I'm a 21 year old male virgin, is that ok?

[InsomniaSucks]

I've always worried that if I have a girlfriend and she's been with someone else, she'll never enjoy sex with me because it's not special anymore. Some people say it's better to date a girl with experience, and some say just stick with other virgins. I know I'm pretty old to still be a virgin, I've only had one girlfriend and I almost lost it to her. Should I be out there trying really hard to find a girlfriend to increase my chances of being with a virgin and making it special for both of us, or is it not really a big deal and I should just relax?

[Anonymous]

You should relax. When you find the right girl who loves you (whether she is a virgin too or no), she won't care if you've been with others or not. Most people think it's silly to wait a long time to have sex, but I think it's a good thing because waiting takes a lot of self control, which is admirable in my opinion.

I'm also a virgin and 20 years old. I've had the chance to have sex (as you have) but I felt that I needed to wait until I'm a bit older. I think that people who are older and who are virgins have, in a way, more value to them.

However, I'm not saying that people who have had sex when they were a lot younger are worthless. Just wanted to make sure people don't take this the wrong way.

[ashleybeans]

You're definitely not too old to be a virgin I'd say meeting another virgin would be great for you but lol you can't just flat out ask are you a virgin and fact is most girls your age aren't if she's nice enough it won't bother her lol don't worry start getting your game on ask some girls out abd you won't be single for long just make sure to date nice girls

[maiez]

It's fine bro. Just focus on schooling, it's really not a life changer. Sex is no big deal, so dont worry about it. Just if you want, try getting a relationship - doesn't even need sex. It's just that relationships can make you feel better. Although, when I got my girlfriend, my grades dropped, and I was spending a lot of time and money on her. But now that we've been going at it for a while, my grades/confidence are going up.

[DanteSparda]

you my friend , deserve a BA :)

[Agrojag]

It's not a big deal. Relax. It's like doing anything for the first time. It seems more exciting than it probably will be and once it's gone the novelty wears off.