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Why is he cumming so quickly?

20 year old female, recently started dating guy of the same age. We've known each other since high school and have always liked each other. Now we're starting to date and it's better than I imagined. The first few times we had sex, it was amazing, he satisfied me in every way. During those times, it was all missionary, he'd last a good 15 to 25 mins. But sometimes, when I'm on top he'll come pretty much after 2 or 3 min of me on top. I don't know if it's me or something. He keeps saying that I "feel too good". I guess I just don't believe that I'm really all that great, figure it can't be just me or something. I just don't know what to do or why he's cumming so quickly! I'm wondering if I'm doing something wrong? Or maybe if I should just wait to be on top until I'm satisfied? I'm not saying it's a deal breaker with him or anything, but I'm wondering what I can do so I don't bring it up to him, because I can tell he gets kind of embarrassed when it happens and then he feels bad because he doesn't think I'm satisfied. Why is this happening and what can I do?
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Thanks so much! All the answers really help to put things into perspective!
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  • A couple of suggestions, presuming it's as he says which I tend to believe: 1) start very slowly. Just slip him in and stay still for awhile, both internally and externally. The start moving in very short strokes as a very slow pace. Also, try kegeling him while you're still and see what happens. Tease him and then tell him to think of something really sad to get his mind off his organ. 2) Change your motion as well. If you're going up and down, switch to rocking and vice versa. Rocking will generally give you more pleasure and maybe you too can come quickly the first time. Then, as soon as he recovers (called his refractory period), go again. I'm guessing he'll last quite a bit longer. If not, go for round three and four until you have him sufficiently drained that it takes some work for him to get off.

  • probably the position really makes him orgasm faster. just try different positions. maybe go slower or at least change pacing. if a guy orgasms too quickly it's simply a matter of being over stimulated so then you need to figure out ways to sort of "talk him off the ledge" so to speak

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  • Go for round 2. He should last longer.

  • He's probably used to missionary style but not used to the girl on top position and the change to something he's not used to is causing him to heighten his excitement quicker. I think the more you make love with you riding on top the longer he should last. See how things go over the next several times.

  • I know for me it is a similar type of situation, although I hold out longer than 2-3 minutes. Having a girl riding me allows her to drive deeper inside of me and allows her to control the pacing better. Plus, the visual stimulation of seeing you bounce on top of him could put him over the edge. I wouldn't worry too much about this.

  • I guess when you get on top the angle and there for pressure points are different this tips him over the edge. my wife is always on top. and she knows exactly when to change angle and make me cum . try more positions like doggie see how that works

  • well! this position might be stimulating his glans (penis cap) while rubbing deep your vagina (G-Spot)! This link might be helpful for you

    https://www.YouTube.com/watch?v=Q2TX2xthizs

  • Maybe he just thinks it's really hot when your on top and that's why he finishes quickly

  • So does he still last 15 to 20 minutes when he's on top in missionary? If the only problem is that he cums fast when you're on top, then it probably is as he says and that you just feel incredible in that position and he can't hold back. It could also be that you on top gives him added visual stimulation that puts him over the edge. This happens to me particularly when I'm having sex with a girl with really nice boobs. When she's on top and they're bouncing in my face I tend to bust faster than usual (but it's super intense so not all bad!).

    Hope that helps.

    • Glad that helps QA. Would you say that it's the visual of you on top that's doing it to him?

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