Getting fingered for the first time?

Ladies does it feel good to be fingered? should he use lube?

Guys do you like fingering a girl? what is it like for you?


Most Helpful Guy

  • I'm going to assume that you're a virgin and have an intact hymen, so if that isn't he case, then those parts might not apply to you.

    With a hymen, your "entrance" is closed down to a much smaller hole by the hymen, which is a thin elastic ring of skin. Usually the hole is enough for a single finger to be inserted without too much discomfort (it stretches a bit), but typically a second finger won't fit without tearing the hymen and causing discomfort or outright pain. That will vary from girl to girl, though. Once the hymen has been ruptured, by a penis, fingers, dildo, or whatever, then two fingers should fit and feel good, as long as the guy goes slow at first (usually a single finger first, adding a second one after a bit).

    Many younger guys can be too aggressive, rub too hard, and move way too fast before you are ready, and if you aren't wet enough or if you dry out (not turned on enough, too nervous, or whatever), and he keeps going, you can get chaffed and/or sore. YOU need to be prepared to give him feedback, and tell him "lighter touch" or "slow down some" if he's too aggressive. Every girl is a little different on this, but he can't read your mind, and he may only barely know what he's doing anyway, so don't count on him to be an expert.

    Having some store-bought, water-based lube (condom-safe and easy to clean, but it will dry out eventually and may need to be reapplied if your sessions go for a long time) is a good idea, especially if you tend not to get all that wet (some girls get REALLY wet on their own, and others not so much). As others have said, it would help if you tried masturbating and fingering yourself a bit, so you have an idea of how it works for you.

    Finally, make sure the guy knows beforehand that his nails need to be short, de-burred (loan him your emery board if necessary), and his hands and under his nails need to be FRESHLY CLEAN before fingers you. Not every guy knows or cares about that, but you can get nasty stuff inside you if he isn't clean, and sharp fingernails can cut or scrape you inside, and that will hurt!

    Done right, fingering feels amazing for most girls. If he can finger you with one or two fingers and rubs your clit with his thumb, or applies pressure to it with his palm (and he knows what he's doing), he should be sending you into orbit in no time at all.


What Guys Said 6

  • should he use lube?

    he probably doesn't need lube. at least I've never used lube when fingering a girl

    Guys do you like fingering a girl?

    I like turning girls on, so yes

    what is it like for you?

    it's like what you might imagine, or like a girl giving a hand job (I imagine). you just kind of lay there and do what you can.

  • I think your best source of info is to try it yourself first, to see what you like. Definitely use lube at least at first, and always if you're going to slide your fingers over the sensitive bits rather than just massage in place. If you don't, you'll probably have an uncomfortable time. A guy should always make sure you're slippery, because he can't feel what you're feeling and he won't know if it's uncomfortable. Always make sure you tell your partner if what they're doing hurts or if you don't like it.

    Keep in mind that actually penetrating your vagina with a finger might be uncomfortable at first because of your hymen. Be gentle and make sure anyone you let touch you does likewise.

    Guys love fingering girls. It's great to see them get more and more excited. That and we love getting to see and touch lady bits.

    Stay safe and have fun!

  • If you haven't got enough natural lube,he's doing something wrong or you're not ready for it.

  • Do I like fingering a girl? It's all about intimacy, and that's just one of the things to get past the barriers that we all keep around us. If I'm fingering my Lady and she's enjoying it, then she's open to closer intimacy. That's what it's all about, it's just one more move towards being closer, emotionally.

  • Exciting the first time, exciting today. Girls are often not wet enough at the beginning and irritation can happen. I always use dollar store lotion to start her off. I flat-hand massage her clit area until she's aroused and opens up. Then I two finger her g-spot with one hand and rub her clit area with the other. Boom!


What Girls Said 9

  • Ya it feels really good, but can get uncomfortable if the guy is too rough or tries to push his fingers in too soon.. much better if he takes his time and is more gentle :o)

  • you know you could try it by yourself right?

  • i rarely get fingered, but when I do I feels amazing and I like to see how much of his hand he can get in there(yes I've been fisted). and the only time I've ever orgasmed was from fingering. no guy has ever needed lube for me.

    • is there any special way that he does it? or is it just in a out basic stuff?

    • honestly I've never noticed technique, I concentrate so much on the feeling. but since you aren't used to it def have him go slowly, especially if he plans on inserting more than two fingers. be vocal when something is good as it will help him be more in tune with what you like.

  • I fucking hate getting fingered, that's a flat-out no and I make that clear.

    At least in my vag, up my butt I don't necessarily mind.

    • Do you like getting Thumbed?

    • If it's in my butt that's acceptable. No vag play save eating out.

  • Lube is always a good thing, it can feel good it kinda depends on if someone knows somewhat what they are doing or just start poking you, if you have open communication, being able to say what you like and aiding a little in the process.

  • I love getting fingered by my boyfriend! Where watching a movie on my couch his fingers do the walking and I do the uh! There's no time for him to use lube if he's already doing it lol.

    • what are some techniques that your boyfriend uses? anything special, I don't really know what I like or what feels good, I know everyone's different but I assume its pretty basic

    • He just goes with because he knows that's my weak spot!

  • Lube is good, especially if you're not wet enough.

    Do know how to get yourself off, that makes it a lot better because you can then tell him how to get you off, makes it more fun.

    It feels amazing when done right, I don't come with sex, it feels good, but its not enough so my boyfriend always has to finger me to finish. Just go slow and don't let him go straight for 2 fingers.

  • i like it. I've never used lube.

  • Lube lube lube always always always! no mater how wet you are it always helps.

    yes fingering feels good.