Why do men act hatefully to women who have sex with them?

[Anonymous]

Can a man have casual sex & still be courteous & friendly after? Or is it inevitable that he will dislike you for having sex with him? I'm at a point in my life where I am not ready for a serious relationship, but would like to have a regular, but easy going regular "fling" with a guy that is pleasant and sexy. . But no luck., they act like they resent you for sleeping with them and are mean afterwards.(act totally differently, never call you again etc). Also do men feel that casual sex is not worth doing well?---That you can only have great sex with a woman you are in love with or that is a super model with a Ferrari? Let me know guys--- for real. PLEASE NO : "I LOVE WOMEN WHO HAVE SEX WITH ME" SMIRK, SMIRK RESPONSES.

[archer86]

What kind of retards are you associating with?!? Every time I have sex with a woman(The FEW times it happened), I want to hang on to her for keeps. Many of the men I know of are the same way. You must attract the selfish idiots who think women are just a piece of ass, the kind of men who are quite used to getting any woman they want(tall, handsome, white, rich, egotistical, etc.). I can have good sex with any woman willing I can get, providing she is willing and enthusiastic: fat chicks, hot babes, college girls, MILF's...you name it.

All you need to do is find a man who has his head on straight(believe me, they are out there if you look with eyes open) and have sex with you. I WOULD ask you, but I don't think you would be interested.

*sob*...heheh

[Asker]

All men have imperfections, everyone does. But I don't expect them to be perfect.--They might snore, burp, have scratchy feet, be possessive sometimes for no reason, whatever. A quality man, to me is, healthy (no drugs heavy drinking), has a job, can get "it" up, has some ambitions in life, is attractive. Maybe I am ugly and smell and I just don't know it-- because I've been looking for a while, and the only one who will date me is me!

[archer86]

Tell me more about yourself. Send me a pic. I'll be the judge from there ;)

[Asker]

I don't need a judge. I know there is nothing wrong with me. being single just sucks!

[boi818]

Ok. I think your generalization of guys is a bit off.. I don't know what you mean by guys being resentful of you because you have sex with them..

But I'm sure there are guys that will treat you different, but the thing is you haven't attracted that type of guy. You might just be attracting assholes.

And of course, if a girl is just hooking up with a guy right away..that could lead to some guys, losing respect for you or make them lose interest in you since they know they can just hit it and quit it.

[Asker]

Why do guys "lose respect"? Respect of what? ...Quit what? I don't want a relationship! I just want a "buddy". I have not found ANY guy that can have casual sex, and not be a jerk afterwards. WHY? Do men just hate women unless they act like sex hating ceramic dolls???? Should I just get a call boy? Because I would like someone who would return my phone call (hello let's go again!), and be as polite and friendly after sex, as before.( no I am not physically repulsive, fat, smelly, etc).

[FlyestAngel]

do it with someone you have no attraction for what's so ever then you could care less. But other then that you would usually have to be friends with someone for a bit to get a nice friends with benefits because then they get to know you and want to keep you as a friend. No matter what guys that have one night stands with a girl are most likely not gonna call back unless they have known you for a while. I may be right or wrong but its just my input

[Asker]

Interesting idea. but what's the point of sex unless its sexy and you have chemistry with the person? I mean having sex with someone you have no attraction for seems more like a tragic charity then sex.Oh well at least your doing him a favor.

[CheerPrincess08]

I Think As Long As A Guy Knows Your Intentions He Will Be Fine With Just A Casual Fling.

Not All men Lose Respect And Not All Men Want A Relationship All The Time.

I Think Most Men Would Appreciate The Honesty And Wouldn't Mind The Sex.

[pinkit3232]

Yep I agree with her because I lost my virginity to a guy and nothing in our friendship changed. He was exactly the same afterwards and hey, I was the one who approached him lol. I was honest with him and I think he appreciated it. To the girl who asked the question, be honest with your intentions to the guy BEFORE you dive into any sex so you both are on the same page for future casual sex.

[Married-in-PA]

Mademoiselle, what I believe you lack, and this will not be difficult for you to find - is a man who likes you genuinely for you.

I have been married forever... my advice, take a chance!

The secret is your best friend, and ultimately your strongest love, will always be with someone you least expect it. My wife has a great ass and also a clean heart. When I was young , I wouldn't have even understood that, but now, I worship her. Because she is a great Lady!

[Asker]

Im happy for your good fortune,but I've learned the hard way taking chances with guys leads to guys treating you like a garbage maggot. It just doesn't get any colder than the reality -- you may be one of those people who can't find any kind of mate what so ever, casual or otherwise. Men aren't interested in spending time to get to know me & they just blow me off when they decide about whatever they think is not good enough about me. (A guy broke up with me because of bad spelling!)

[l-hedoniste]

Casual sex is a skill, and like any skill, it must be taught.

When it first becomes clear that you're going to hook up, lay out the terms for the relationship: "I expect conversation with my sex." "Good manners is good sex." "I'm into sport f*cking, so you must be a sexual athlete, right?"

Some guys will say "Of course", some will say "Huh?", some will say "No." Dump the last.

[Asker]

Ha ha! "sport f***ing" Guilty as charged. The problem is - when I'm laying the ground work with potentials. They say they're cool, & lead me to believe the f- is going to come down nicely, & still be cool after and I'll be genuinely happy anticipating "my steak dinner", but when the "meal" is finished the guy is so awful about it (mean and like all of a sudden, he can't stand me.) It is painful and distracting afterwards. I couldn't hang with him again after that, so I'm back to square 1

[l-hedoniste]

I say this because I like you: there's something wrong with your taste in men. You're smart, articulate, reasonable, sexy. It isn't you; you should be able to find a good enough guy at random. Something's driving you to pick badly. I can identify--I have a taste for lunatics--but a string of bad picks should lead you to be skeptical about your picks. Enlist your friends; if they can't hook you up, at least they'll be able to tell you which of your men cast off a selfish, fishy odor.

[Asker]

You are on target. My friends never like the men I date and say they are a**holes. I just started seeing a counselor to try to resolve this issue because it is making me very unhappy, lonely and horny. Wish me luck! ---and I appreciate your compliments. It's nice to hear.

[l-hedoniste]

Use your screeners. Good luck!