to think you're spectacular if you really like her and then fall off your game? Or do you always try to last as long as you can?

[Anonymous]

My first boyfriend lasted a minute or under for the entire time we were together.

My second, he lasted 40-50 minutes and could get it up again within 3-5 minutes and do it again, he didn't change for the time we were together.

My third, some days he last 5 and some days he lasted 20 and a few times he lasted less than 2.

My boyfriend now, we been together for 4 months, when he first started with me he could last just long enough to give me an orgasm and it would be over within 3-4 minutes. I was really mad at him because I used to chat with his ex who I was friends with and she would tell us he lasted an hour or two with her even when he did it fast with her, we always thought she was telling some porkies especially as she said his penis is really big and we mostly didn't believe her. I then chose to believe her as he is indeed big but he didn't last as long with me and it upset me a lot. Later on he told me it difficult to last long in me as I'm really tight and he isn't used to being with a girl that is so tight. Now he can thrust fast for up to 40 min and he often stops thrusting and sometimes he withdraws so he could last longer, I can still make him come within 2-3 minutes if I let him thrust really fast, hard and deep like he normally does moments before he cums, but I rarely let him do that as it hurts too much.

[Anonymous]

Time is not the real measure of pleasure. I usually excite him during some house chores and give him BJ if I want him in me. I am on pill and we both like without condom - naturally second round last much longer and occasionally we keep connected till morning. We enjoy real pleasure and never count on time or rounds.

[Bethany94]

I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year, he still lasts from 20 minutes to an hour (without breaks other than to change position).

[Anonymous]

Most girls here would consider me a marginal lover. I have never looked at sex as a recreation/sport/athletic activity. Once I understood how it worked, I have pretty much relied on lengthy, skilled foreplay to give my lovers pleasure before a relatively short intercourse finale. My goals in sex are to have soft intimate play (giving her a full body and then sexual massage then oral) bringing her to her strong orgasm (with several spikes if she wants them) followed either by the same on me or a relatively quick missionary or cowgirl session where I come in 5-10 minutes. What determines how long our sessions are is how much foreplay she needs to have a strong single orgasm or the several spikes in one. Her session may vary from 10 minutes to an hour whereas mine is pretty much constant.

If I time things right (not very difficult) I can mount up at the end of her orgasm and come while she is finishing the final spike or two, which is very satisfying. She is both tight and shallow and contracts tightly on me when she comes, somewhat constricting and intensifying my ejaculation.

[kovalinkie19]

Well it's sort of like lots of other things. Guys at the beginning of a relationship hold the door every time for their girls, give them their coat, etc... and some (actually many) sort of fade over time until they rarely do it.

People tend to stop trying to impress their partner after they 'have them'. So to answer your question, it's possible. It's possible that he does it without actually realising...

The best thing to do is talk it out.

[yopyopyop]

Reading this, I can't even believe you are complaining about anything.

[Asker]

Why not? He used to be so fantastic and now he's just quit.. I'm afraid he'll get even worse in the future and I'll be in one of those relationships where the girl never comes

[codingsmokey]

maybe he is bored of the sex, try to spice things up a bit.

[Anonymous]

Counting time in minutes or rounds is just nonsense thing. Sex is for producing babies - if you want and for ultimate pleasure of each other. All foreplay are to make it exciting. I do it without condom - in her V* and she like to give me BJ before penetration. We respect feelings and choice of each other and do it without counting time. Several times we had kept connected for hours in sleep.