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How do you explain/prepare your boyfriend before you have sex that your orgasms are very wet, like "squirting"?

Over the years the majority of my orgasms have been extremely wet such as it comes shooting out of me. when I was young about 15 or so I remember laying in bed experimenting with myself and that's when I had my first orgasm and that's when the squirting started. When me and my old friends would have our girl chats I kind of brought it up to them and they had never experienced that before so I thought I was always different, I did some research online and found out that it was not very common and that kind of made me self-conscious about being with a guy and him seeing me do that. I started dating a guy when I was 17 and the first time he made me orgasm was when we were having sex in the shower so I don't think he even realized that I started squirting I just told him I did and that kind of broke the ice on that subject. I dated him throughout high school and college so I was use to having orgasms with him so I was not uncomfortable. He never wanted to make a commitment after college so I broke up with him and have been single for about a year and a half now. I'm 26 now and I just recently started dating this guy and things are starting to get intimate between us and again I am self-conscious about having an orgasm in front of him. I can't always tell when my orgasms are going to be extremely wet or not it just comes unexpectedly most of the time, when I pleasure myself I always have to lay a towel out so I don't soak my bed sheets or couch. How do I prepare/explain to my boyfriend my situation should I just let it happen naturally or do I give him a warning? What would a guy think if this were to happen and he was not expecting it would he be grossed out or do you think you would like it? Should I be self-conscious about this I just don't want it to happen and it turned out to be awkward or something. I am kind of a shy innocent girl and I don't feel comfortable telling him this early in our relationship that I have squirting orgasms I just think that would be an uncomfortable conversation and I would just rather it happen during sex and him find out that way. Thanks for any advice it would be helpful.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • There is no need to complicate this with a lot of talk. When you are preparing and presumably laying out a towel, he may or may not look at you inquisitively (or ask). If he doesn;t, don't bring it up. He already knows what you are doing. If he does, just say "I get really wet sometimes.", which would make me stiffen a little right away.

    Remember that we are more visceral/raunchy than you about sexuality. We like body parts/reactions and fluids. Some of us even like a little pee, which is what your flood might be. My lover will experience a momentary loss of bladder control at the moment of orgasm just as she does when she laughs or sneezes. This is particularly entertaining during oral. To minimize this possibility, make sure you pee before sex. And if that towel disappears after sex, don't ask where it went. If you soaked it with fluid, I might want to take it home. :-D

    The bottom line is that most guys will either be indifferent or think it is hot.

  • Just tell him --- Just so you know, when I come, sometimes I squirt. I don't want you to think I'm peeing on you. It's actually Female Ejaculation. Have you ever heard of that or experienced that? --- And let the conversation go from there as it may. Honestly, most guys like it and find it a big turn on! You might occasionally run across a guy that doesn't like it or is uneducated about it. You might have some educating to do. But most guys find it a turn on, so you don't really have anything to be so self conscious about.

    Good Luck and Have Fun! :)

Most Helpful Girls

  • Just let it happen or if you prefer do it in the shower for the first time again so its easier to explain. I don't think its that uncommon and its what your body naturally does so don't make a mountain out of a molehill. Be confident and enjoy yourself.

  • You sure it's not pee or just pushing your secretions from the spasms caused by orgasm?

    Actual squirting is thick like male come and doesn't shoot anywhere or soak anything like it does cum.

    Don't pee on him.

    • Don't down vote me! I squirt all the time. I know my shit!

    • My personal down-vote is because it's different for everyone, both how it happens and what the fluid looks like! What you said is NOT enough to determine if it's pee & the comment "don't pee on him" doesn't really say anything constructive, to me it even reads as a bit unrespectful.

    • The thickness and color of squirt varies from woman to woman. Just because your squirt is thick doesn't mean every woman's squirt is that way. Some have thick, white looking squirt. Others have squirt that looks more clear and has the consistency of water. So some women can shoot their squirt and it can soak the couch or bed sheets etc. So again, just because your squirt is a certain way, it doesn't mean all other women's squirt is the same.

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  • Most guys love it in my experience, but you certainly can tell them beforehand if that would make you more comfortable. If you're worried about the guy's reaction you might not be able to squirt.

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  • Simply tell him, and say it as a matter of fact way. Most guys will love this. Girls are able to see evidence every time that guys orgasm. This is a way that a guy can see, and I know that for me it is a massive turn on.

  • Not all guys love it. I do (not an advertisement). You should just be up front with it to him, if you are considering sex. Point being, wouldn't you like to know beforehand if he had a 15 inch penis that's 8 inches around?

  • Be proud of it.It sounds good.I don't think you'll have any complaints.

    Good sex can be wet and messy and it's all fine.Don't be concerned about it,and I don't think he will.

    You could always say "Wow,no-one else ever got me that wet!"

  • Be simple and simply tell him when you are both getting intimate and heading to the bedroom. I would give almost anything to have my wife squirt. Esp when I go down on her. A lot of men like it. But not all.

  • I had one Girlfriend who was mortified when she squirted all over my belly and dick, but it was wonderful, and I hope she had an earth shattering orgasm, and I would gladly do it again for her. She was a little uptight about her sexuality, but she had a great bush, tight vagina, and tasted good too. Sure wish it had worked out. PS that's why you put towels under the bed, or under your pillow.

  • Are you kidding? He'll love it! That's so f-ing hot! Just tell him that you are a squire he'll know what it means. I guarantee it will turn him on too. If it doesn't, then dump him, most guys love it and besides, that's who you are, if he can't accept you then you don't need to be with him anyway.

  • I think I would enjoy it

  • just let it happen it will boost his ego!

  • Just maybe ask him if watching girls squirt is a turn on for him. I wish it was me u were squirting on

  • My wife ejaculate when very excited, usually after the second or third orgasm. I find it erotic.

  • Most guys are into that. I would be proud like heaven if it would happen again. I passed it two times and it was the hottest thing I have ever seen

  • Squirting may not becallowed to happen as some female are embarrased of the reacton the guy would have

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