Why do so many virgin females have arrogant, self-righteous, borderline demeaning views on non-virgin females?

Question

It appears that there are several types of virgin females.1. Indifferent virgin. This female simply just hasn't found the right guy or the experience hasn't presented it's self to her, so she's a virgin, but it's not some huge deal to her.2. The cool virgin. This virgin has a healthy, nonjudgmental view of sex. She doesn't attach shame to the idea of sexuality and she doesn't judge those who have chosen to be more sexual than she has. These virgins tend to be very particular about who they give themselves to, however they have a very healthy, realistic view on sex. 3. The Kinky Virgin. This virgin could have worked at a brothel in a past life because despite lacking vaginal and/or anal penetration, she has collected quite a bit of knowledge and skill on sexual pleasure. She is merely fascinated with sexuality and enjoys exploring it indirectly. 4. The Self-righteous Virgin. This one is most common. There are a lot of virgin females who base their value, as a woman, off of what's between their legs. While they may not directly express this, unless angry, you can tell it is all over their internal dialogue. These virgins tend to have b*tchy, prudish, harsh, judgmental views on women who don't share their lifestyle. Unfortunately, I've experienced more of group 4 than any other type. Why is this? Why is it so hard for some virgins to understand that sex is a healthy experience given you are safe and doing it with the right person for the right reason? Sex is not some shameful, dirty thing. It is the most natural thing in the world. I'm a virgin and I cannot wait to have a happy, healthy sex life one day. I find it very foolish and ugly to base the worth of a woman on how much extra skin she has in her vagina. For the simple fact that she could be raped and then what? Women are more than their parts and the "use" of their parts.Your thoughts?

ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

A healthy view on sex is that you have to keep your desires under control, or they will rule over you. It doesn't mean if someone has slipped up once, that they're forever bad. But it does mean that someone who revels in not even trying and becomes a complete slave to increasingly kinky and deviant things is a tad degenerate and a bad influence.

Deep down, the need to save for marriage is ingrained; some choose to ignore it. I know that self-control is a very, very hard thing to maintain, especially in a world increasingly obsessed with sex that wants to make everything it does more acceptable by making it more common. The pressure to have sex is everywhere.

While I cannot justify a girl's not waiting, I seek to know what else there is to her, rather than be dismissive because of one thing. A girl who defines herself around reveling in sexual addiction, however, is self-righteous about being unrighteous. That attitude type is dangerous. A girl who said: "Yeah, it happened. I wanted to stop, but it got the best of me," I'm more sympathetic toward.

It really is about attitude, more than the act of sex itself. And some judgment and discernment IS necessary for healthy sexual views. You want to not get carried away, however. Because no one is entirely righteous.

WoodWizzard87 · Accepted Answer

Not sure, maybe psychological problems... I may be a religious person, but I sure as hell don't follow the whole no sex before marriage. Why would you deprive yourself of something biological that's been happening for millions of years compared to a religion that has only been around for a couple thousand years. Biology is nature and powerful, if the Bible tells you to wait till marriage to have sex, why should you? because its bad for you, if you do it? lol...

I have a couple of younger friends that are virgins and they don't want to wait till marriage, but they think that this imaginary "Perfect" guy is going to come along one day and have perfect sex and it will be amazing. I would love to tell them that moment will never happen, but I don't want to break their hearts.

smalls1995 · Accepted Answer

I went to a private christian school growing up and I've seen these kinds of virgins so many times. The way they judged those who were more experienced was ridiculous. Even ones that hadn't had sex and just made out with a guy. I'm a virgin myself and feel the need to wait until I find someone that I'm crazy about and one that's respectful of me. Other people's sex lives are none of my business. That's such a personal part of someone, why would I want to invade that? My friend who is still in highschool can't tell any of her friends she has had sex because of the judgment and gossip that goes along with it. The funny thing is when all of those people leave that small bubble and get in relationships they'll see what it's like and how much of an asshole they had been for the majority of their lives. I take their judgment as either ignorance or jealousy. They obviously don't know what they're missing and some girls just bloom faster than others so some virgins feel the need to make them feel inferior because they still have something that they don't have anymore. It's petty bullshit to me and it doesn't make you any better of a person.

LilyTaylor · Accepted Answer

Yuk it sounds like you are hanging out with the wrong kinds of girls! I'm a virgin and I couldn't give a fuck if someone else is a virgin, how on earth do people get their panties in a ball over something like that? I've never even experienced this view with any of my virgin friends. I think that we live in a generation that is much more accepting and open to exploring sexual stuff, including the right to be with someone before marriage.

And in regards to no sex before marriage, while I am christian I think that this is kind of bogus. I mean, back in the day people were getting married at ages as young as 12 and 13, so why are people ripping on 16 and 15 year olds these days? I think so long as you are mentally ready an age is just an age.

In my personal case, I just haven't found someone that I wish to be so intimate with. But just because I've not found someone I'd like to 'give it' to, doesn't mean no one else should be having sex.

idonnntcare · Accepted Answer

I'm virgin and I absolutely respect people's sexual experience so I can classify myself as a "cool virgin" and many of my virgin friends have the same point of view. I actually love to talk to experienced women about sex, so I can get some tips.

Don't mind narrow minded people.

I also hate when guys who had many partners before are looking for virgins for a relationship or judging non-virgins, it's so imbecilic to the point that I just can't believe how fucking retarded and silly they must be.

And to be completely honest with you, I always think girls who envy virgins or just can't stand the opinions of virgin actually regret losing their virginity which is annoying as fuck, because there's no shame about being non-virgin or virgin, it's a personal choice and sex is NATURAL.

Tractorbeam · Answer

In the case of "4",it's easy to imagine people becoming bitchy and jealous when they see other people enjoying things that their own personal prejudices will not allow them to enjoy.If it's a conscoius choice in avoiding in avoiding opportunities,whatever their reasons are for remaining virgins,they are still prejudices concerning something they know nothing about.

If they unfortunate enough to not have had the right opportunites,it could also be jealousy.

HastaLaPasta · Answer

Lol I'm so group 3. I am a virgin, most of my friends are not, I'm okay with that. I tell they stuff and they eat it up, but I don't like people to get into deep details of their sexual lives (because some should stay private). I have never meet anyone in group 4 and I might punch one if I did. Being a virgin is okay, but knowing a shit ton about sex is the best. They you can try all the kinky stuff your first time.

MissConfused93 · Answer

I think the same. Having or not having sex does not affect your worth or value.

Mariannadc · Answer

I believe sex should be after marriage, because it will be really special to experience for the first time with your one true love and not just any guy who will dump you in a month :( but everybody is different and it's a personal choice ^-^

RikkiRikkiRikki · Answer

Because they're jealous that they haven't got any good dick yet! Am I right !? *puts hand up for high five* :D

ArabianPwincess197 · Answer

not all virgins think like that

UlsterScot · Answer

Because of human nature.  Some people just need someone to look down on.  If its not that, its boobs, butt, hair, clothes...

israelisevil · Answer

normal guys prefer expirenced girls who can handle sex more 30 minutes without being sore. Guys who like virgins got small dicks and insecure. Any guy been with a girl who had double digit bodys will tell you. Girls who slut shame are unatractive or insecure there bad at fucking

Eugene · Answer

Lack of c*ck in them.

AngelLily · Answer

Most virgin female don't care if a person is virgin are not I have actually seen more non virgins bash virgins looks in the media they make them seem like lame people who can't find anyone while there's the hot girl/guy that has had sex also there is a pressure by society to have sex at a certain age and if you haven't had it by a certain age then there's got to be something wrong with you.