Can a guy and a girl sleep together without any feelings?

So I will be moving in with a guy I've known at college. I don't know him very well. I just mostly know him on Facebook. We've talked and everything before and I told him my situation. I'm having family issues and I'm leaving due to abuse: financial, psychological, verbal, from my mom. So I need to be out on my own but rent is pretty high. I'll be splitting the rent with him. It's $300 for each person, there's another person staying but they're not around often. Anyway, there's only one bed and I'll have to share the bed with him. The couch is gone. There is no couch he says. We both work night shift, so I'll get in early before him if I have to work 10-12 hours. He gets off a little later than me. But we're going to have to share the same bed. He says he's not the type of person who does that to women and he respects women. He says he's going to get an air mattress pretty soon too and that way I can sleep on it. But this is a weird situation. I'm only staying for a little while (maybe a month?) until I find work, my own car, and my own place to stay. It'll kinda be like college but I never actually slept over a guy's place so I'm nervous. I don't know how I'm going to sleep either since I don't wear pants to bed.
Updates:
+1 y
He just made a joke about sleeping naked and us sleeping together. He says he doesn't have sex with strangers but I'm getting kinda nervous now.
0 0

Most Helpful Girls

  • I'd look for other options. Try finding a female roommate or two you can share a room with. Lots of people are able to find last minute roommates on craigslist. If there's a campus nearby, I'd also search around that area since students usually look for roommates.

    If you must stay with this guy, you should arrange with him to have the air mattress ready before you move in and tell him to put it in another room. If he is unable to do so by the time you move in, I'd invest in your own mattress or sleeping bag. Also have pepper spray or something on your person just in case.

    • All the female and male roommates on CL are a no go at the moment. Too expensive. There isn't another room. It's 2 bed/1bath and I can't sleep in the other room because the other guys roommate. Now if he moved out, then I could move in, install a deadbolt lock to the door, have pepper spray and all that and be fine. But tis not the case.

  • Women biologically cannot. When women have sex they release oxytocin the same bonding hormone released when you give birth to bond you to your baby.

    • Not always. Some women can have sex without becoming attached especially if the sex is bad. But even if I had sex with him, I wouldn't automatically fall in love with him.

    • I'm speaking through a biological chemical reaction that happens in your brain.

Most Helpful Guys

  • It sounds quite dangerous to me.. you'll never know. Guys would say anything to assure you and then one day...

    tbh your decision is quite rash.. If you had wanted to move out then you should've found work and place to stay first. You're short on cash but you don't plan to stay with him for long so either way you're gonna have to make do on your own anyway.

    • I'm waiting for the job to call me back. I did temp work. They're supposed to call us back saying if we got the job or not. I have $4,000 saved up. I have bad credit, in the meantime I have to stay to find a place that'll accept my credit. I had to make a rash decision living in abuse. Sometimes you either plan or you don't and I had little time to plan this whole thing out. Tmrw I'm going to look for a car for transportation. Most of my other friends moved out of state and he's the only one

    • What exactly are you planning to do? look for a new place after you get the job or are you planning on sleeping in the car? I don't know how bad is the abuse but you must have been suffering it for quite a while. My point is if you can try to bear with it since you're planning to sort everything out within a month anyway. You're pretty much almost strangers with this guy you barely know too. I don't know if you mind having sex with him but he could even take advantage of you while you're asleep

    • I need the car for transportation to the job. Once I know I have the job in the bag, I'll move into a new place. I'll still be looking around for a new place while staying with him. I'll have all my important stuff in storage. Everything else like clothes, etc. will be in a suitcase. I won't carry a large amount of cash either or a purse. I'm still thinking. My mom isn't speaking to me so I'm being left alone. So I could possibly move out without having to stay with him.

    • Show All
  • Guys like him exist, But if I was on his place, just to make you comfortable I would sleep on the floor. Anyways be really careful, do you know the guy?Does his personality fit the situation? If it's all true, when sleeping WEAR shorts or something, you don't want to go naked there right?

    • I went to college with him and we've chatted on Facebook a couple of times but I don't know him like a friend. It's either I live with him or live with another complete stranger. I will be buying some shorts in the meantime

Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions

What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!

What Girls & Guys Said

1 3
  • Kind of a weird situation. I'd look for other options

  • Mmmm hmmm.

  • This is a joke right? If you think he's not going to try & screw you under those circumstances, no matter how "righteous" he claims he is, you are delusional.

  • Hmmm sounds like you're kind of leaving yourself open to the possibilities of something more happening. Even if the intentions don't start out that way it could lead to more later. And since you don't know him that well it's not the ideal situation to put yourself in. Maybe get your own air mattress before you move in and sleep in another room just to be safe. Or simply don't move in if you're having doubts.