Why do men who ask women about penises size, then insult them?

[Anonymous]

Hello everyone, I was in a forum in my country. Many men asked women's opinion about penis's sizes. They wanted to know if it matters, what did they prefer. Some women explained that yes, they liked biggest penis if they had to chose but they could deal with smaller. Those men only understood "I like big penis" ans started insulting women, saying how they were sluts who were making men miserable... I was stunned by that...they asked their opinion. It seemed like men are far more concerned than women about sizes and that it's a sensitive subject for them...though?

[HandsomeRaj]

I'm with you completely on this but we need to understand a few things like

1. How important is it for men (penis size)

2. How men have looked upon women generally (country and race immaterial)

3. The male ego especially when it comes to sexuality

4. The human ignorance factor

5. The very human insensitivity factor

6. etc

The best way they satiate all the above and other shortcomings & insecurity is by trying to plow down the others if they are women especially.

Not expecting this type of a rebuke is ignorance or a colossal mistake too :)

Women are also very sensitive about their breast and butt sizes but they may feel bad when people tell them that they don't like small butts and breasts but they'd rather feel bad or make up their mind to either work on it or go under the knife or ignore it completely (the confident ones) however, expecting a general male to do so is simply ludicrous (Pardon the term)

Humans immaterial of the gender have a lot of misconceptions, for men one is that bigger the size better the attraction or performance lol

They just wanted their ego boosted that's all :)

[Tellme]

I honestly don't understand why people get insulted after receiving an honest opinion. I think it also leads to the girls not telling the truth anymore. Of course it's a sensitive subject, but one should still be able to take the answer if one asks for it. lol. So, I'm totally with you. :)

[Tellme]

Thanks for Best Answer! :)

[Anonymous]

Because the women told them stuff they didn't want to hear.

What they wanted to hear: "oh my god penis size does NOT matter at all! My boyfriend has a 0.5 inch long (short) penis and he gives me the most pleasurable orgasms ever! His dick is absolutely fantastic an yummy! God I love it!" etc

What the women (probably) said: "average and big penises are great, but I can also work with some smaller penises depending on the thickness and his technique"

What they focused on: "BIG PENISES ARE GREAT"

Hence, it hurt their poor fragile ego, so they started screaming like the kids at wal-mart who didn't get the toy they wanted.

[Daph81]

A lot of men are insecure about their penis sizes. They constantly compare themselves to p*rn stars and dildos, and those things are huge! So even the well-endowed men might still feel insecure about his size.

Those men asking those kind of questions were hoping that women would say that no, size doesn't matter at all. So when women say that they wouldn't complain when getting a big penis, they would even feel more insecure about whether or not they're big enough.

It's just like when girls ask guys whether guys like chubby girls, and then get mad when they said that they want healthy-looking girls.

[Account]

I don't know. I guess it's an ego thing. I just think it's hypocritical as hell because most guys prefer big butts and big boobs, yet they blame women for having preferences... I don't remember encountering a woman hating on a guy ONLY because he prefers women who do not look like her.

[XRabbitHeartX]

Well it seems to be a big deal to some of them (not all!) so saying that may kinda hurt their ego... they want to hear that all girls will love their penis and then can't stand knowing their size might not be appealing to some girls. I guess it's the same as why some girls get upset when guys say they have a preference for bigger boobs or smaller boobs or blonde hair or brunette hair... some people don't like knowing they might not be desirable in everybody's eyes.

[RUSHFAN]

spot on

[kheserthorpe]

It is a very sensitive subject for men.

Women take being wanted sexually for granted (because it's not rare) and want to be wanted in other ways. For men it's almost the reverse. It's being desired sexually that makes us feel MOST wanted, appreciated and desired as a man. If a woman says she is willing to overlook something sexual, that does not make us feel better. Instead we feel like she's settled because we do nice things or are helpful, and used.

Telling a man his penis isn't that good but it's okay and you will work with it because you love him is about as comforting to a man as it would be to you to hear 'you're kind of an annoying butch but that's okay cause you swallow'.

[Rissyanne]

Men put a lot of stock in their penises. Not all men...but some it defines who they are. I do know this. Men who are well endowed feel like they don't have to work as hard to please a woman. Men with smaller ones do everything they can to please a woman. Basically size doesn't matter when it comes to good sex.

[G_GTom]

Couple of things.. no one wants to be dealt with as you stated, "but they could deal with smaller". That's like a guy saying to a women, you're not that pretty, but I can deal with it. My guess is no woman is going to like this.

Secondly, at least for me, is each woman thinks she's the only game in town. She often thinks that if the man doesn't measure up, it's completely his fault and he needs to do something to compensate for how he was born. That's like telling a woman who's overweight that she needs to work harder because she's not as good. What women don't want to seem to acknowledge is not every woman is the same size vaginally and if they are going to "deal" with us or hold it against us, we can just find another woman who fits us better.

I understand people have preferences and part of good sex is having a relatively good fit, but that fit comprised of TWO people, but it seems that in today's world, women want to judge, but not be judged.

Under the conditions above, I have no problem with women stating their preferences. It allows me to make better choices in women. :)

[Asker]

You have to understand that English is not my first language so if my chose of words sometimes suck. And I'm the first one to admit that some men will think I look like a big ugly girl. I don't mind. I'm well aware that many men wouldn't like me.

[G_GTom]

Actually, you're English is fine. Believe me, I've heard native English speakers say the same thing.

[Asker]

Okay, but when I said "deal with smaller" it wasn't supposed to sound negatively. I just mean than in a relationship, an average size or even smaller is not a problem because sex when you're in a relationship is totally different. Didn't mean to make it sounds like "Oh okay...not good but I can work with that".

[G_GTom]

Does that mean outside a relationship, average size or smaller is a problem? If so, then it's a problem in a relationship it's just that in a relationship, you're willing to "overlook" this issue. Does that make sense? Or let me put this another way. A woman who is interested in me asks if looks are important, I tell her average looks or less are fine in a relationship so you have nothing to worry about. Is she going to be happy?

[Asker]

outside a relationship, the penis size is not the factor and you're not checking inside a guys pant just to be sure. But it's true that a big penis can be a fantasy. When I was single I didn't chose a size, it depended on the person but you can't say that between a 10 and 18cm the woman will chose 10, or just a couple of them.

[RUSHFAN]

I think the guys with small dicks are mostly the ones who ask if size matters.

[HipHop-Kid-UK]

woah what country is this?

[Asker]

This country is France...

[HipHop-Kid-UK]

isnt that supposed to be the country of love and romance? Sorry to hear that but penis size is kinda a big deal

[Asker]

It's supposed to be yes... I do understand how it's a big deal for men, just as women also has their issue...those women even said that in a relationship it was not the most important thing. Getting insulting when you say your opinion and not what they want to hear...is mean. Like, I have large breast, I know some men will like it, some men won't and that's it.

[HipHop-Kid-UK]

Hope you don't mind me saying but well done with your breasts lol but its a little different, even small breasts grow larger during pregnancy. The penis is meant to start life, so an inadequate one is bound to be stressful. The insults are wrong, there's no explaining that

[Asker]

I agree with you. it is different, I understand why it's sensitive but no need for insult there

[HipHop-Kid-UK]

Yh totally, sorry you had to see it I guess

[Temporary28]

Girls who don't like small penises have big vaginas and girls who don't want big penises have smaller sized vaginas period.

[Anonymous]

Ego

[Anonymous]

I think some men get offended because they have a "small" penis and can't do anything to make it bigger and so when they get told they "aren't the chosen size" then they get mad.