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Anal sex a deal breaker for guys?

so my boyfriend and I have been officially together for a month, but dating/sleeping together for about 3ish months. Recently he brought up anal sex the other night. he has done it, I haven't. At the moment, for me I just am not interested in it mostly because of the pain (so I hear) but primarily it just doesn't feel right for me and my body. A bit self-conscious about this topic as 1) he's done it with another girl and 2) he's more sexually experienced/more partners etc and now I'm wondering how I "stack up"... i'm just wondering if maybe he's asking because he's curious, or bored with our current (vaginal/oral) sex life/positions. I am pretty GGG, and want to make him happy.. but is anal a deal breaker for an guys out there?
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  • if it actually 'hurts' then you need to slow down, use more lube, or work up to something that size. do not just let a guy try to stick it in if you have not experimented with it before...that will hurt you a lot. look into the prep for anal and be aware of what you need to do before trying it.

    if it is just a 'new/odd' feeling then that's 'normal'.

    if you're just not interested in it then that's fine. perhaps think about it without the fear of 'pain'. try to play around a little more with ass play stuff to see if you might have some interest. if you still are completely against it then that's just the way you are...

    dont be self concious about it. it is just something new for you.

    a lot of guys are just interested in doing anal with a girl. he probably thinks you have a delicious looking ass that he wants get nasty with. he could be feeling the same way as you and wants to do something new for you.

    anal itself is not really a deal breaker. the attitude that you respond with, is more important.

  • If you don't want anal then say "no". There is no logical purpose for anal sex with a woman, so what does he get out of it other than seeing that you will do anything for him.

    Do you see how you are keeping up with other people. It is true, if a guy treats a woman like crap, humiliate her, make her do what she do not want to do, she will love him.

    Good luck,

Most Helpful Girls

  • I don't think it would be for most guys. Anal sex is unnatural and very unhealthy so don't do it just because he wants you to. Sex should be something consensual and pleasurable for both partners and nothing should be done out of pressure.

    • Wow, unhealthy? Have you told the gay male community? They're going to be positively shocked! 😂 Their gay agenda has been leading us to believe that anything practiced (with precautions) between two consenting adults is okay! Has it all been a lie? That (sarcastically) being said, I agree with you on all other things.

    • @FantasticPlanet It IS unhealthy. If you don't believe me then look up all of the syphillus and HIV cases caused by it. It can also cause a lot of tears in the anus as well as blood which could lead to other problems like anal fissures. I've never been with a guy who has wanted to do it, and it's not something someone should do if they don't want it.

  • Honestly I'm sure it isn't a big deal, but I figure try everything once then you know what you do and don't like!

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  • If he likes you, it isn't a deal breaker. You know that you shouldn't do things you aren't comfortable with. Perhaps he could go a bit slower with you and in the mean time you could do some research and talk to your bff about anal.

    Most women I've been with weren't down at first, but with some coaxing and patience, everything went well.

    Be safe and be smart.

  • GGG? Not sure what that means. But it wouldn't break the deal for me. Then again, it's not really my thing to start with.

    • good, giving, game (it's just a term used by Dan Savage)

    • Gotcha. Gotta Google Dan Savage now, haha.

  • There are a few guys out there that it would be a big deal to I'd speculate.

  • ask I'm if he wants to try anal stimulation too? Its fun for everyone if done right,

  • Definitely NOT a deal breaker for me , never appealed to me... what's the vagina for?

  • No, but it's definitely a plus. Some guys are turned off by it though.

  • Not a deal breaker. I see it as a 'nice to have.

  • I'm sure you "stack up" just fine, so it shouldn't be a deal breaker if he's into you, but also if you haven't tried it you should when your ready, if you do it right I can be fun

  • My opinion is that anal sex is disgusting.

  • No as I never done it before.

  • if i got a wet pussy to fuck why the fuck would i want to fuck an ass for

  • Yup, it totally is a deal breaker. If a girl isn't willing to put on a strap-on and pound my poopshoot, I can't be with her.

    • LOL yea I think that's a given..

  • i like anal it shoul not be ;) trust your ass

  • Yes. I have broken up several times with beautiful girls because they did not wanted to try anal sex, or because there was simply not enough anal sex every week.

  • No poopy dick for me!!

  • Any girl that wants anal is a deal breaker for me.

  • I guess what I would say is that her not having an open mind sexually would be a deal breaker for me, but that's just me. I've had 100% success turning the women with whom I've had sexual relationships into fans of anal, but I've been very patient and methodical about it.

    Do NOT let your boyfriend push you into doing anything you don't want to do, or doing anything too fast. If the two of you are interested in giving it a go, you should plan on several months of working up to it.

    Having said that, everyone is different and anal is not right for everyone. My partners and I have just been lucky that way.

  • most guys I don't thik so.

  • I'm Russian but isn't anal where shit comes out from ? I think that's a little gross for me . Or maybe I guess since guys in amrica have not so big of dick , that's probably why it works .

    • lol'd

    • oh no you didn't :D

    • Sorry guys I didn't mean to hurt anyone but isn't it true ? Shit comes out of there ?

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  • I hate making comments like this, but if the answer is yes, then he's doing a favor by breaking the deal and leaving.

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