Why did doggy style sex hurt me?

My bf tried doggy style for the first time tonight and it really hurt. I recently lost my virginity and have no pain doing girl on top or missionary. I wonder why this position hurt and what can I do to make it hurt less?
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  • Not to be all up in ur biz but in what way did it hurt specifically? Did it feel like ur vaj was being stretched out, like too much being shoved into a little space? Or did it feel like he was poking out ur insides? One of these is just girth and length. Whichever the case may be, the doggy style position allows maximum depth and penetration of ur man's penis. Not only that but he has full control of force and rhythm. Whereas when u (the female) are on top, u have that control.
    In order for this position to work just ask Ur man to start slow and avoid pounding at ur cervix like a jackhammer! ask him not to drive so deep at first, then u can move on from there. U could also try doggy style flat on Ur belly then he can't force himself to deep bc ur bum will be bouncing him off :)
    If u r still having problems go see Ur gynecologist u might have uterus decensus (tilted uterus), or an issue with ur cervix.
    Hope u find a happy balance hun
    Luv
    Rosie

Most Helpful Guys

  • It's about the FIT, the lack of USE and the LUBE.
    Preface: some gals have to have the cervix bumped, others avoid it at all costs - too many reasons to make this detour
    FIT
    Very possible he's larger that what you provide; either get a smaller guy or train him to NOT to use it call that deep - doggy allows deeper penetration, there's lost of doggy positions to try that can mitigate this position if a favorite
    USE
    Over time, more use of your sexual parts will accommodate more & varied sex play - it takes time
    LUBE
    Of course, finding the right lube for you is a journey, condoms usually are not helpful with comfort but most of all, your motor has to be running along time in order to naturally lube up, not to mention open up so all sorts of sensations become pleasure - not pain! Train him in these preparations, make him patient.

  • What anonymous here said. He's probably hitting the cervix. Same thing happens with me and my girlfriend.

    • If u find urself in this predicament try the belly doggy style. It's doggy style just have her lie flat on her belly. This prevents u from digging too deep. Another thing that helps, and most men forget, is foreplay or even just missionary to stretch the area out.

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  • He might have been impacting your cervix.. When he enters you in doggy, have him aim high. He may feel his penis pass by the cervex beneath. When he thrusts and pulls, have him stay deep so he does not withdraw past the cerxix.

    • There's no way around the cervix, but the vaginal walls around it could be stretched then her guy could "stay away" from the hard nub of hey cervix.