My boyfriend wants a threesome all the time

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My boyfriend wants a threesome all the time. We once had a threesome with another girl but he didn't have sex with her (only me).  We are about to get married and he said that he loves me more than anything but if I don't agree to threesomes he's not gonna marry me. I don't have a problem with threesomes it's just that I think it's not fair to say that and he's hurt me a lot with it. Our relationship has been on the rocks lately because I've started to feel insecure and he's still bringing it up. I said I wanna work on the relationship and security before having threesomes to avoid jealousy. but he keeps saying that I have nothing to worry about. He is so selfish and inconsiderate. Tell me please should I be worried and question his love?

michelle3685 · Accepted Answer

You're kidding?Let him go-NOW,or you'll never regret it.I'll be perfectly honest with you,I've done multiple partner sessions on quite a few occasions,and since I'm bi,I've even done them with other girls too,but these were just sexual in nature ,without any commitments.Strictly for thrills.I would not ever recommend a threesome ,of any configuration,if any of the participants are in a serious relationship,it will always fail.Inevitably,one of the participants will become jealous,like you of the other girl,and you will forever be doubting yourself as to wether it was you or the other gifl that excited him more,or wondering which is the prettiest,or wich one made him come,you know?If you're still looking for fun and to still sow wild oats(either of you)please don't get married and simply go on about your hedonistic ways(like me!).However,once you've decided to settle down(again,either of you)and commit to each other,then threesomes have no place in your lives.God,what if he wanted this after you're married and possibly with children?Imagine the effect on them,if they learned about this someday?Let him go and grow up somewhere,just  not around you.

smilezz · Accepted Answer

Let's think about this for a minute...

He is willing to commit to you till "death do you part". Be with one woman (you) for potentially the rest of his life BUT this is all dependent on him having sex with you and another girl.

I don't know if my logic is messed up but to me, that's completely unfair and he shouldn't base something so important, that affects both your lives (like marriage) on something so trivial as a threesome.

You give him an ultimatum... marry you cause he loves you (without the threesome) or your leaving him totally. See how he likes that.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I feel bad for you.  You need self confidence.  You asked for our opinion but EVERYONE has told you their honest opinion about the guy you want to marry, which is that he is not the one for you and he doesn't love you to put you in the situation you are in but you constantly make excuses for him.  I think the two of you need marriage counseling before you say your 'I DO's'.  All the best to you.

Littletad · Accepted Answer

I'm sorry you need to leave him. He's only with you cause you benefit his lifestyle and because your willing to do something that is looked down upon by others. But it's also a testament to how faithful he really is to you. He's willing to have other women, while being incredibly selfish and naive to your own feelings.

p-guy · Accepted Answer

Ultimatums are bad, they show that he doesn't care for you. I can't believe he wants to marry you ... but only if you have a three some ... So if you call his bluff, then what, he doesn't love you anymore and goes off and finds another girl? You need to really consider dumping this a-hole

Shlei3 · Answer

I would not be happy at all if he told me that if I didn't have a threesome we wouldn't get married. I would have to look at him and say, then we need to rethink this marriage thing if you would allow a threesome get in the way of it. That is quite selfish. What are you feeling uneasy about by the way? Also, if you don't trust him and the relationship is not solid than you don't get married to this guy.

audreymarie21 · Answer

i understand you love him, so telling him to go to hell is kind of out of the question. but this situation is not fair to you. I feel like you are letting him walk all over you, and if you give in to the one demand, then that will just set the trend for your entire marriage.

Jarett · Answer

Of course your relationship is on the rocks.  This guy is a selfish jerk!  Cut your losses, dump the loser, and MOVE ON!  I promise you that you deserve better!

Happy · Answer

break! get a new better person! and love you first not sex first!

louise89 · Answer

What a jerk.

cranberygrl · Answer

That's uncool.  I don't care if you're about to get married.  He doesn't respect you.  Dump his ass.

hunglowman4you · Answer

i think he loves the idea and control over you... he is like me, me, me and not YOU! you have needs too... stand up and tell him how it is and say stop it or >>>>N E X T !<<<<<

MisterLucky · Answer

It is not his love that you should question, but his lack of consideration for your feelings and needs. He sounds selfish and controlling.

Rmwheeledd · Answer

Do you consider yourself straight? I just want my straight wife to let a woman eat her pussy. If she would perform too, that would be amazing!!! She's completely straight. Do I have a chance to convince her?