My boyfriend hates condoms...Should my boyfriend wear condom definitely? (In order to protect from STDs)

[Samsunlu055]

Have a good day all GAG members...Firstly, my boyfriend doesn't like wearing condom during rhe sex, actually he liked using it but he definitely hates it any more. I warn him to use condom for protection against dangerous STDs and HIV infections. He responses me as no and he offers me to take pills and day-after drug. Perhaps, would he protect against STDs if I use another contraceptives? Regardless I am afraid of AIDS and another STDs because their treatment doesn't exist yet...In that case, I want wearing condom anyway... What should I do to persuade for usage condoms? Give me some tactics and tips... Do another contraceptives protect somebody from STDs? (Out of condom)

[samhradh_leannan]

Condoms are the only way to prevent the spread of STDs during sex. You can both get STD tests to make sure you are STD free so that you won't have to worry about it as much, but it's my personal believe that on matter of principle he should be willing to wear them. I couldn't be with someone who refused. No matter how much you love someone it's still good to be safe, plus the pill and emergency birth control don't work 100%. If you want to be really careful about preventing pregnancy, it's good to use multiple forms of birth control at once anyway (as long as they are compatible forms).

Emergency birth control is intended to be used in emergencies, as the name implies. It is not meant to be used instead of the pill, and is less effective as a regular method. Plus, it can cost upwards of $50 per pill, unless your insurance covers it or you can get it for free. But no program is going to hand over a stockpile of emergency birth control for use instead of condoms. You'd be much better off just taking the pill, if you are going to let your boyfriend have his way.

[Samsunlu055]

Thabk you for your long and elaborately informations :))) In that case, do you approve usage of condom? Should all guys use it really?

[Samsunlu055]

Thank you :)

[samhradh_leannan]

*belief You're welcome! I mean, of course it depends on the situation and the individuals involved. It's not that I think nobody should ever have sex without a condom. But I think it's very important for him to respect your feelings and your choices about your own body. So if you would feel more comfortable wearing a condom, he should be willing to wear one. My advice for your particular situation is not to have sex with him unless he is willing to wear one. It's okay to want to be careful.

[Anonymous]

The condom is the only thing that protects you from STDs and STIs etc. There's no other way to protect yourself from them (unless you count not having sex as an option, which it seems like you don't).

I understand that he prefers not wearing a condom, but to be honest, he's being selfish. To me, sex is a 50/50 deal. I bring my end of the deal to the table, which is the fact that I use BC pills, as should he bring his end of the deal, which is condoms.

But if you're this worried, the both of you should get tested. That way you just might be able to have worry-free sex without a condom. And maybe your boyfriend should try out some different brands of condoms. There's so many of them out there, and I'm sure that he'll find one of the right size/texture/feel etc. He's being selfish for not even seeing it as an option. YOU shouldn't be held responsible for everything that happens during the sex that the two of you have.

[Casper286]

If he won't wear a condom when having sex with you after you ask him more than once than he clearly doesn't respect you or your body. The only birth control that protects the spread of STDs, STIs, and HIV is condoms. Tell him straight up: no glove, no love.

[Samsunlu055]

Okay you are def true yes, anyway does birth control pill really protect the spread of STDs? Amazing :)

[Casper286]

No it doesn't. Condoms is the only form of birth control that protects you and your partner from STDs, STIs, and HIV.

[Samsunlu055]

Which condom brand do you like or your favorite?

[Casper286]

I'm usually not the one buying the condoms. I usually use Trojan because they don't tear as much as the other brands do (or at least in my experience).

[Samsunlu055]

OK but Trojan brand isn't sold in my country so my boyfriend usually prefer Durex, what do you know about it? Some of people claim that Durex caused some irritations around the belly and underarm zone... Are they really true?

[Casper286]

I don't usually use Durex but I have used it before without any problems.

[daniiel112]

Yea I don't get this one at all. If you are afraid of STD's get both of you checked out. Only reasons you would be scared of getting an STD from a regular partner is if you thought he was cheating on you or he was already dirty before you starting dating. If you are both clean STD's don't just pop up like magic.

[gotc147]

Does he have an STD? If not then you have no reason to worry about getting one, unless either you or he is having sex with other people who might have STDs.

[washize]

Break up with him. Find a guy who doesn't have a problem with condoms.

[MaskedSanity]

Sorry to break this to you, but your boyfriend's a selfish asshole. If he wants to fuck without condoms, he better get himself tested before asking you to go on the pill. And you should too, it's only fair.

[Ragnarok21]

Don't be a fool, wrap his tool. Seriously, it's one of the most reliable ways to avoid unwanted pregnancy an STD's.

[Anonymous]

So you're worried your boyfriend will give you and STD like HIV?

Then don't have sex with him!

[Samsunlu055]

No, I love him so much just I am afraid...

[Opinion Owner]

I repeat--if you're afraid your Boyfriend will give you HIV. Don't. Fuck. Him. How hard is this to understand..?