Are men intimidated by sexual women?

[AQT4SHO]

I've been seeing a guy for 7 months now. He knows that I have a liberal attitude about sex (that if a woman wants go get laid, it's her choice - I don't mean liberal in the sense that I go out and have threesomes or orgies!) The other day he asked me how many men I have been with - of course, I didn't answer, but I said "enough". He also asked how many one night stands I have had, however, I did not discuss this with him. I don't ask about his past and I don't really care - as long as he doesn't have a disease now, I'm fine w/his sexual past. Why does he care so much about mine? He has asked me a couple times if he is good in bed. Do you think it's perhaps he's mentally comparing the guys I've been with in the past?

[l-hedoniste]

Some people develop the bad habit of comparing themselves with their partner's past. They need to reassure themselves that if they're not your only sex partner, then at least they're the best of them.

This means, unfortunately, that they're willing to ignore that they may be the best partner if not the best sex partner, that even if they're 74th of 116 partners you've had, they could always improve, and that dragging past relationships into present ones always damages them.

[boi818]

I think so. I believe a man might feel a bit intimidated, because since she is an experienced or aggressive female he might feel a bit insecure about pleasing her or meeting her expectations. Not all men, would feel that way though.

[AQT4SHO]

Well, he's definitely not inexperienced, so not sure why he would care.

[boi818]

Well a man's sexual performance is important to him.. just like a woman's sexual appeal is to women... If a man is confident he's satisfying you..then ..he won't feel intimidated

[windyone]

Yes of course men don't want to be a woman who has been with many men but you never tell how many it seems like you know that already. He probably thinks you are more experienced or have been with other men and wants to hear how good he is. All men need to know their good and I feel the same way about sex its a woman's choice..

[AQT4SHO]

He has asked me a couple times if I think he's good in bed. Sigh...men and their damn egos.

[windyone]

Is he??? I mean usually when they are you kinda tell them...IN THE MOMENT LOL...I tell my man he is but I don't boost his ego too much ya know

[AQT4SHO]

I told him "you're not bad". Come on. He's in his 40's. Get over it.

[windyone]

Oh that's not good. I don't think any man wants to hear YOUR NOT BAD no matter how old he is. We all have ego if he isn't good then give him some pointers while in the middle of sex..lol

[AQT4SHO]

The problem w/him is, he's always fishing for compliments. I guess I shouldn't complain. It's better to have someone like him than a guy who's so full of himself.

[windyone]

Yes true poor guy have low self confidence in the bedroom

[Camilus]

I am not intimidated by a sexual woman. If she knows how to f*** and is uninhibited then I'm turned on if anything.